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Should I Be Placing My Baby Up Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 14, 2016

placing_my_baby_up_for_adoption.jpgMaking an adoption plan for your baby can be a positive and loving choice for your child’s future. Nowadays, most people are aware that when a woman who chooses adoption, she’s doing it out of love for her baby. It’s a courageous sacrifice to have to make, but with her child’s future in mind.

You might be getting pressure from your family and friends to parent; that adoption means to “give away your baby.” That’s just not true: with open adoption you are lovingly choosing your baby’s adoptive parents, and remaining in contact.

Giving birth doesn’t always mean you’re ready and capable of becoming a mom. If you end up choosing adoption, you’re giving your baby the gift of life. It might be hard to admit that you’re not ready or able to be a parent right now, and that hurts. 

It’s important that your adoption decision is based on what your life is like now, not what you wish it were. Lifetime understands that you’re going through a tough decision right now, and we’re here to support you now and in the future.

If you’re questioning yourself, ‘should I be placing my baby up for adoption,’ then ask yourself these questions:

  1. Can I provide for my baby’s financial, emotional, and physical needs right now?
  2. Will this baby make it hard for me to care for the children I already have?
  3. Do I feel ready now to be a parent for the rest of my life?
  4. Am I going to have to depend on my parents to babysit?
  5. Can I make being a single mom work?
  6. Once my baby’s born, will people be able to help me out?

Even if you know you’re making the right choice it’s totally normal to feel sad. When you create an adoption plan for your baby, know that it involves a loss and grief. What can give you peace of mind, though, is knowing your child is part of a stable, loving, and secure family. 

If you’re pregnant and considering adoption, it’s essential to get as much info as you can about every possible choice. That way, you’ll be able to make an intelligent, loving, and fully informed decision about your child. Click on the image below to our free Adoption Planning Kit. It contains a book, video, magazine, and brochures to give you more info about open adoption.

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Topics: Adoption for my child, unplanned pregnancy options, adoption for my baby