Birth Parents Blog

"I know now that adopting out my baby was the right thing to do"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 15, 2019

Lifetime Adoption truly cares about every birth mother we help, and develop a relationship with many of them. Over the years, birth mothers have emailed us updates on how they're doing now. Many of these women want to share their stories with you, hoping that they can help someone who is struggling with the adoption decision.

Today, we're sharing Madison's adoption story. If you're thinking about adoption, you might find birth mother stories like Madison's helpful as you make your decision because they come from women like you.

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Topics: adoption stories, teen pregnancy, adopt out my baby, birth mother stories

"Can I spend time with my baby at the hospital?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 8, 2019

Question: "I'm 35 weeks pregnant so I've started to make my birth plan, and I've toured the hospital I'll deliver at. After I give birth, I'm adopting out my baby. It's been a real tough decision to make, but I know it's what's best for her. Can I spend time with my baby at the hospital?"

Answer: You have the right to spend as much time as you wish with your baby in the hospital after you give birth. You'll have lots of options for your adoption hospital experience. For example, if you want your hospital stay to be a special one that includes just you and your baby, that can be arranged. Or, you might like to spend time together with your baby and the adoptive family. It’s up to you and what you feel comfortable with.

It's common for women choosing adoption to worry about how things will go down at the hospital. The more you can prepare and plan ahead, the more confident you will feel. That's why at Lifetime we encourage you to create what's called an "adoption hospital plan."

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Topics: Open Adoption, Labor preparation, hospital preferences, adopting out my baby, adoption experience in the hospital, preparing for labor

"Why Should I Choose a Lifetime Adoptive Family?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 1, 2019

If you're thinking about adoption for your baby, it's probably because you want to give him or her the best life possible. So right now, you might be wondering, "How will I find the perfect family for my baby?" or even "Why should I choose a Lifetime adoptive family?"

We understand that searching for adoptive parents who match the vision you have for your child's life can feel overwhelming.

Today, we're sharing 11 reasons why it's beneficial to consider a Lifetime adoptive family for your baby!

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Topics: Adoption for my child, adoptive family for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, how to choose a family for my baby, find a family

How Long Do I Have to Change My Mind About Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 25, 2019

Making an adoption plan for your baby is a big decision and one that might make you feel uncertain. Many women thinking about adoption worry that they might regret their decision later on, and wonder, "What if I change my mind? Can I give my baby up for adoption and get her back later?"

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Topics: Pregnancy choices, adoption decision, unplanned pregnancy choices, why do women choose adoption?, how long do I have to change my mind?

Behind the Scenes of a Birth Father’s Adoption Decision

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 18, 2019

Blaine Hall is a birth father who made the difficult decision to put his child’s needs before his own. He told us his story in hopes that it will give some insights into how other men can face this decision.

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Topics: Baby's father, adoption decision, father of my baby, birth father

5 Ways to Get Through Your First Year After Placing

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 11, 2019

It’s one thing to make an adoption plan for your baby, but a completely different thing to deal with your feelings after the adoption is done.

The range of emotions you might feel after placement is normal. You’ll probably face a roller coaster of emotions, ranging from guilt to relief during and after the adoption process.

One minute you might feel like you did the best thing for your baby and the next you feel lonely and lost.

These five tips can help you cope after adoption placement, no matter how you may be feeling:

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Topics: adoption counseling, post-placement, peer counseling

Financially Stable Californians Excited to Be First-Time Parents Through Adoption!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 4, 2019

Meet Brian and Jennifer, a fun-loving California couple who are excited to become first-time parents through adopting! They've taped this cute adoption video to share about their hope of starting their family by adopting! Brian and Jennifer enjoy hosting family BBQs, taking trips, going on walks in the evenings, swimming in their pool, and attending church Saturday nights with friends.

Brian works as an electrical engineer, and Jennifer is a substitute teacher with plans to become a stay-at-home mom when they adopt! Their California home is located near parks, wonderful schools, and friendly families with young children. Brian and Jennifer’s house has a fenced-in pool, and they plan to decorate their spare bedroom as the nursery.

Here's more about Brian and Jennifer, a hopeful adoptive couple living in California:

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Topics: Adoptive couple video, Adoptive couple's video, adoption video,, adoptive family video, California adoptive couple, california adoptive couple for my baby, adoptive family from California, adoptive family from the West coast

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular birth parent adoption blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Open Adoption, Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, prenatal drug exposure, birth mother videos, what is open adoption like?, is it too late to choose adoption?, unplanned pregnancy choices, why do women choose adoption?, pregnant in jail

Tackling the Holidays as a Birth Mom: Grappling Through Grief and Loss

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 18, 2018

Adrian C. Collins is both a birth mom and an adoptive mom, and she writes and speaks about the complexities of adoption. In today's guest post, Adrian shares real-life tips on getting through grief during the holidays, as a birth mom.

Our family is a huge fan of the CBS television show, The Amazing Race, where teams embark on a trek around the world to compete for a one million dollar prize. At every destination, each team must compete in a series of challenges, and only when the tasks are completed will they learn of their next destination.

In one challenge, partners were asked to play a round of volleyball against professional players in Estonia and only had to score five points to complete the challenge before finishing that leg of the race. Some assumed the challenge to be a breeze. What teams didn’t realize, was that they were playing volleyball in mud. The mud was so deep it rose to players’ waistline and so thick it caused participants to become stuck. As the opponents balls whizzed past, contestants could only stand in one place. They became entrenched by circumstances. 

As a birth mom, I’ve often felt wedged by grief and loss during the holiday season. A million little things are whizzing by—and I’m grasping for joy, peace and love—but instead I feel anchored by loss. Unable to move. Unable to catch my breath. Unable to celebrate.

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Topics: Holidays, life after adoption, post-adoption, postadoption depression, why do women choose adoption?, contact with my baby, adoption and loss, adoption grief

How to Choose the Perfect Adoptive Parents for Your Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 14, 2018

Choosing an adoptive family for your baby can feel overwhelming. As you look at our website, you'll see lots of wonderful couples who are hoping to adopt. So how do you pick the perfect adoptive parents for your baby?

Here are 4 tips that will help you in your decision-making process of choosing adoptive parents:

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