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"I Chose Adoption Because My Daughter is the Most Important Thing in the World to Me"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 11, 2017

i chose adoption.jpgEmily's Story

"After I saw that tiny "plus" sign on the pregnancy test, I was so clueless what I'd do. I was panicking. My boyfriend said he'd pay to "get it taken care of"...meaning have an abortion. My sister Ashley said, "If it were me, I'd give my baby up for adoption." Like she could imagine what I was going through!

I was super scared, and I thought my only choice was to keep my daughter and make it work. My mom told me that she had me when she was just 18, and I turned out just fine. So, I kept thinking that if she could do it, I could too. I really never even considered an abortion.

I did think about adoption, but I felt like I would be giving up if I just gave my baby away. I was always feeling like a failure but thought if I tried hard enough I could be a good mom.

So I had my baby. My boyfriend avoided us at all costs, but I was prepared for that, and I did the best I could. My mom and sister helped me out where they could. But as the days passed, I realized that I was not giving my little girl the best home. I was going to high school all day, then right to work, and finally working on homework until 1 or 2. I felt like I was doing the best I could. Then one night as I was leaving my job at the mall, I saw a sweet young family.

The mom and dad were holding hands with their daughter in between them. She was counting “1, 2, 3” and then the parents were lifting her up in the air as she squealed with delight. Suddenly I realized that there was a family out there who could provide that kind of home for my daughter. A loving home with two parents and no worries about money.

I realized that I didn't do adoption originally because I didn't want to explain it to everyone. I wasn’t thinking about what was best for me or for my baby; I was just worried about what others might think. I checked into adoption because I knew that my daughter was the most important thing in the world. She should have the chance at the life I dreamt for her. Someone told me about open adoption and that I could know how she was doing throughout her life.

I picked a really cool couple to adopt her. They post pictures and updates of her on Facebook and Instagram regularly for me to see. Now if someone asks why I chose adoption, I just answer, “Because my daughter is the most important thing in the world to me. And she deserves to have the best parents in the world.” My choice was the right one for me and for her!"

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