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Relationship Q&A: My BF is so negative! Will he change?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 30, 2015

sadQuestion: My boyfriend says a lot of negative stuff, even about me sometimes. Do you think this can change?

Answer: It’s good that you recognize that the problem is with him and not with you. You’re also a saint, because nobody wants to be around someone who has such a negative attitude all of the time. You could talk to him about his negativity and how it makes you feel. But ultimately, it will be up to him to decide if he wants to change.

As far as your own well-being is concerned, you need to do what’s right for you. Your boyfriend could be talking negatively about you to try to manipulate you by making you feel like you can’t do any better than him, which is a lie. Or he could just be that unhappy about life. Either way, you definitely don’t deserve to have anyone trying to make you feel bad about yourself. So, talk to him and if he doesn’t make that change, then, it’s time that you did. Life is much too short to spend it being unhappy and disrespected. So, set yourself free and enjoy the happier, much better things and people that life has to offer.

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