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I Got Pregnant by Date Rape and Chose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 9, 2016

ashamed girl.jpg "I got pregnant when I was 17 through date rape by a guy I barely knew. At the time, I didn’t know that what he’d done was actually criminal sexual assault and against the law. I was ashamed to be pregnant and didn’t tell anyone I was raped. I was raised in a very strict, religious household. My mom and dad were so disappointed in me. Pretty soon after I found out I was pregnant, they kicked me out of the house for good. To put it plainly, I was pregnant, homeless, jobless, poor, and alone.

Everyone I knew was telling me and pressuring me to go get an abortion. They said stuff like, “You know what you need to do.” Some people even offered me money to “get rid of it.” There were times when I felt like I was drowning in darkness. I had absolutely no support.

Then one day I saw a billboard about choosing adoption for an unplanned pregnancy. I’d never thought about adoption before. So I decided I’d just get info and called the number I saw on the billboard.

Even though I was young, homeless, and alone, I still had it in my power to give my unborn baby girl the life I wanted to give her. That life included two loving parents, who were financially stable enough for the wife to be a stay-at-home mom. My Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime was such a good listener and so kind to me. She gave me info on my choices and rights in open adoption. She also sent me profile booklets of couples hoping to adopt.

Becoming pregnant by rape was one of the hardest events in my life, but creating an adoption plan for my daughter gave me a thread of hope and I began to heal. After I gave birth to my sweet baby girl with brown eyes and dark hair, I knew she was a sacred gift to be loved and cherished. My daughter has touched many lives, including my own. She’s five years old now, and I keep in touch with her and the adoptive couple I chose through emails, Facebook, and yearly visits. I am so grateful I chose adoption for her; I have no regrets."

If you find yourself in a similar situation and are thinking about adoption, contact us at Lifetime. You can talk with a caring Adoption Coordinator about how adoption works, and get more info. Just call or text Lifetime Adoption anytime at 
1-800-923-6784.

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Topics: date rape, unplanned pregnancy, adoption for my baby, adopting out my baby