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"Dear Abby" Question About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 7, 2013

Here’s a recent "Dear Abby" about adoption:

Dear Abby: You recently printed a letter from "Marylou in Houston" about the pain of placing a child for adoption. When I went through this experience, I wrote a poem. You have my permission to print it if you think it will help others to understand the roller-coaster emotions a birth mother goes through making this decision.

Dear Lisa: I certainly do think it will help.


I set you free on the wings of a prayer
To fly through life in His tender care,

You're free from the nest and the ties that are bound
Free from the pressures I carry around.

If I kept you I'd only be cutting your wings,
Not offering the chance a true family brings.

The decision I've made has my heart torn in two,
But I know what I'm doing is the best thing for you.

The sky is so vast, the mountains so high
Take wing and remember: I love you.

--LISA BOTE-PHILLIPS, a birth mother

If you would like to talk to woman who has placed her child for adoption, Lifetime Adoption has peer counselors available.
Please give us a call to arrange a peer counseling conversation with a birth mother: 1-800-923-6784.

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