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"I'm Not Sad About Choosing Adoption"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 20, 2017

not sad I'm choosing adoption for my babyThis is one of the most stressful times in my life, but finally, I actually feel alright about what’s happening. My friends keep talking to me like I’m hiding my feelings, like I should be really depressed or something. But I don’t feel sad about this! I never thought I would go through this, but I’m actually relieved to have a plan and there’s a part of me that’s excited about choosing adoption and giving this amazing couple, and my baby, a chance that may not have happened without this. Am I missing something? Are my friends right to worry?

Adoption is one of the most important and personal decisions you’ll ever make. You’re not only taking into account the life you want for your child, but you’re also thinking about your own future. No one can say that you’re not taking this seriously! If your friends or family don’t yet understand your reasons for choosing adoption, or the feelings you’re having, give them time. You’ve probably been processing this longer than they have.

It’s normal to have mixed emotions as you go through the process of creating an adoption plan for your baby. Many women feel relief, like you described. It’s an amazing feeling to have a positive plan of action and to know you’re doing what you feel is best for you and your child. You may even have feelings of happiness as you think about the joy you’re giving the adoptive family you’ve chosen for your baby. Just know though, that it’s also alright to feel the hard stuff too.

It helps to talk about your feelings. Remember Lifetime is always here for you; call anytime, even if it’s just to talk when your friends don’t seem to understand you choosing adoption for your child.

You can speak with a licensed counselor or another woman who has chosen adoption for her baby too. You’re not alone: 1-800-923-6784.

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Topics: adoption plan, adoption for my baby