In open adoption, there are three main choices that you're able to decide on: to keep contact after placement, to choose the adoptive family, and to decide how things will go during your hospital stay.
Today, we are sharing more info about these three choices in open adoption!
In open adoption, you have the right to:
1. Decide on How Much Future Contact
There are a range of relationships you can have with an adoptive family. Some women want a totally open adoption, where they get updates on their child through emails, photos, and also in-person visits. Others choose to get updates on social media sites such as Facebook.
You're able to decide what type of contact, if any, you would like to have with the adoptive couple and with your child. The amount of contact you'll have with your child and the adoptive family is up to you!
2. Choose the Adoptive Family for Your Baby
Most of the women we assist in making an adoption plan enjoy the experience of learning about and then picking their child's adoptive family. If you'd rather an Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime pick a family for you, that's fine too.
Lifetime will send you profiles about adoptive families so that you can learn about their interests, careers, parenting styles, and how excited they are to become parents. We'll mail the profiles in a plain, unmarked envelope so that no will know you're considering adoption (just in case you're keeping it under wraps for now). You can also take a look at our hopeful adoptive family websites to learn more right now.
You may find that after seeing an adoptive family profile and learning that they have similar interests or values to yours, that something just "clicks;" it's like a connection is formed. Lifetime suggests you pick your top three adoptive families and have phone conversations with them. As you talk, you'll be able to get to know the family better and let them know your adoption wishes. You can ask any questions, thoughts or concerns you might have. If you're not sure what to say, your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime can help out. She could even join in on the call if you're feeling super nervous.
3. Determine Your Hospital Stay
You have the right to choose how things go during your hospital stay for delivery. Some questions to think about are:
- Who do I want to be at the hospital with me when I deliver?
- Do I want my baby in the room with me, or should he/she stay in the nursery with the adoptive parents?
- How much should the adoptive parents take part in the birth? (they can be waiting outside the delivery room, or maybe you want the adoptive mother with you)
- Once I leave the hospital, would it be best to leave before or after my baby?
- Will I want the newborn pictures that the hospital will take?