Birth Parents Blog

Lifetime's Peer Support: Connect With an Actual Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 6, 2019

If you're thinking about adoption for your baby, chances are you're probably feeling confused, uncertain, worried, or sad. You might be anxious about whether you're making the right choice, or confused about how the whole adoption process goes down.

It can help to talk with a woman who's been where you're at right now. Lifetime's Peer Support Program was designed specifically to connect with a birth mother who has been through it all before!

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Topics: adoption counseling, thinking about adoption, choosing adoption for my baby, talking to birth mothers, peer counseling, peer support

"When Am I Due?" How to Use a Pregnancy Wheel to Find Out

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 30, 2019

Are looking for a simple and inexpensive way to find out when you're due? Try a pregnancy wheel, a quick and easy way to find out your due date! A pregnancy wheel is perfect for women who want to calculate and follow along with their pregnancy. It's a small, circular calendar that uses your last menstrual period (LMP) to help determine your due date.

They're also known as a gestation calculator, conception date calculator, pregnancy date calculator, due date calculator, pregnancy calculator, or pregnancy wheel calculator. These high-quality, easy-to-read vinyl pregnancy wheels will estimate your approximate due date in the privacy of your home. It can be easily carried in your purse or pocket.  

Besides talking about these handy wheels, today we're going to share some useful tips about how to find quality prenatal care for you and your growing baby. Because doctor's appointments are important for both you and your baby's health!

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Topics: Healthy pregnancy, pregnancy week-by-week, prenatal appointments, pregnancy health, prenatal development, prenatal care, when am I due?, pregnancy wheel, due date

Can My Parents Make Me Get an Abortion?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 23, 2019

"I'm 15 and just found out that I'm pregnant. I'm not sure if I'm ready to be a mom, but I don't think I could go through with getting an abortion, either. My boyfriend and my friends tell me I'd be a great mom. My parents are furious and told me they made an appointment for an abortion. Can they make me get an abortion?"

No one can make you have an abortion if you don't want to. Unless you're in a medical emergency and your life is in danger, they can't force you to have an abortion. Medical providers can only perform abortions for women who've decided to have one. Plus, even though you're under 18, you have the right to make important choices about your health and life.

Think about what's best for your life right now. Becoming a mom because your friends think you should, or getting an abortion since your parents think you should might not be what's right for you. Sure, you may get advice from others around you, but only you can decide what's best for your situation.

Any woman who has an unplanned pregnancy has three choices. She can become a parent, get an abortion, or choose adoption for her baby. To decide between parenting, abortion, or adoption in teen pregnancy, you’ll first need to understand exactly what these options involve. Today, we're going over all three choices, so that you can best decide which is right for you!

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Topics: teen pregnancy, teenage pregnancy, Pregnancy choices, unwanted pregnancy options, pregnancy options, abortion or adoption, unplanned pregnancy choices, abortion vs adoption

What Adoption Was Like for Me - Women Share Their Stories

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 14, 2019

Real-Life Open Adoption Stories

Have you been wondering, "what's open adoption like in real life?" Or maybe, "I don't know if I can adopt out my baby! How do women do that?"

When you're thinking about adoption for your baby, it helps to see adoption from the perspective of a woman who has already chosen adoption. Hearing from her can help you know what to expect during the process. One of the best ways to learn about open adoption is to learn from women who have created an adoption plan for a child.

Today, you'll hear from women who have their own open adoption stories as birth mothers. Their adoption stories provide a real-life look at what open adoption is like today!

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Topics: adoption stories, Adoption for my child, Adoption story, adoption video,, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, birth mother videos, birth mother stories

Abortion or Adoption? How to Make the Choice That's Right For You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 9, 2019

"Abortion is quick and easy. A clean break. No one will even have to know I was pregnant."

Many believe that abortion is a quick fix for a pregnancy they didn't plan on. In reality, things are much more complicated. This "quick fix" can be followed by lifelong regret and grief.

Desperate for a "quick fix," women sometimes rush into an abortion decision before they've had the chance to explore all of their pregnancy options fully.

We encourage you to explore all of your options, so you can make a fully informed decision about what’s best for you. Before making this decision, it's important to consider some of the challenges of this option:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, pregnancy pregnant decisions, missed period, positive pregnancy test, abortion or adoption, unplanned pregnancy choices, abortion vs adoption

10 Questions to Ask Before You Choose Your Adoption Help

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 2, 2019

Today, women are learning about adoption from a wide variety of sources. From traditional avenues, like referrals, brochures, or word of mouth, to modern methods, such as apps, searches online, or on social media, mothers thinking about adoption can find several adoption professionals who would be honored to help her through the process.

Yet with so many options available to help women considering adoption, how do these brave moms choose the adoption professional that’s right for them?

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Topics: Adoption Questions, Adoption Professionals

It’s Your Choice: 3 Myths That Limit a Mother’s Adoption Options

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 26, 2019

Here at Lifetime, we understand that first phone call, text, or message can be nerve wracking for women who are considering adoption for a child. When women contact us, it’s common to hear “I’m not sure yet, but I just want to know how adoption works.” As she shares more about her situation, each mother starts to find words for the questions that have been going through their minds, usually for weeks before reaching out for information.

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?, modern adoption, benefits of adoption, how to choose a family for my baby, open adoption questions, adoption hospital plan

4 Steps to Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 19, 2019

We recently received a text from an expectant mother on our 24/7 text line that read, “I’m texting because I was curious about the process of an open adoption. What are the steps?”

When women call, text, or email to learn about open adoption, it is usually because they are pregnant and considering adoption for their babies.  The steps to an open adoption can be broken down into 4 parts:

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?, modern adoption, benefits of adoption, how to choose a family for my baby, open adoption questions, adoption hospital plan

4 Ways Your Guy Can Support Your Adoption Plan

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 12, 2019

Most people think that adoption choices only involve the woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and that the baby's father has fled the scene. But the truth is, many adoption plans are made by both birth parents. Whether they're still in a relationship or not, these two people are making the best decision they can for their baby because they're not in the position to raise a child together.

If a birth father is open to supporting the adoption plan, the whole process tends to go better. Plus, it leads to better long-term results for everyone involved, including the birth mother, birth father, and child.

Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in their child's adoption from the start. Even if he's not together with you anymore, he can take part in the adoption planning process. This might mean that he helps you pick an adoptive couple, narrowing down your top choices and then participating in the first phone call with your top pick. 

Is your baby's father okay with your decision to make an adoption plan? Here are 4 ways that he can support you right now:

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Topics: Baby's father, baby's dad, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

How to Create a Hospital Plan That Works For You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 2, 2019

Giving birth is an emotionally and physically challenging process. So when you add adoption into the mix, things can become even more overwhelming. That’s why we encourage you to create an adoption hospital plan in advance. Keep reading to learn all about how you can make one that works for you!

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Topics: Labor preparation, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, hospital bag packing list, preparing for labor, adoption hospital plan