Birth Parents Blog

It’s Your Choice: 3 Myths That Limit a Mother’s Adoption Options

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 26, 2019

Here at Lifetime, we understand that first phone call, text, or message can be nerve wracking for women who are considering adoption for a child. When women contact us, it’s common to hear “I’m not sure yet, but I just want to know how adoption works.” As she shares more about her situation, each mother starts to find words for the questions that have been going through their minds, usually for weeks before reaching out for information.

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?, modern adoption, benefits of adoption, how to choose a family for my baby, open adoption questions, adoption hospital plan

4 Steps to Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 19, 2019

We recently received a text from an expectant mother on our 24/7 text line that read, “I’m texting because I was curious about the process of an open adoption. What are the steps?”

When women call, text, or email to learn about open adoption, it is usually because they are pregnant and considering adoption for their babies.  The steps to an open adoption can be broken down into 4 parts:

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?, modern adoption, benefits of adoption, how to choose a family for my baby, open adoption questions, adoption hospital plan

4 Ways Your Guy Can Support Your Adoption Plan

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 12, 2019

Most people think that adoption choices only involve the woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and that the baby's father has fled the scene. But the truth is, many adoption plans are made by both birth parents. Whether they're still in a relationship or not, these two people are making the best decision they can for their baby because they're not in the position to raise a child together.

If a birth father is open to supporting the adoption plan, the whole process tends to go better. Plus, it leads to better long-term results for everyone involved, including the birth mother, birth father, and child.

Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in their child's adoption from the start. Even if he's not together with you anymore, he can take part in the adoption planning process. This might mean that he helps you pick an adoptive couple, narrowing down your top choices and then participating in the first phone call with your top pick. 

Is your baby's father okay with your decision to make an adoption plan? Here are 4 ways that he can support you right now:

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Topics: Baby's father, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

How to Create a Hospital Plan That Works For You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 2, 2019

Giving birth is an emotionally and physically challenging process. So when you add adoption into the mix, things can become even more overwhelming. That’s why we encourage you to create an adoption hospital plan in advance. Keep reading to learn all about how you can make one that works for you!

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Topics: Labor preparation, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, hospital bag packing list, preparing for labor, adoption hospital plan

"I chose adoption because I wanted her to have the best life possible"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 28, 2019

Hannah's Story - Choosing Adoption for My Daughter

September 2, 2017: This day changed my life forever. This was the day I found out I was pregnant.

My boyfriend took me to CVS to get a pregnancy test to be sure, but deep down we both already knew I was pregnant. There was life growing inside of me! I got so scared and tried to ignore the fact that I was pregnant at first.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption story, birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?

Can I Give My Baby Up for Adoption at the Hospital?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 21, 2019

Choosing adoption can happen in many different ways. Some pregnant women realize right away that parenting isn't going to be possible, so they create an adoption plan when they're still early in their pregnancy. Others might need more time to think about what the right choice is.

Sometimes, the best choice is still unclear right up until labor starts. If you find yourself in this situation, you might be wondering if pregnant women can choose adoption at the hospital.

Yes, you absolutely can! It's never too late for adoption

A woman choosing adoption at the hospital happens more often than you might think. Lifetime Adoption has helped many women with this type of adoption. Even though it might happen more quickly than a typical infant adoption, there is a process for making an adoption plan for your newborn baby at the hospital.

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Topics: hospital preferences, last-minute adoption, sudden adoptions, adoption experience in the hospital, is it too late to choose adoption?, is it too late to do adoption?, hospital adoption

Our 3 Most Popular Pages (and Why!)

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 14, 2019

Are you thinking about adoption and don’t know where to start? With Lifetime, you make the choices to create a personalized adoption for your child, and we help you every step of the way. 

Right now, your mind might be spinning with tons of questions, like,
"How does adoption work?"
"
What do I get to decide about the process?"
"How do I even get started with adoption?"

Our website walks you through the steps to make an adoption plan for your baby, answering all of these questions and more. Lifetime's website has SO much information available, but all that info in one place might leave you feeling overwhelmed.

So today, we're going to share Lifetime's 3 most popular (and useful!) pages. They've been popular with many women who are figuring out if adoption is the right answer for them, just like you. Because let's face it, when you're thinking about a life decision as major as adoption, it helps to know what's been beneficial for other women in your situation.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption for my child, adoption website, adoption for my baby, adoption plan for my baby, how to choose a family for my baby

What to Ask When You Talk to Adoptive Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 7, 2019

"I think I've just found the perfect family to adopt my baby! My baby’s father likes them too.

My Adoption Coordinator has given me their phone number and set up a time for me to call them and talk. Do you have any tips on what to say? What should I ask them about?"

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, family to adopt my baby, how to choose a family for my baby, questions to ask adoptive family

How to Find Out if Open Adoption is Right for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 31, 2019

Open adoption gives you many choices, like choosing the adoptive parents for your baby. You can also decide how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption happens, and how you'd like to get updates on your child.

You are able to name what you anticipate your future relationships to look like. But we understand that it can be hard to decide about future contact now, before the adoption has happened.

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself as you decide if open adoption is right for you:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, what is open adoption like?, peer counseling, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact

Will My Child Know Who I Am?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 24, 2019

"I'm thinking about adopting out my baby once she's born. I want more for her than I can give her right now. I want her to have a good education and lots of opportunities in life.

If I give my baby up for adoption, can I see her as she grows up? Will my child know who I am?"

Yes! With open adoption, you're able to set expectations for contact with your child after she's placed with her adoptive parents. This means if you choose adoption, you can see your child again. Plus, you can develop a meaningful, positive relationship with your child as he or she grows up with their adoptive parents.

Lifetime Adoption encourages birth mothers to have post-adoption contact with their child. By maintaining a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents, you're helping your child develop a positive identity as an adoptee. Staying in touch with your child also helps to answer any questions they might have about their origins as they grow up.

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, open adoption visits, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, open adoption questions, future contact