Birth Parents Blog

How to Tell Your Family About an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 18, 2019

If you're a teen and have just discovered you're pregnant, you're not alone. Right now, you might feel scared, confused, or shocked. You might be thinking something like, "This can't really be happening." And you know you'll have to tell your parents.

No matter how close you are with your parents, you probably aren't sure how they'll react.

Telling your family about an unplanned pregnancy can be a really awkward conversation to have. Just the surprise alone can be enough to make parents say and do things in the heat of the moment that they probably don’t mean.

Here are some tips to have an open and honest conversation with your parents — and to figure out what to do next.

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, pregnancy pregnant decisions, 16 and Pregnant, teen pregnancy, teenage pregnancy, tell my parents i'm pregnant

"Adoption let me give my son the BEST life possible!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2019

Birth Mother Adoption Testimony—Christina’s Story

We recently had the privilege of providing a platform for Christina to share her adoption story. She was facing a nerve-wracking situation in 2017, when she found out she was pregnant unexpectedly. Christina contacted Lifetime Adoption and made a beautiful open adoption plan with a family she chose and met ahead of time. 

Today she maintains an open adoption with the adoptive family and her son, who live in Texas. She just finished nursing school and started working at a local clinic. It's a privilege and honor for us to share Christina's story here:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Open Adoption, Adoption story, birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?, unplanned pregnancy choices, adoption testimonial, adoption testimonials

Abortion or Adoption? How to Make the Choice That's Right For You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 9, 2019

"Abortion is quick and easy. A clean break. No one will even have to know I was pregnant."

Many believe that abortion is a quick fix for a pregnancy they didn't plan on. In reality, things are much more complicated. This "quick fix" can be followed by lifelong regret and grief.

Desperate for a "quick fix," women sometimes rush into an abortion decision before they've had the chance to explore all of their pregnancy options fully.

We encourage you to explore all of your options, so you can make a fully informed decision about what’s best for you. Before making this decision, it's important to consider some of the challenges of this option:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, pregnancy pregnant decisions, missed period, positive pregnancy test, abortion or adoption, unplanned pregnancy choices, abortion vs adoption

How to Find Out if He Would Be a Good Dad

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 5, 2019

Parenting is widely recognized as one of the hardest jobs in the world. It's definitely not easy to be a mom, even if you have friends and family who will help. Right now, you might be wondering about the role your baby's father will play in the future. Is he "dad material"? Would he make a good dad?

Your child's daddy will play a big role in their life, whether he's around or not. So before deciding if you'll parent or do adoption, take a good, hard look at your other half. Several signs will tell you what kind of a daddy he will be.

Here are 14 questions you can ask yourself to tell if he'll be a good dad: 

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Topics: Relationships, Adoption, unplanned pregnancy, Parenting, Baby's father, Marriage, adoption or parenting, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular birth parent adoption blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Open Adoption, Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, prenatal drug exposure, birth mother videos, what is open adoption like?, is it too late to choose adoption?, unplanned pregnancy choices, why do women choose adoption?, pregnant in jail

How to Face Thanksgiving if You Have an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you might be wondering how you'll handle your family member’s reactions at Thanksgiving. When you arrive at Thanksgiving dinner with a baby bump, how will you answer their questions?

Being with family during the holidays can be intense, and might bring up issues. Since you're facing a crisis, you might have a difficult time getting "into" all the holiday cheer around you.

Know that you're not alone. Many women have been where you're at, and have felt like you're feeling right now. So today, we're giving you some ideas and tips for you on how you might handle Thanksgiving with an unplanned pregnancy!

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Adoption for my child, Holidays, adoption for my baby, hiding my pregnancy

The Test is Positive...Now What?!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 12, 2018

You've been feeling nauseous, your period was late, and you finally went out and bought a pregnancy test.

After nervously waiting the required three minutes, you held your breath and looked at the test. You prayed and demanded that the test have just one line. Your face became flushed as you saw the two lines screaming "positive" at you.

If you're reading this, then chances are this has happened to you! You're probably feeling super-overwhelmed right now. You might be feeling guilt, shock, and resentment. You might even be wondering "now what?"

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, missed period, positive pregnancy test, morning sickness

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2017

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 29, 2017

In 2017, Lifetime's blog covered topics ranging from how to pick an adoptive family and how to know if adoption's right for you to birth mothers sharing their adoption stories. It's our goal to keep writing useful, quality content for readers like you in the new year!

Here are our top 10 posts of 2017:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Adoption for my child, older child adoption, maternity clothes, adoption for my baby, prenatal drug exposure, birth father rights, is it too late to choose adoption?, is it too late to do adoption?

7 Things No One Tells You About Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 22, 2017

Many women have stood in line holding a pregnancy test, whether it's for a friend or a "friend." It doesn’t matter who is peeing on the stick: if a pregnancy test is being bought, it's like you can feel the panic in the air.

Once you saw that positive pregnancy test, you might have felt a surge of anxiety. It's as if your stomach dropped to your feet and nothing in life makes sense. For the next few mornings, you wake up with the realization that it wasn’t a dream and you're really pregnant.

Here are 7 things that no one tells you about unplanned pregnancy, and that we want you to know:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, missed period, positive pregnancy test, unplanned pregnancy choices

"I knew adoption was the best thing I could do for my son"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 5, 2017

What’s it like to experience an unplanned pregnancy while you’re still in college? Check out Hannah’s story and how she came to decide on adoption:

"When I saw that positive pregnancy test, I knew I couldn’t make parenting work. I was a full-time college student at the time, deep in debt, and my baby’s dad”wasn’t in the picture. My son would've been in daycare full-time, only seeing me for a few minutes in the early morning and at night. I would have had to work all the time just to afford the necessities. I knew adoption was the answer for me because there are so many couples that desperately want a child, and are prepared to care for one.

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Adoption story, positive pregnancy test, place my baby up for adoption, pregnant in college