Birth Parents Blog

Maternity Leave if Choosing Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 10, 2015

This post is a follow-up to last Friday's post that shared tips about working during your third trimester. Here's a question we get asked about maternity leave:

Question: "How long should I take off from work after I have my baby, since I'm choosing adoption for her at birth?"

Answer: The amount of time you take off from work depends on a lot of things...your doctor's order, your health, the type of delivery you had, and your employer.

You'll want to talk with your doctor to get their recommendations about when it's OK for you to be actively working. Also, think about your health. Since you won't have a baby waking you up at all hours, you may find you recover a little quicker than if you were raising a newborn.

Your employer's policy on maternity leave will also affect how much time you can take, so talk to your HR department. The FMLA (Family and Medical Leave Act) allows you to take up to 12 weeks of leave from your job, but that leave is unpaid. So you'll want to consider if it'll work for you to not have a paycheck for three months.

Finally, the amount of time off will depend on the type of delivery you did. A c-section is a major abdominal surgery, so you'll need more recovery time.

Remember, every woman is different. Going back to work may be a helpful part of how you heal after adoption. If you need to talk, call your adoption coordinator at 1-800-923-6784. They can connect you with professional or peer counseling. Peer counseling means that you could speak with a women who's chosen adoption for her child too. She can share with you what she did work-wise after giving birth. If you feel like you're not quite ready to talk just yet, you can also hear from birth mothers by watching their adoption stories; just click below:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption for my baby, pregnancy tips, maternity leave