Birth Parents Blog

Adoption Q&A: How much will my child know about me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 7, 2013

A question we often get asked here at Lifetime by women considering adoption is “how much will my child know about me as they grow up?” It’s entirely up to you to decide what type of contact you want with the adoptive family and your child. In an open adoption, you and your child’s adoptive family can have some contact throughout the years. This can vary from letters and photos to visits once or twice a year. You may wish to write a letter or send photos to your child, letting them know how you made this decision out of your love for them. This letter can be given to your child when he or she is old enough to understand.

It is important that the adoptive family have access to your medical records/history for your child’s medical reference in the future. You can pass on any info about yourself and your life to your child’s adoptive parents. Your child will know that this decision was made in order to give them the best future possible.

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Topics: Adoption, children, Open Adoption, Communication, Adoption Tips

Adoption Truth

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 19, 2013

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Topics: birth mother, Adoption, children, foster care, Child Protective Services

It's Never Too Late to Choose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 26, 2013

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Topics: Adoption, children, unplanned pregnancy, pregnancy pregnant decisions

I don't think I can do this on my own!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 19, 2009

Dear Mardie,
I watched the show tonight about being a pregnant teen. I can relate. I am almost 16. My baby is 3 months old. When I found out I was pregnant, I was lucky because my family was behind me. But being pregnant was the easy part. I mean it was hard, and labor was awful, but I definitely didn't think it was going to be like this after my baby came. Taking care of my baby is really hard- my mom started help with me in the beginning, but she had to go back to work and now me and Lauren are home alone all day and I don't even have a license so I can get out and have some freedom. I have to take care of everything on my own at home. I mean I am up all night and then up early to feed her and then hardly have time for my friends or doing things I like. As soon as I start to get dressed or put my makeup on the baby starts crying. I really didn't think it would be like this. I was so excited but it is so much work. It's like I just take care of her and if I'm lucky I get some sleep. Everything is about the baby, and then people are judging me or telling me how to take care of Lauren like I'm stupid or something.

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Topics: Adoption, Pregnancy, children, unplanned pregnancy, 16 and Pregnant, MTV

Open Adoption…Foster Care’s Alternative

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 27, 2008

Since 2003 the number of children awaiting placement in the foster care system far outweighs the available homes. The situation is becoming dire in Louisiana, and is certainly becoming a concern for the country as a whole. “We don’t have enough parents to provide the types of services that our children really do need.” This statement from a recent article in The Times-Picayune addresses the immediacy of a problem facing many children and families.

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human services, in 1980, approximately 300, 000 children that had spent some time in the foster care facility. By 2001, that number had increased to nearly 800,000 with 540,000 in the system at any given time. This figure is alarming. The drastic increase appears to stem from a variety of factors including emergence of widespread homelessness, substance abuse, mental health issues, increased parental incarceration rates, and the HIV/AIDS epidemic.

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Topics: Adoption, children, foster care