Making an adoption plan for your child is an emotional experience, and the stages of grief are experienced differently amongst birth mothers. It’s totally normal for you to feel sad and wonder if you're doing the right thing. Your feelings are normal and shouldn’t be dismissed.
It may help you to talk to someone. Lifetime can connect you with a third-party licensed counselor. Or, you might choose to speak with a woman who has placed her child for adoption.
It’s important to use this free counseling, to help process your grief in a healthy way. The birth mothers' support counselor is there to help you deal with grief, stress, and any other emotions that come up as you create an adoption plan for your baby.
The grieving process isn't fun and it isn't pretty. Working through these emotions now is the only way to move past them in a healthy way. Ignoring your grief will only create more negative feelings and prevent you from living a productive life.
It's important to realize is that you’re not alone in the experience of making an adoption plan. Millions of other women are trying to process similar feelings and seek other birth mothers' support. As one woman who made an adoption plan through Lifetime last year puts it, "I knew that I was doing the right thing by adopting out my baby. But that doesn't mean it was easy. I would lay awake sobbing some nights when I felt her kick my belly, knowing that I'd be placing her..."
You can speak to a birth mothers' support counselor and a licensed adoption counselor both before and after your baby’s birth. Getting counseling may make you feel more confident with your adoption decision.