Birth Parents Blog

Will My Child Know Who I Am?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 24, 2019

"I'm thinking about adopting out my baby once she's born. I want more for her than I can give her right now. I want her to have a good education and lots of opportunities in life.

If I give my baby up for adoption, can I see her as she grows up? Will my child know who I am?"

Yes! With open adoption, you're able to set expectations for contact with your child after she's placed with her adoptive parents. This means if you choose adoption, you can see your child again. Plus, you can develop a meaningful, positive relationship with your child as he or she grows up with their adoptive parents.

Lifetime Adoption encourages you to have post-adoption contact with your child. By maintaining a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents, you're helping your child develop a positive identity as an adoptee. Staying in touch with your child also helps to answer any questions they might have about their origins as they grow up.

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, open adoption visits, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

"Can I see my baby after giving her up for adoption?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 1, 2019

There are plenty of misunderstandings out there about adoption. The most common one might be this: that when a woman chooses adoption, she is “giving up.” It’s such a commonly used phrase that you may not have noticed it. Even though it's used often, "giving up a baby” for adoption misses the point. When a woman chooses adoption, she is not “giving away” her baby.

Adoption comes from a place of love. If you’re thinking about adoption, you know this. You have an enormous amount of love for your baby. You have hopes and dreams for your baby, and adoption seems like the best way to give him or her the chance to grow and thrive.

But with all the love you have, you probably don’t want to lose the link to your baby, even when you know adoption is the best choice. You might be wondering, “If I give my baby up for adoption, do I still get to see her or him?”

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, modern adoption

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular birth parent adoption blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Open Adoption, Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, prenatal drug exposure, birth mother videos, what is open adoption like?, is it too late to choose adoption?, unplanned pregnancy choices, why do women choose adoption?, pregnant in jail

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption story, adoption for my baby, National Adoption Awareness Month, birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?, how to choose an adoptive family

4 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 19, 2018

Having an open adoption doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with their adoptive parents. And building a bond with them can be an awesome experience!

Here are four tips to help get you started on the path towards a strong, positive relationship with your child's adoptive family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, open adoption questions

Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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Topics: Baby's father, birth father, what is open adoption like?, birth father rights

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, future contact

An Interview With A Birth Mother: Why I Chose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 13, 2018

Today, we're sharing one woman's story of choosing adoption for her child. We were able to chat with a birth mother, Ashley, about her experience with open adoption. She gives an honest, intelligent and thought-provoking account of what it was like for her to choose adoption for her son.

Ashley expresses the role this choice has played in the lives of everyone involved. And, she optimistically looks toward the future of the unique relationship built by open adoption.

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Topics: birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?

"What if People Ask Me If I Have Kids?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 6, 2018

Many birth mothers have found it difficult to talk about their birth child with people they don’t know. Do you feel that the person asking if you have kids is someone you’d like to share your personal feelings with?

If you are OK with going into detail about your adoption plan, that's great. If not and you find it easier just to say “No,” it doesn't mean you’re denying you have a child. Don't feel guilty about answering "no."

If you haven't found a response you’re comfortable with, here are a few suggestions. One of these might work for you when you're asked: "Do you have any children?”

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Topics: Adoption story, adoption for my baby, post-adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby

See How Open Adoption Works in Real Life

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 11, 2018

Sometimes when you're right in the middle of your adoption planning process, it's hard to see what the future might look like.

Right now, you might be trying to decide what kind of contact you want to have later on with the adoptive family and your child. Or, you might be trying to picture what life would be like for your child with the adoptive couples you've picked.

So today, Lifetime is sharing a glimpse into how modern, open adoption can look in the real world. 

Watch this video of a heartfelt note that a birth mother wrote to her daughter, and the adoptive parents she chose through Lifetime! 

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Topics: adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?