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How to Survive Mother's Day When You've Chosen Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 10, 2019

Birth mother in an open adoption visit with her daughterOn Mother’s Day, we honor the endless love that mothers have and recognize the sacrifices that they make for their children. For adoptive couples, Mother’s Day couldn't be celebrated without also recognizing their child's birth mother, who made the greatest sacrifice of all.

By choosing adoption, birth mothers not only gave their children life but also gave them a future full of opportunities through adoption. Through a birth mother's choice, many adoptive couples have had the opportunity to become parents.

That's why every year, the Saturday before Mother’s Day is celebrated nationally as Birth Mother’s Day. On this day, many adoptive parents will honor the women who helped make their families possible. Even though families in open adoptions honor this special holiday, this might be the first time you've ever heard of it. 

Our Blessing for You This Birth Mother's Day

Lifetime Adoption's prayer for all birth mothers is that you find comfort and peace-of-heart this weekend. You are truly precious and so loved! From where we stand, we know how many adoptive families count a birth mother in their blessings. There are no perfect words to lift up the brave and beautiful women who lovingly choose adoption for a child, but we recognize you today.

After all, for many mothers, there’d be no "Mother’s Day" without a Birth Mother’s Day! Know that we're praying special blessings for you this Birth Mother’s Day.

Woman sitting outside, thinkingMother's Day Can Be Hard

We understand that adoption isn't a simple decision. It's a sacrifice that requires your strength, courage, and most importantly, love. Many women who are thinking about adoption for a child have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day. We want you to know, whatever you feel we are here to listen or talk if you need us to.

One of the best things you are already doing for your child is making a plan. Whether your plan is adoption or to parent, your thoughtfulness is already noticed. I know there is a lot to think about; asking questions and finding out what options you have is the best way to make the right plan for you and your baby.

How to Survive Mother's Day

If this is your first Mother’s Day since choosing adoption as a birth mother, you may be facing a variety of emotions. "It's coming up on a year since I became a birth mother and I think about her every day. Sometimes I cry. Other times I think of how blessed I am to have found Lifetime and ultimate her new parents," says Ashlee, a Lifetime birth mother.

Helpful resources if you're having a hard time right now:

5 Ways to Get Through Your First Year After Placing 

Tackling the Holidays as a Birth Mom: Grappling Through Grief and Loss

"What if People Ask Me If I Have Kids?"

How Do I Explain My Baby's Adoption To My Other Children?

How to Find the Right Support Group for You

If you need someone to talk to, you can always call
Lifetime Adoption toll-free at 1-800-923-6784.

Birth mothers are precious and loved!

Topics: Birthmother's Day, Birth Mother's Day, Mother's Day, Motherhood, National Birth Mother's Day