Birth Parents Blog

How to Find Out if Open Adoption is Right for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 31, 2019

Open adoption gives you many choices, like choosing the adoptive parents for your baby. You can also decide how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption happens, and how you'd like to get updates on your child.

You are able to name what you anticipate your future relationships to look like. But we understand that it can be hard to decide about future contact now, before the adoption has happened.

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself as you decide if open adoption is right for you:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, what is open adoption like?, peer counseling, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

Will My Child Know Who I Am?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 24, 2019

"I'm thinking about adopting out my baby once she's born. I want more for her than I can give her right now. I want her to have a good education and lots of opportunities in life.

If I give my baby up for adoption, can I see her as she grows up? Will my child know who I am?"

Yes! With open adoption, you're able to set expectations for contact with your child after she's placed with her adoptive parents. This means if you choose adoption, you can see your child again. Plus, you can develop a meaningful, positive relationship with your child as he or she grows up with their adoptive parents.

Lifetime Adoption encourages birth mothers to have post-adoption contact with their child. By maintaining a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents, you're helping your child develop a positive identity as an adoptee. Staying in touch with your child also helps to answer any questions they might have about their origins as they grow up.

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, open adoption visits, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to find a family that has adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, modern adoption, how to choose an adoptive family, contact with my baby, future contact, find a family

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, future contact