Birth Parents Blog

4 Ways Your Guy Can Support Your Adoption Plan

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 12, 2019

Most people think that adoption choices only involve the woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and that the baby's father has fled the scene. But the truth is, many adoption plans are made by both birth parents. Whether they're still in a relationship or not, these two people are making the best decision they can for their baby because they're not in the position to raise a child together.

If a birth father is open to supporting the adoption plan, the whole process tends to go better. Plus, it leads to better long-term results for everyone involved, including the birth mother, birth father, and child.

Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in their child's adoption from the start. Even if he's not together with you anymore, he can take part in the adoption planning process. This might mean that he helps you pick an adoptive couple, narrowing down your top choices and then participating in the first phone call with your top pick. 

Is your baby's father okay with your decision to make an adoption plan? Here are 4 ways that he can support you right now:

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Topics: Baby's father, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

How to Find Out if He Would Be a Good Dad

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 5, 2019

Parenting is widely recognized as one of the hardest jobs in the world. It's definitely not easy to be a mom, even if you have friends and family who will help. Right now, you might be wondering about the role your baby's father will play in the future. Is he "dad material"? Would he make a good dad?

Your child's daddy will play a big role in their life, whether he's around or not. So before deciding if you'll parent or do adoption, take a good, hard look at your other half. Several signs will tell you what kind of a daddy he will be.

Here are 14 questions you can ask yourself to tell if he'll be a good dad: 

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Topics: Relationships, Adoption, unplanned pregnancy, Parenting, Baby's father, Marriage, adoption or parenting, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father

Behind the Scenes of a Birth Father’s Adoption Decision

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 18, 2019

Blaine Hall is a birth father who made the difficult decision to put his child’s needs before his own. He told us his story in hopes that it will give some insights into how other men can face this decision.

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Topics: Baby's father, adoption decision, father of my baby, birth father

The Truth About Choosing Adoption When He's Against It

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 2, 2018

Are you thinking about adoption, but your baby's father isn't down with the idea? Many times, a birth father's lack of support for adoption stems from doubt and fear. He may not understand the process and the fact that he has rights in adoption too.

Many women have told us something like, "I want to make an adoption plan, but my baby's father doesn't."  If this sounds like your life right now, you're not alone. While each woman's situation is unique, an adoption attorney can help you find out whether you can still move forward with adoption. Keep reading to learn about five common birth father scenarios that Lifetime may be able to help you with!

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Topics: Baby's father, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights, adoption plan for my baby

Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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Topics: Baby's father, birth father, what is open adoption like?, birth father rights

As a Birth Father, Do I Have a Say in the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 13, 2018

Is your girlfriend pregnant, and just told you she's going to place your baby for adoption? Or maybe you're married, struggling to make ends meet, and your wife has announced she's making an adoption plan. No matter your situation, you're probably wondering, "does the father have a say in adoption?"

The answer is a definite "yes"! Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in the adoption planning process. Keep reading to learn the choices and rights you have as a birth father with modern adoption!

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Topics: Baby's father, baby's dad, birth father, birth father rights

Adoption Truth: Birth Fathers Can Have Part in Open Adoption Too

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 7, 2017

Does your baby's father want to stay in his child's life after the adoption happens? As one guy puts it, "My girlfriend thinks adoption is best for our baby, and she's probably right, but I still want to be a part of my child's life. I don't want to act like he never happened."

Today, we're talking about how your baby's father can be a part of making an adoption plan, and why it's beneficial to get him involved.

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Topics: Adoption, Open Adoption, Baby's father, birth father, birth father rights

Can My Baby's Father Be Involved in the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 15, 2017

Question: "I'm 19 years old, and 15 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, but just aren't ready to get married and have a family now, so we decided on adoption. He'd like to help me pick the couple who adopts our baby. Is that OK?"

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Topics: Baby's father, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

"Can I Stop My Girlfriend From Putting Our Baby Up for Adoption?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 16, 2017

A guy asked us just last week: "My girlfriend is pregnant and wants to give our baby away for adoption. I’m against it. Can I fight against it or is it out of my control?"

Keep reading to find out the answer!      

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Topics: Baby's father, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

"Can I Put My Baby Up for Adoption Without the Father Knowing?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 24, 2017

Question: "I think adoption is the best choice for the situation I’m in right now. But I don’t think my baby’s father will be cool with it. Can I put my baby up for adoption without the birth father knowing?"

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Topics: Baby's father, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, baby's dad, birth father