Birth Parents Blog

Will My Child Know Who I Am?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 24, 2019

"I'm thinking about adopting out my baby once she's born. I want more for her than I can give her right now. I want her to have a good education and lots of opportunities in life.

If I give my baby up for adoption, can I see her as she grows up? Will my child know who I am?"

Yes! With open adoption, you're able to set expectations for contact with your child after she's placed with her adoptive parents. This means if you choose adoption, you can see your child again. Plus, you can develop a meaningful, positive relationship with your child as he or she grows up with their adoptive parents.

Lifetime Adoption encourages you to have post-adoption contact with your child. By maintaining a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents, you're helping your child develop a positive identity as an adoptee. Staying in touch with your child also helps to answer any questions they might have about their origins as they grow up.

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, open adoption visits, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

Can I Adopt Out My Baby if I'm Pregnant and Addicted?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 26, 2019

Becoming pregnant unexpectedly can be stressful. And that overwhelming feeling only increases if you're pregnant and addicted to drugs.

Even if you're pregnant and addicted to drugs, we can still help you create an adoption plan. Lifetime is not here to judge you for using drugs during pregnancy. 

If you do choose adoption, know that there’s an adoptive family out there who would love to adopt your baby, substance abuse issues or not. Whether you have used in the past or are using now, it does not affect whether or not you can make an adoption plan.

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Topics: Give up my baby, adopt out my baby, prenatal drug exposure, drug-exposed baby, adopt out my child, addiction and adoption, opioid crisis and adoption

If I Choose Adoption, Can I Name My Baby?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 29, 2019

If you're choosing adoption for your baby, naming him or her may seem a little more confusing. Are you wondering things like this?
"Once I give my baby up for adoption, can the adoptive parents change their name? "
"Do give my baby a name, or do the adoptive parents?"
"Can we name the baby together?”


Join Lifetime as we give you answer to the question on if you can name your baby up for adoption and other common adoption questions, information about naming in adoption, and more!

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, Can I choose my baby's name?, naming an adopted baby, naming in adoption

How Do I Give My Baby Up for Adoption in a Different State?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 22, 2019

As a woman thinking about adoption, we know that you want to find the perfect adoptive family for your baby. But what if the perfect family doesn't live in your state? If this is the case for you, you might be wondering:

"Can I place my baby for adoption in a different state?"
"Can an adoptive couple from another state adopt my baby?"
"I want to give my baby up for adoption outside of my state — is that possible?"

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Topics: adopt out my baby, choosing an adoptive family, interstate adoption, give my baby up for adoption, how to choose an adoptive family, adoptive family outside of my state

"Can I get money for adopting out my baby?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 8, 2019

“Can you get paid for adoption?”
“Do birth mothers get paid for adoption?”
“Can I get money for adopting out my baby?”

These are some questions about cost commonly asked by women considering adoption. The answer to all of them is “no.” Women don't get paid for making an adoption plan. It's illegal to trade a child for money.

However, you might be able to get help from the adoptive parents with the expenses during your pregnancy if it's allowable in your state. So, instead of receiving compensation for placing a child, a birth mother can receive financial assistance if her state laws allow.

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Topics: adopt out my baby, unplanned pregnancy choices, how much does adoption cost

"Can I see my baby after giving her up for adoption?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 1, 2019

There are plenty of misunderstandings out there about adoption. The most common one might be this: that when a woman chooses adoption, she is “giving up.” It’s such a commonly used phrase that you may not have noticed it. Even though it's used often, "giving up a baby” for adoption misses the point. When a woman chooses adoption, she is not “giving away” her baby.

Adoption comes from a place of love. If you’re thinking about adoption, you know this. You have an enormous amount of love for your baby. You have hopes and dreams for your baby, and adoption seems like the best way to give him or her the chance to grow and thrive.

But with all the love you have, you probably don’t want to lose the link to your baby, even when you know adoption is the best choice. You might be wondering, “If I give my baby up for adoption, do I still get to see her or him?”

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, modern adoption

"I know now that adopting out my baby was the right thing to do"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 15, 2019

Lifetime Adoption truly cares about every birth mother we help, and develop a relationship with many of them. Over the years, birth mothers have emailed us updates on how they're doing now. Many of these women want to share their stories with you, hoping that they can help someone who is struggling with the adoption decision.

Today, we're sharing Madison's adoption story. If you're thinking about adoption, you might find birth mother stories like Madison's helpful as you make your decision because they come from women like you.

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Topics: adoption stories, teen pregnancy, adopt out my baby, birth mother stories

Why Did I Choose Adoption? Out of LOVE

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 7, 2018

“I fell in love with Matt my junior year of college and was very sure we’d be together for the rest of our lives. When I realized I was pregnant, I was soo happy at first. All of the love I felt for Matt went right to my baby.

But then, reality set in. How was I going to raise a baby, attend all my classes, write papers, study for finals, and keep a part-time job? How would I pay bills and pay for everything the baby needed on a part-time paycheck?

After meeting with a counselor at a pregnancy center in our town, I came to realize that adoption was probably going to be the answer. At first, Matt was totally against the idea, but later came to accept it when he realized we weren't ready to be parents.

Even though my relationship with Matt didn’t work out, I'll always have so much love for our daughter, Sophia. She was created in a beautiful light and I truly believe God was protecting her from the start. She was an absolute joy to carry, to give birth to, and to love. My connection and love for her will always exist. When people ask me why I chose adoption, the answer is simple. Out of LOVE!"

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, modern adoption, why do women choose adoption?

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 16, 2018

Are you wondering whether adoption is the right choice for you and your baby? You might be feeling overwhelmed, scared, alone, and unsure. Let us assure you that you're not alone. While you may feel like you're the only one in the world facing an unplanned pregnancy, you're not. It's normal to feel that way.

But you're not the first or the last to walk this path. That can be comforting to hear because it means that there are resources, support, and information available to help you right now. Knowing your options and becoming well-informed can help you to feel more confident about whichever decision you make.

Today, we're giving you questions you can ask yourself to help decide if parenting or adoption is going to be the right choice for you!

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Topics: Pregnancy choices, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, unplanned pregnancy choices

The Moment I Knew I Should Adopt Out My Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 5, 2018

This guest post is by Kristina, a birth mother.

"I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. When my gyno confirmed my pregnancy, I was in shock. That day changed my life forever. I remember thinking, am I ready to be a mom? Am I ready to raise this sweet little being? As I asked myself those two questions and took a hard look at my situation, my gut instinct was that I wasn’t ready.

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Topics: Adoption story, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, birth mother stories