Adoptive Families Blog

What to Do When Mother's Day is Hard

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 10, 2019

mothers-day-hardMother’s Day isn’t easy without a child to hold and hug, when more than anything, you want that. It's so hard to have that longing, and not have something that so many other women are experiencing - motherhood. Not having a child can make the second Sunday in May so much more difficult.

If Mother’s Day brings feelings of pain or longing for you, know that you're not alone. Lifetime's Founder Mardie Caldwell is an adoptive mother herself, and shares, "A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful."

It's hard to wait when you're SO ready to be a mom. Right now, God might be saying, “Not yet. Wait.” While you have no idea what's in store, He does! His plan is more considerable than anything you can envision.

Know that you are in our prayers. We pray that you have hope, peace, and find joy in everyday life as you wait. We pray that you continue to find comfort in seeing others' adoption stories as you wait for God to write yours. And while our words might not comfort you, His words will never disappoint.

“I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit.”
-Ephesians 3:16

“Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.”
-Psalm 27:14

If you're a woman waiting to adopt, remember that there is a baby for you! Maybe Mother's Day feels like just another reminder that you're not a mom yet. We've got tips to help you survive this holiday, and all the brouhaha surrounding it.

Our Founder Mardie Caldwell shares her guidance and what helped her during her adoption journey here: How To Survive Mother's Day When You're Waiting To Adopt. 

And, here, you can read words of encouragement from Lifetime's adoptive moms: "Celebrating and Honoring a Mother's Love."

Finally, we want to share these words of wisdom from Mardie: "I believe that Mother's Day takes on the meaning that you give it yourself. You can give it a meaning that's painful and negative, or one that’s positive. It took me several years to do this, but I really found that the meaning I wanted to give to Mother’s Day was to be grateful. I focused on being thankful that I did have a mother myself, celebrating her, and all the moms in my life. And I had to be grateful for what I had and that I had an opportunity to adopt. I think being grateful really helped me during my adoption wait."

Topics: Mother's Day, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait