Birth Parents Blog

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 16, 2018

Are you wondering whether adoption is the right choice for you and your baby? You might be feeling overwhelmed, scared, alone, and unsure. Let us assure you that you're not alone. While you may feel like you're the only one in the world facing an unplanned pregnancy, you're not. It's normal to feel that way.

But you're not the first or the last to walk this path. That can be comforting to hear because it means that there are resources, support, and information available to help you right now. Knowing your options and becoming well-informed can help you to feel more confident about whichever decision you make.

Today, we're giving you questions you can ask yourself to help decide if parenting or adoption is going to be the right choice for you!

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy choices, Pregnancy choices, adopt out my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, adoption for my baby

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: adoption for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, Adoption story, birth mother stories

The Truth About Choosing Adoption When He's Against It

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 2, 2018

Are you thinking about adoption, but your baby's father isn't down with the idea? Many times, a birth father's lack of support for adoption stems from doubt and fear. He may not understand the process and the fact that he has rights in adoption too.

Many women have told us something like, "I want to make an adoption plan, but my baby's father doesn't."  If this sounds like your life right now, you're not alone. While each woman's situation is unique, an adoption attorney can help you find out whether you can still move forward with adoption. Keep reading to learn about five common birth father scenarios that Lifetime may be able to help you with!

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Topics: birth father rights, birth father, adoption plan for my baby, father of my baby, Baby's father

Adventurous Family of 4 Hope to Expand Their Family by Adopting!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 26, 2018

Meet Jeremy and Adela, a loving Christian couple who live in Oregon! They've taped this cute adoption video to share about their hope of expanding their family by adopting!

Jeremy and Adela have two sons, and they're hoping to adopt a baby girl of any race. They have experience with adoption, having adopted their younger son as a newborn. 

Here's more about Jeremy and Adela, a hopeful adoptive couple living in Oregon:

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Topics: adoption video,, Adoptive couple video, Adoptive couple's video, adoptive family video, adoptive family from the West coast, Oregon adoptive couple, Oregon adoptive family

4 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 19, 2018

Having an open adoption doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with their adoptive parents. And building a bond with them can be an awesome experience!

Here are four tips to help get you started on the path towards a strong, positive relationship with your child's adoptive family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption questions, what is open adoption like?

The Top 5 Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 12, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and thinking about open adoption for your baby, you’re probably wrestling with a lot of questions. One that might come up, again and again, is simply, "why?" Why choose open adoption? What are the reasons why women choose adoption for their child?

The truth is, there aren’t any simple answers. At the end of the day, making an adoption plan is a personal choice that every woman needs to make on her own.

Birth mothers today decide on adoption out of love. They choose open adoption because they’re putting their child’s interests before their own. Today, we're exploring 5 common reasons why pregnant women turn to adoption:

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Topics: why do women choose adoption?, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, open adoption questions, Open Adoption

The Moment I Knew I Should Adopt Out My Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 5, 2018

This guest post is by Kristina, a birth mother.

"I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. When my gyno confirmed my pregnancy, I was in shock. That day changed my life forever. I remember thinking, am I ready to be a mom? Am I ready to raise this sweet little being? As I asked myself those two questions and took a hard look at my situation, my gut instinct was that I wasn’t ready.

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Topics: adopt out my baby, birth mother stories, Adoption story, adoption for my baby

5 Important Questions to Ask Yourself About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 28, 2018

If you're thinking about adoption for your baby, you might be feeling all sorts of conflicting emotions ranging from anxiety to hope. Even if you know deep down that you’re making the right decision for you and your baby, you might still struggle with doubts over whether you’re doing the right thing.

The good news is that there's tons of information on the Internet about adoption, so you don’t have to make your decision alone. It's important to begin your research now so that you can get as much info as possible. That way, you'll be able to make an informed decision about adoption. But you’ll also need to have a conversation with yourself. Here are 5 important questions to ask yourself about adoption:

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Topics: thinking about adoption, adopt out my child, adopt out my baby, is adoption right for me

Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Baby's father, birth father, birth father rights

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to choose a couple who have adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: find a family, how to choose an adoptive family, Open Adoption, contact with my baby, future contact, modern adoption