Birth Parents Blog

3 Questions That Adoptees Want to Know

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 14, 2020

The decision to make an adoption plan for your baby is not an easy one. When you choose adoption, you are making a loving decision for your baby. At the same time, you might worry about what your child will think later on.

Many adults who were adopted have questions about their birth parents. Children ask questions too, but they are often more basic. The questions evolve and may become more difficult as they grow older, but adoptees really just want to know where they come from. They want to know about their heritage and build a sense of self as they grow older.

You may be placing a baby for adoption today, but this sweet little baby will grow into an adult with the desire to connect to their history. What does this mean for you as a birth mother? It means you might want your baby's adoptive parents to have specific information about you and your family. You can prepare for these questions by giving your child's adoptive parents the answers to some common questions adoptees have when they grow older.

Today, we're sharing how you can help answer these three common questions your child might ask someday:

  • What was going through your mind at the time?
  • What is my ethnic or racial heritage?
  • What is my birth family's medical background?
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Topics: Relationships, Open Adoption, letter to my birth child, adoptee, talking to children about adoption

How to Find Out if He Would Be a Good Dad

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 5, 2019

Parenting is widely recognized as one of the hardest jobs in the world. It's definitely not easy to be a mom, even if you have friends and family who will help. Right now, you might be wondering about the role your baby's father will play in the future. Is he "dad material"? Would he make a good dad?

Your child's daddy will play a big role in their life, whether he's around or not. So before deciding if you'll parent or do adoption, take a good, hard look at your other half. Several signs will tell you what kind of a daddy he will be.

Here are 14 questions you can ask yourself to tell if he'll be a good dad: 

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Topics: Relationships, Adoption, unplanned pregnancy, Parenting, Baby's father, Marriage, adoption or parenting, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father

How To Tell If Your Baby's Father is "The One"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 19, 2017

If you're thinking about adoption, you've probably also thought about the father of your baby. Is he "dad material"? Has the thought "maybe we should just get married and try to make this work" crossed your mind? 

Start by being honest with yourself about your relationship. Marriage should come from being committed to each other, not just because you're having a baby together. Think about what kind of home life you want for your child. 

Keep reading for 12 important questions to ask yourself when you're wondering if he's "the one"!

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Topics: Relationships, Parenting, Baby's father, relationship questions, baby's dad

I'm Pregnant! Should We Get Married?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 8, 2017

Question: I just got a positive pregnancy! Being a mom wasn't something I planned on at 19! My baby's dad and I have been dating for two years now. Would it be best if we just settled down now and got married? Then, we can try and raise this kid together...

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Topics: Relationships, unplanned pregnancy, Baby's father, Marriage, relationship questions, baby's dad, missed period, positive pregnancy test

Relationship Q&A: Should I Stay with my Baby Daddy?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 27, 2014

Question: Even though I’m pregnant, I want to break up with my baby daddy because I just don’t like him anymore. What’s the best way to do it?

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Topics: Relationships, Baby's father

How to Get Over a Difficult Break-up

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 25, 2014

Before you meet your “Mr. Right”, you’ll undoubtedly go through a lot of break ups. If you were the person dumped, you might feel shocked and confused. After a break up, you may be feeling anxious to get answers as to why he dumped you. Even if there were warning signs before the break up that things weren’t going so hot, it’s easy to want to hold on to the memory of the past and how good it was. So why do we long for a relationship with someone who’s no longer available to us?

Recently, scientists have hypothesized that we become "addicted" to a desire for the past. This is why many times after a break up, you remember everything from that relationship in an optimistic light. When you think about your relationship, you only remember the times when he was kind and loving. This will keep you stuck with a broken heart; by fixating so much on the past, you won’t be able to move forward and start a new, healthy relationship.

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Topics: Relationships

Is My Baby’s Daddy Crazy?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 1, 2013

Q I met my boyfriend at a party six months ago. At first he seemed really nice and cute. Once he found out I was pregnant, he changed. I am really kind of scared! He doesn’t seem like the same guy I fell in love with.

He has pushed me, yelled at me and now I think he is sleeping with someone else. He tells me that I am just being paranoid. The closer I get to have this baby, the more nervous I feel. I am so glad we didn't move in together… Lately I have been thinking about giving the baby up for adoption and starting a new life far away from here.

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Topics: Relationships, question, pregnant

How To Decide If He’s Right for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 26, 2013

OK, so you’re ready to date again! You just met the greatest guy! He’s handsome, popular and drives a hot car! What more could a girl ask for, right? Wrong! Attraction and love are not the same thing. Life is too short to waste your time in relationships that have no future!

A marriage is not built on sexual attraction alone. A committed relationship cannot be based on a nice car. Good looks disappear eventually. BMWs get old and out of date. So what should you be looking for, you ask?

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Topics: Relationships