Adoptive Families Blog

How to Show Your Love to Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 14, 2019

Birth mothers have a bond with their baby from the start. She’ll wonder what her child will be like, how she’ll care for him or her, and what she’ll need to give her baby the best she can. And sometimes this means making an adoption plan.

It’s a difficult, heart-wrenching choice to make, but it’s one made out of love. A birth mother loves her child so much that she wants to give them a better life; one that she’s unable to provide. After the adoption, she’ll think about her child often and love them for the rest of her life. Adoption is a choice made out of love.

So in honor of her love, this Valentine's Day we're sharing seven ways to extend love to your child’s birth family! 

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, forever family, Communication, gift for our child's birth mother, relationship with birth mother

Get a Real-Life Glimpse Into Two Types of Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 24, 2019

"Our relationship is very near and dear to my heart, and I sincerely love these women. 
Their sacrifice allowed me to grow my family!"

Adoption relationships can be easily misunderstood, until you see them through the lives of actual adoptive families and birth parents who came together for a child’s adoption.

Today, we hear from Lifetime adoptive mother-in-waiting Emily; she shares about her relationships with their sons' birth mothers. You'll discover how open adoption allows for a flexible and respectful relationship between adoptive families and birth mothers!

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Topics: Adoption journey, Adoption story, Waiting to Adopt, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption

How to Deal With Fear About Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 17, 2019

Many adoptive families fear relationships with their child’s birth family. They are unsure of how it will impact their relationship with their child. Patricia Dischler, author of Because I Loved You, helps adoptive parents understand what it means to have a relationship with their child’s birth family. Today, over 90% of domestic adoptions are open adoptions, with relationships between birth families and adoptive children.

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, is open adoption co-parenting?, Open Adoption, relationship with birth mother, visit with birth family

"We’re forever thankful for her birth parents' sacrifice and love!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 3, 2019

Oftentimes, Lifetime connects with adoptive couples in the midst of their route to parenthood, at a crossroad where loss meets the possibility for positive things ahead through adoption. In this post, Lifetime mom, Lisa, shares how she and her husband Frank moved from infertility to adoption.

In this family’s story, we hear how Frank and Lisa moved through their adoption wait to a match and embraced the opportunity open adoption gave them to develop a friendship with their daughter’s birth parents.

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Topics: Adoption story, Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, relationship with birth mother

"Every smile, giggle, and coo was designed by God's perfect plan!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 12, 2018

Earlier this year, adoptive couple Derek and Jennifer were blessed to adopt a baby boy through Lifetime. In this family’s story, we hear from Jennifer about receiving "the call," the bond they've established with their son Elijah's birth mother, and their experience with becoming parents together through an open adoption.

Now a forever family, adoptive mom Jennifer shares their beautiful story in this special guest blog post!

Because we live on the West Coast, I wasn't surprised to hear my cell phone ring as the sun began to rise over the mountains.

As I pulled my phone closer and tried to focus my blurry eyes, I saw the call was coming from Grass Valley, California. I held my breath as I answered knowing that Lifetime Adoption called with "good news" outside of business hours. My husband and I listened to the voice on the other end of the phone intently. She spoke of a birth mother who chose us to raise the precious child growing inside of her. We listened carefully to every word and detail and soon learned a baby boy was due in just over three weeks.

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Topics: Adoption story, Newborn Adoption, Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, adoption experience in the hospital

She Gets it from You: Author’s Letter to Daughter’s Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 27, 2018

Recently one of Lifetime’s adoptive moms introduced us to author Melissa Radke’s book, Eat Cake. Be Brave., a personal testimony of faith, courage, accepting one’s strengths and unique path in life, including infertility, miscarriage, and adoption. In Chapter 19, Dear Miss Danielle, we were moved to read Radke’s heartfelt letter to her daughter’s birth mother. This real-life encounter with modern adoption, as seen through an everyday adoptive mom (with a great sense of humor and ability to share words as if you’re talking with a friend), will speak to so many of our followers and families.

If you’re a hopeful adoptive parent, or if you’re already raising a child through adoption, you’ll be touched by this excerpt from Chapter 19 of Eat Cake. Be Brave. Perhaps you’ll identify with the hard emotions each side of a child’s adoption face as they come together for a match. Or you’ll anticipate the great love that you’ll have for the ONE mother who chooses you to adopt her baby, and how you hope you can find just the right words to tell her how much she means to your family, how much you admire her brave love. You might even read this as a birth mother, and be reassured that you are not forgotten, and some of the brightest things about your child will remind his or her adoptive parents of you in the best ways.

Because of modern adoption, a child can grow up knowing that she inherits good things from both sides of her story.

With permission from Melissa and David Radke, we are honored to share this letter to her daughter's birth mother excerpt from Eat Cake. Be Brave. with you below.

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Topics: modern adoption, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, Adoption story, infertility to adoption,, Adoption Book, books about adoption, Christian adoption book

A Healthy Open Adoption Needs These 6 Things

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 19, 2018

Decades ago, almost every adoption was closed. Back then, people thought that closed adoption was best for the child. Today's adoptions look much different. An estimated 95% of domestic adoptions now have some level of openness between adoptive parents and birth parents. 

Even though there are varying kinds and levels of openness in open adoptions, there are healthy traits that many have in common. Here are 6 traits that adoptive families should strive for in healthy open adoptions:

 

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Topics: relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, adoption tip

7 of the Most-Asked Questions About Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 13, 2018

Most birth parents today seek some form of open adoption, and many adoptive parents do too. Once you've adopted and are joyfully living out your open adoption story, you may get questioned by those who are unfamiliar with the concept, asking "how does open adoption work?" 

Lifetime is sharing 7 of the most frequently-asked open adoption questions adoptive parents might hear about their relationship with their child’s birth parents. Plus, we're providing the answers to these questions, too!

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Topics: open adoption visits, what is open adoption like?, open adoption questions, is open adoption co-parenting?, Adoption Questions, Open Adoption

Check Out a Powerful, True-Life Open Adoption Story

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 22, 2017

Are you struggling with your adoption wait to be chosen by a birth mother? What can help give you perspective is hearing from other couples who've been where you are right now. In this video, adoptive couple Kevin and Alyssa share their true-life open adoption story, along with their daughter's birth mother, Bailey.

Read on to out why a birth mother's right to choose her baby's parents is so crucial in adoption today!

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption match, Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?

How to Develop an Open Adoption Relationship

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 1, 2017

So, you've agreed to give your baby’s birth mother updates as he grows up.  Now that you’ve returned home with your baby, how do you know which info to share? Working through the unfamiliar emotions that can arise in an open adoption relationship isn’t always easy. Today, Lifetime gives you tips on how you can develop a healthy relationship with your child’s birth mother!

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Topics: is open adoption co-parenting?, open adoption visits, semi-open adoption, relationship with birth mother, Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?