Adoptive Families Blog

How to Find Purpose in the Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 29, 2019

When adoptive couples come to Lifetime, most are coming from their own journey of months or years of already waiting—waiting through miscarriage, waiting through infertility, waiting, and waiting to be picked by a birth mother. So it makes sense that one of the most-asked questions hopeful parents have when they hear our Adoption Story webinars is "How long did you wait to adopt?"

When it comes to infant adoption, the wait is usually a focus, and at times a challenge, for hopeful adoptive parents.

Lifetime recently welcomed a special webinar guest, Carly, who shares her story about praying to become a mother, moving past years of fertility treatments, and welcoming her son home through open adoption. She describes how she started to see how every step of her story, including the wait, was a significant part of the journey and prepared her for what was to come. As Carly shares, "There's purpose in the wait."

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Adoption webinar, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption webinars

"Lifetime's Adoption Webinars Help Me Wait Well!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 21, 2019

When it comes to infant adoption, the wait is often a focus, and at times a challenge, for hopeful adoptive parents. Recently, Tracy, an adoptive mother in-waiting, shared with us how Lifetime’s webinars have helped.

Tracy, and her husband, Jamie, are actively waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. As a Lifetime adoptive family, Tracy attends monthly webinars to prepare for their future adoption. She shared how Lifetime’s adoption webinars give her ideas on how to “wait well," discover tips for creating a meaningful relationship with her future child’s birth family, and apply practical tips for making the most of the wait.

You’ll be inspired by hopeful adoptive mom Tracy’s real-life talk and honest feedback on how adoption webinars have filled her with hope for her family's future:

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Topics: Adoption webinar, Waiting to Adopt, reviews of Lifetime Adoption, reviews of Lifetime Adoptions, adoption webinars

Waiting to Adopt: Geoff and Tracy’s Journey to Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 26, 2019

Geoff and Tracy from Texas know what it’s like to wait for a birth mother to choose them. They have been married for almost 20 years, and after spending years trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant, they decided to pursue adoption. Many families decide to adopt instead of undergoing fertility treatments, and Geoff and Tracy did the same.

Tracy was the first one to bring up adoption. At first, Geoff wasn’t ready. He wanted to wait and see if they could have a baby on their own. He was also enjoying his life as it was, with travel and his job. But, as time went on their hearts began to wish more for a baby and Geoff came around to the idea of adoption.

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Adoption story, how to handle the adoption wait

Get a Real-Life Glimpse Into Two Types of Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 24, 2019

"Our relationship is very near and dear to my heart, and I sincerely love these women. 
Their sacrifice allowed me to grow my family!"

Adoption relationships can be easily misunderstood, until you see them through the lives of actual adoptive families and birth parents who came together for a child’s adoption.

Today, we hear from Lifetime adoptive mother-in-waiting Emily; she shares about her relationships with their sons' birth mothers. You'll discover how open adoption allows for a flexible and respectful relationship between adoptive families and birth mothers!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, Adoption story, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?

Successful Adoptive Parents Share How to Get Through the Holidays As You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 20, 2018

Typically, the holidays are a time for celebration and joyful moments. But when you're waiting to be chosen by a birth mother, they might be a source of stress. Your loved ones may mean well, but ask questions or make remarks that feel hurtful or insensitive. If you dread the holidays, it can help to hear from those who have "been there, done that."

Last year during the Christmas season, we asked seasoned adoptive parents: What would you tell a hopeful adoptive parent as they go through this holiday season to encourage them while they wait? What worked for you in Christmases when you were waiting to grow your family? Or what do you wish you'd have done to help the season be lighter? Today, we’re sharing their answers with you!

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Topics: Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Christmas, adoption tip, how to handle the adoption wait

The Bottom Line About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 6, 2018

Melissa perched on the edge of the sofa, with a cup of hot coffee in her hands. She grabbed her tablet and started to eagerly browse her adoption agency's website, something that she did every morning before work. As she did, Melissa began to feel defeated. Looking at all the smiling faces of other couples waiting to adopt, she wondered to herself, "How will we stand out from the other couples? What would make a birth mother pick us to be the parents of her child? How can we compete with so many couples who are more attractive, more educated, or wealthier?"

Does this scenario sound familiar? Many hopeful adoptive parents can relate to the fear that a birth mother won't pick them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during the adoption wait is normal.  Lifetime hopes to clarify the open adoption process and provide you with some bottom line facts about being picked by a birth mother.

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, birth mothers seeking families, birth parents seeking adoptive families, adoption match, how to handle the adoption wait

Behind the Scenes of Adam & Kristi’s Decision to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2018

"Are we meant to adopt?"

Lifetime adoptive couple Adam and Kristi share part one of their Christian adoption story

 

"This is never going to happen." Many people who walk through infertility often identify with the hopelessness that can come of trying and trying to build a family, without success.

Moving from infertility to a decision to become a family through adoption is a deep and thoughtful process. There are layers of grief and disappointment mixed together with the hope of looking forward to the good that will come from their determination not to give up.

We often are asked: "How do you know when to move from fertility treatments to adoption?"

For every adoptive parent, the answer to that honest question will vary. However, one recurring thread in nearly every Lifetime Adoption testimony is the sense that adoption is where the story was leading all along.

As you’ll see in Adam and Kristi’s story, a sense of peace, relief, and renewed hope came from answering a call to adoption.

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Topics: Infertility, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, Adoption story, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, fertility treatments to adoption

What’s Waiting to Adopt Like for an Adoptive Dad-to-Be?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 5, 2018

What’s it like for men as they wait to become fathers through open adoption? As they support their wives and look forward to their future family, adoptive dads-to-be have their own unique ways of waiting-to-adopt. In this short live video, one of Lifetime’s hopeful adoptive dads, Joe, gives us a view from a man’s perspective.

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, adoptive dads, Father's Day, adoptive fathers, adoptive dad-to-be

How Did They Adopt So Quickly?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 14, 2018

"My husband and I have been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother for almost two years now. Meanwhile, I keep seeing couples matching and adopting on the Lifetime website. I feel like it's not fair. How did they adopt so quickly? Why them and not us?!"

Right away, Lifetime's adoption professionals can recognize couples who will adopt sooner rather than later. These couples have resolved any infertility issues, and are now focusing on their adoption.

Their focus on adoption is so sharp that they're not trying to remodel their home or shop for a new car at the same time. These couples are putting all of their efforts and resources into their adoption. They're resourceful, organized, and proactive.

Keep reading to discover how you can speed up your adoption match!

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, adoption readiness, adoption match, domestic infant adoption, ready to adopt

Mother's Day Takes on the Meaning You Give It

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 11, 2018

My first Mother's Day was pretty exciting! There had been a lot of pain before that: I’d lost seven pregnancies, really wanted to become a mother, and had been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. There were times we were thinking we were going to be parents and we weren't, and I always had some feelings around Mother's Day. I had a miscarriage a week before Mother's Day, which was really hard. And then I had another one ON Mother's Day. We were getting ready to go to church, and I knew I was losing the baby!

A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful. I'm sure that some of the other adoptive moms out there might feel like that too. You’re around people (especially at church) who are celebrating moms. In the past, they’d have all the mothers at my church stand up, and that was really painful.

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Topics: Birth Mother's Day, Mother's Day, Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, National Birth Mother's Day