Discovering that you’re pregnant when you're not ready to parent undoubtedly brings up lots of emotions. When it comes to your baby's father, you might be worried about how to tell him you're pregnant. If you're thinking about hiding the pregnancy from him and then hiding his identity during the adoption process, don't. Today, we're going to tell you why telling him you're pregnant is important.
It's important to be honest with your baby's father when you’re making an adoption plan. But if you're not able to talk to him, Lifetime can handle it for you.
Everyone's situation is different. Sometimes women worry that they won't be able to choose adoption because of their baby's father. Lifetime can help you no matter your situation. We can help if:
- You don't know who your baby’s father is
- Your baby’s father is in jail
- You're not sure what his name is or where he lives
- Your baby’s father won't cooperate with the adoption
- You're married, but your husband isn't the baby’s father
At this point, you might be wondering how you'll tell him you're pregnant. Wouldn't it be easier if you just kept him in the dark? Here are 4 reasons why it's best to be up-front with your baby's father:
1. Gives Your Child Medical Info
The more info that’s available for your child’s family history, the better. Your child will need his or her medical information throughout their lives. (Just think of how many times you're asked about your family history at the doctor!) When you're honest with your baby's father about your adoption plans, he can share his family medical history, making your child's medical information complete.
2. Makes the Adoption Possible
While it's hard to tell him that you're pregnant and have decided on adoption, it's better than what would happen if he learns of his child in the future. It's best to be honest and upfront with him now.
If you’re uncomfortable telling him you're pregnant, we can help you. We can help you find the words, or we can notify him of your pregnancy and adoption plans entirely.
Some women bring their baby's father into the adoption process and work together to pick an adoptive family. You can learn more about this option in our post, Adoption Truth: Birth Fathers Can Have Part in Open Adoption Too.
3. Allows Your Child to Know Their Birth Father
Often, adopted children have questions as they grow up. They might ask about their birth parents, who they are, and why they chose adoption. By identifying your baby's father, you’re giving your child this important info they'll be asking about in the future.
4. Respects His Rights
When you share your baby's father’s identity, you're making sure his rights are recognized during the adoption. This will help your adoption plan move more smoothly. You can learn about his rights here: Birth Fathers’ Adoption Legal Rights.
As you can see, being honest with your baby's father will help to simplify and ease the adoption process. If you're not comfortable with telling him of your pregnancy and adoption plans, Lifetime can help.