Adoptive Families Blog

How to Show Your Love to Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 14, 2019

Birth mothers have a bond with their baby from the start. She’ll wonder what her child will be like, how she’ll care for him or her, and what she’ll need to give her baby the best she can. And sometimes this means making an adoption plan.

It’s a difficult, heart-wrenching choice to make, but it’s one made out of love. A birth mother loves her child so much that she wants to give them a better life; one that she’s unable to provide. After the adoption, she’ll think about her child often and love them for the rest of her life. Adoption is a choice made out of love.

So in honor of her love, this Valentine's Day we're sharing seven ways to extend love to your child’s birth family! 

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, forever family, Communication, gift for our child's birth mother, relationship with birth mother

Get a Real-Life Glimpse Into Two Types of Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 24, 2019

"Our relationship is very near and dear to my heart, and I sincerely love these women. 
Their sacrifice allowed me to grow my family!"

Adoption relationships can be easily misunderstood, until you see them through the lives of actual adoptive families and birth parents who came together for a child’s adoption.

Today, we hear from Lifetime adoptive mother-in-waiting Emily; she shares about her relationships with their sons' birth mothers. You'll discover how open adoption allows for a flexible and respectful relationship between adoptive families and birth mothers!

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Topics: Adoption journey, Adoption story, Waiting to Adopt, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption

How to Deal With Fear About Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 17, 2019

Many adoptive families fear relationships with their child’s birth family. They are unsure of how it will impact their relationship with their child. Patricia Dischler, author of Because I Loved You, helps adoptive parents understand what it means to have a relationship with their child’s birth family. Today, over 90% of domestic adoptions are open adoptions, with relationships between birth families and adoptive children.

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, is open adoption co-parenting?, Open Adoption, relationship with birth mother, visit with birth family

"We’re forever thankful for her birth parents' sacrifice and love!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 3, 2019

Oftentimes, Lifetime connects with adoptive couples in the midst of their route to parenthood, at a crossroad where loss meets the possibility for positive things ahead through adoption. In this post, Lifetime mom, Lisa, shares how she and her husband Frank moved from infertility to adoption.

In this family’s story, we hear how Frank and Lisa moved through their adoption wait to a match and embraced the opportunity open adoption gave them to develop a friendship with their daughter’s birth parents.

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Topics: Adoption story, Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, relationship with birth mother

A Healthy Open Adoption Needs These 6 Things

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 19, 2018

Decades ago, almost every adoption was closed. Back then, people thought that closed adoption was best for the child. Today's adoptions look much different. An estimated 95% of domestic adoptions now have some level of openness between adoptive parents and birth parents. 

Even though there are varying kinds and levels of openness in open adoptions, there are healthy traits that many have in common. Here are 6 traits that adoptive families should strive for in healthy open adoptions:

 

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Topics: relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, adoption tip

What If She Changes Her Mind About Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 30, 2018

Many adoptive parents who are matched with a birth mother get anxiety about whether their adoption might fail. They wonder, "what if she changes her mind about adoption?"  When a birth mother changes her mind before signing legal paperwork, it's known in the adoption world as a "fall-through."

Lifetime encourages you to remember that this risk in adoption is so worth it. After all, taking the chance is how you’ll be led to your child. At Lifetime, our goal is to see you adopt successfully, not just get matched. In most cases, if adoptive parents face a fall-through we will continue to help them to find a successful match. While failed adoptions are less common at Lifetime, because of the way our program supports each side of the adoption match, it’s good to understand why a birth mother might change her mind, and what happens if she does.

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Topics: adoption match, what if a birth mother changes her mind?, birth mother, relationship with birth mother, fall-through

Is There Such a Thing as a "Typical Birth Mother"?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 12, 2018

Many hopeful adoptive parents wonder what birth mothers are like. They worry about speaking with a birth mother on the phone because they don't know what to expect. How old are most birth mothers? Why are they choosing adoption? Are they married or single? What's their background like? Is there such a thing as a "typical birth mother?" Join Lifetime as we share the answers to these commonly-asked questions, and more! 

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Topics: talking to birth mothers, relationship with birth mother, Birth Mothers, phone call with birth mother, Adoption Myths, Open Adoption

6 Ways to Improve Your Connection with a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 29, 2018

Even after completing your home study, creating a wonderful profile, and rehearsing what you'll say in that first phone call with a birth mother, you might still be overlooking an important part of the child adoption process that leads to successful adoptions. And that's to genuinely connect with a birth mother.

Join Lifetime as we share 6 ways to extend yourself to a birth mother and improve your connection with her!

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Topics: relationship with birth mother, Open Adoption, modern adoption, Adoption Tips

Discover What You Should Never Do at the Hospital

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 26, 2018

In open adoptions, many adoptive families are fortunate enough to be a part of the birth of their baby. It's a blessing to have the birth family invite you to the hospital. Each adoption hospital experience is going to play out differently, and today we want to share some general adoption etiquette guidelines with you. 

During the hospital experience, there’s a difference between meaning well and acting entitled. So today, Lifetime is here to help your adoption etiquette with four things that adoptive couples should never do at the hospital.

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Topics: adoption experience in the hospital, relationship with birth mother, Open Adoption

Beautiful Video from a Birth Mom to Her Baby Has Gone Viral!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 19, 2018

In an emotional video that's since gone viral, birth mother Hannah explains to her newly-born son that she'll always love him. 

Both People Magazine and The Today Show, have picked up this story of a loving birth mother with a special message for her baby.  "I thought I would make this video for you instead of writing a letter because it's real and it’s in the moment," Hannah says in her emotional video.

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Topics: birth mother videos, adoption video,, relationship with birth mother, Open Adoption, modern adoption