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What If My Baby's Father Is Against Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 28, 2020

So you’ve told your baby’s father that you’re pregnant, and he seems disinterested in your situation. You tell him that you're considering adoption, and he gets upset. He is clear that he does not want to raise the baby, and he does not want to provide you with financial support. What are you supposed to do?

It feels unfair that the vast majority of the burden of pregnancy and making decisions for a growing child fall onto your shoulders. The baby’s father can essentially walk away at any time, and you could be stuck trying to make ends meet while also raising a baby. So, what should you do if the father of your child is unwilling to step up in any way? An adoption professional is the key to helping you understand your options.

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4 Ways the Birth Father Can Support Your Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 12, 2019

Most people think that adoption choices only involve the woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and that the baby's father has fled the scene. But the truth is, many adoption plans are made by both birth parents. Whether they're still in a relationship or not, these two people are making the best decision they can for their baby because they're not in the position to raise a child together.

If a birth father is open to supporting the adoption plan, the whole process tends to go better. Plus, it leads to better long-term results for everyone involved, including the birth mother, birth father, and child.

Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in their child's adoption from the start. Even if he's not together with you anymore, he can take part in the adoption planning process. This might mean that he helps you pick an adoptive couple, narrowing down your top choices and then participating in the first phone call with your top pick. 

Is your baby's birth father okay with your decision to make an adoption plan? Here are 4 ways that he can support you right now:

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How to Find Out if He Would Be a Good Dad

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 5, 2019

Parenting is widely recognized as one of the hardest jobs in the world. It's definitely not easy to be a mom, even if you have friends and family who will help. Right now, you might be wondering about the role your baby's father will play in the future. Is he "dad material"? Would he make a good dad?

Your child's daddy will play a big role in their life, whether he's around or not. So before deciding if you'll parent or do adoption, take a good, hard look at your other half. Several signs will tell you what kind of a daddy he will be.

Here are 14 questions you can ask yourself to tell if he'll be a good dad: 

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Topics: Relationships, Adoption, unplanned pregnancy, Parenting, Baby's father, Marriage, adoption or parenting, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father

Behind the Scenes of a Birth Father’s Adoption Decision

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 18, 2019

Blaine Hall is a birth father who made the difficult decision to put his child’s needs before his own. He told us his story in hopes that it will give some insights into how other men can face this decision.

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The Truth About Choosing Adoption When He's Against It

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 2, 2018

Are you thinking about adoption, but your baby's father isn't down with the idea? Many times, a birth father's lack of support for adoption stems from doubt and fear. He may not understand the process and the fact that he has rights in adoption too.

Many women have told us something like, "I want to make an adoption plan, but my baby's father doesn't."  If this sounds like your life right now, you're not alone. While each woman's situation is unique, an adoption attorney can help you find out whether you can still move forward with adoption. Keep reading to learn about five common birth father scenarios that Lifetime may be able to help you with!

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Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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What If He Says NO to the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2018

"I'm 17 and I just found out I'm pregnant! Since my boyfriend and I are still in high school, I think adoption is going to be the best choice. But he gets mad at me if I bring it up, so I don't think he'll agree to doing adoption. What can I do if he says no to the adoption?"

We get asked this type of question a lot, and this is a very common situation. So, know that you're not alone, because many women have been where you are right now. Read on to get some tips on what to do if he's totally against adoption.

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As a Birth Father, Do I Have a Say in the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 13, 2018

Is your girlfriend pregnant, and just told you she's going to place your baby for adoption? Or maybe you're married, struggling to make ends meet, and your wife has announced she's making an adoption plan. No matter your situation, you're probably wondering, "does the father have a say in adoption?"

The answer is a definite "yes"! Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in the adoption planning process. Keep reading to learn the choices and rights you have as a birth father with modern adoption!

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How to Be Honest With Your Baby's Father

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 9, 2018

Discovering that you’re pregnant when you're not ready to parent undoubtedly brings up lots of emotions. When it comes to your baby's father, you might be worried about how to tell him you're pregnant. If you're thinking about hiding the pregnancy from him and then hiding his identity during the adoption process, don't. Today, we're going to tell you why telling him you're pregnant is important.

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Topics: Baby's father, Adoption process, baby's dad, hiding my pregnancy

How To Tell If Your Baby's Father is "The One"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 19, 2017

If you're thinking about adoption, you've probably also thought about the father of your baby. Is he "dad material"? Has the thought "maybe we should just get married and try to make this work" crossed your mind? 

Start by being honest with yourself about your relationship. Marriage should come from being committed to each other, not just because you're having a baby together. Think about what kind of home life you want for your child. 

Keep reading for 12 important questions to ask yourself when you're wondering if he's "the one"!

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