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Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 16, 2014

If you’ve just been surprised by an unplanned pregnancy, you have an important choice to make. You’re not alone in an unplanned pregnancy: stats show that about 50% of U.S. women experience an unplanned pregnancy at some time in their lives.

When you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, and aren’t able to parent but don’t want to have an abortion either, you can give birth and create an adoption plan for your child. Adoption is an enduring agreement in which you choose to place your child with another family.

Women who have chosen adoption share that they made that choice because they care about their child, themselves, and their families (or future families.) Here are some common reasons a woman chooses adoption:

  • Not ready at this time in her life to be a parent.
  • Doesn’t have enough money to raise a child.
  • She’s in work or school and would not have the time or resources to raising a child.
  • Doesn't want to be a single parent.
  • Not old enough to raise a child.
  • She knows that adoption will allow her child to be well-cared for financially and emotionally.

Everyone’s life differs, and so only you can decide what is best for you. It’s helpful to make a list of the advantages and disadvantages when you're trying to decide if adoption is the right choice for you. Consider what aspects in life you’d most like to provide for your child, as well as how you feel about adoption. What do you desire for your life and for your family? Here are some questions you might ask yourself to decide whether adoption is right for you:

  • Am I prepared right now, emotionally and financially, to be a parent?
  • If I had a child right now, how would that affect my future?
  • Can I accept not being my child's main parent?
  • Do I feel like adoption is right for me?
  • Is anyone demanding that I do adoption?
  • Am I ready to go through pregnancy and childbirth?
  • Are there people in my life who will support me through my pregnancy and adoption plan?
  • What are my views on about other women who choose to make an adoption plan?
  • Is what other people think about my choice important is it to me?

Consider what your answers to these questions represent to you. You might talk about your answers with your partner, someone in your family, a friend, or a counselor. If you’re ready to learn more about adoption, call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.

Topics: Adoption choices