Birth Parents Blog

What It's Like to Make an Adoption Plan

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 15, 2019

It's normal to have lots of mixed feelings after you make an adoption plan for your child. Many birth parents get a feeling of satisfaction in knowing that their child is living with parents who love and provide for them. They feel empowered as birth parents because their adoption decision helped provide their child with a good life.

Some birth parents come to find that the sense of loss is deeper than they expected. It's totally normal to feel sad after the adoption is complete, or to feel reassured and relieved. Having various feelings is very common, and your feelings might get complicated for a bit.

As you think about adoption for your baby, know that you’re not alone. Many women have been where you are right now. Keep reading to see what birth mothers have said adoption was like for them!

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Topics: adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, adopt out my child, what is open adoption like?, what is adoption like?

What If I Want a Closed Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 27, 2019

Adoption can be a tough decision to make, and anyone thinking about it is bound to have lots of questions. Women considering adoption wonder how the process works, whether you can get paid for adoption, and how to choose the right adoption agency. Today, we're going to answer another question we hear:

"Is it okay if I want a closed adoption?"

Today, open adoption is the norm, and most women want some amount of contact with their child after placement. But what happens if you want to have a closed adoption? Is that possible with modern adoption?

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Topics: closed adoption, what is open adoption like?, is open adoption co-parenting?, open adoption questions

"Adoption let me give my son the BEST life possible!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2019

Birth Mother Adoption Testimony—Christina’s Story

We recently had the privilege of providing a platform for Christina to share her adoption story. She was facing a nerve-wracking situation in 2017, when she found out she was pregnant unexpectedly. Christina contacted Lifetime Adoption and made a beautiful open adoption plan with a family she chose and met ahead of time. 

Today she maintains an open adoption with the adoptive family and her son, who live in Texas. She just finished nursing school and started working at a local clinic. It's a privilege and honor for us to share Christina's story here:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Open Adoption, Adoption story, birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?, unplanned pregnancy choices, adoption testimonial, adoption testimonials

It’s Your Choice: 3 Myths That Limit a Mother’s Adoption Options

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 26, 2019

Here at Lifetime, we understand that first phone call, text, or message can be nerve wracking for women who are considering adoption for a child. When women contact us, it’s common to hear “I’m not sure yet, but I just want to know how adoption works.” As she shares more about her situation, each mother starts to find words for the questions that have been going through their minds, usually for weeks before reaching out for information.

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?, modern adoption, benefits of adoption, how to choose a family for my baby, open adoption questions, adoption hospital plan

4 Steps in the Open Adoption Process for Birth Mothers

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 19, 2019

We recently received a text from an expectant mother on our 24/7 text line that read, “I’m texting because I was curious about the process of an open adoption. What are the steps?”

When women call, text, or email to learn about open adoption, it is usually because they are pregnant and considering adoption for their babies. The steps to the open adoption process can be broken down into 4 parts:

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?, modern adoption, benefits of adoption, how to choose a family for my baby, open adoption questions, adoption hospital plan

"I chose adoption because I wanted her to have the best life possible"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 28, 2019

Hannah's Story - Choosing Adoption for My Daughter

September 2, 2017: This day changed my life forever. This was the day I found out I was pregnant.

My boyfriend took me to CVS to get a pregnancy test to be sure, but deep down we both already knew I was pregnant. There was life growing inside of me! I got so scared and tried to ignore the fact that I was pregnant at first.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption story, birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?

How to Find Out if Open Adoption is the Right Choice for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 31, 2019

Open adoption gives you many choices, like choosing the adoptive parents for your baby. You can also decide how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption happens, and how you'd like to get updates on your child.

You are able to name what you anticipate your future relationships to look like. But we understand that it can be hard to decide about future contact now, before the adoption has happened.

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself as you decide if open adoption is right for you:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, what is open adoption like?, peer counseling, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

Will My Child Know Who I Am?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 24, 2019

"I'm thinking about adopting out my baby once she's born. I want more for her than I can give her right now. I want her to have a good education and lots of opportunities in life.

If I give my baby up for adoption, can I see her as she grows up? Will my child know who I am?"

Yes! With open adoption, you're able to set expectations for contact with your child after she's placed with her adoptive parents. This means if you choose adoption, you can see your child again. Plus, you can develop a meaningful, positive relationship with your child as he or she grows up with their adoptive parents.

Lifetime Adoption encourages birth mothers to have post-adoption contact with their child. By maintaining a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents, you're helping your child develop a positive identity as an adoptee. Staying in touch with your child also helps to answer any questions they might have about their origins as they grow up.

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, open adoption visits, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

"Can I see my baby after giving her up for adoption?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 1, 2019

There are plenty of misunderstandings out there about adoption. The most common one might be this: that when a woman chooses adoption, she is “giving up.” It’s such a commonly used phrase that you may not have noticed it. Even though it's used often, "giving up a baby” for adoption misses the point. When a woman chooses adoption, she is not “giving away” her baby.

Adoption comes from a place of love. If you’re thinking about adoption, you know this. You have an enormous amount of love for your baby. You have hopes and dreams for your baby, and adoption seems like the best way to give him or her the chance to grow and thrive.

But with all the love you have, you probably don’t want to lose the link to your baby, even when you know adoption is the best choice. You might be wondering, “If I give my baby up for adoption, do I still get to see her or him?”

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, modern adoption

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular birth parent adoption blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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