Adoptive Families Blog

How to Talk With Your Child About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 29, 2019

It's vital to help your biological and adopted children understand who they are, and their importance in your particular family.

Author and psychotherapist Stacie Cahill is an adoptive mother who works with parents as they tackle adoption identity issues. She and her husband were blessed to adopt a baby girl, whom they named Chelsea. The adoption happened when their biological son, Jacob, was two.

Three years later, Jacob took it upon himself to describe adoption to Chelsea. He told her the stork brought her to their house. She was upset. Not a great way to describe adoption to a tender three-year-old!

At that point, Stacie knew that she had to give a better explanation. She wrote a book and dedicated it to Chelsea, explaining how she grew in her heart instead of her body. Stacie knew that adoption was part of her child's identity from the beginning.  This is why you should start talking to your baby about adoption as soon as possible.

If you have both biological and adopted children in your family, make sure you find ways for everyone to feel special and included. The more you talk about it, the less likely your children will have identity questions as they get older. Starting the adoption dialogue early can be very beneficial for the adopted child, and creates the foundation for conversations to come. Keep reading to discover tips on talking to children about adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Parenting, Infant adoption, adoptive parenting, talking to children about adoption

5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Adopted Child

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on February 9, 2016

As an adoptive mother and adoption professional, I've heard a number of stories and helped with thousands of adoptions. I’d like to share some very important and helpful tips for adoptive parents. 

There are several damaging comments adoptive parents sometimes tell their children that can truly cause permanent damage to them. These comments can exit your mouth when you are frustrated, tired, hungry and/or sleep-deprived.

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Topics: Parenting, Domestic Adoption, Mardie Caldwell, adoptive parenting

Explaining Adoption to Your Children

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 1, 2015

Question: How do I explain adoption to my biological children? We want to add to our family through adoption and be able to explain to our children the reason and what positive aspects adoption has. Can you help?

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Topics: children, Open Adoption, Parenting, Domestic Adoption, Adopting a Baby

Adoption Q & A: As an adoptive family, what can we do to speed up the adoption process?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 27, 2013

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Topics: Adoption, Adoption Questions, Open Adoption, Parenting, Waiting to Adopt

What Have You Heard about Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 23, 2013

Open adoption has changed the way women see options when facing unplanned pregnancy. If she isn’t ready or able to provide for her child, adoption can become a positive solution for her and her baby.

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Topics: Adoption Questions, Open Adoption, Communication, Parenting, Adoption Tips

6 Tips to Help Your Child Adjust to Your Newly Adopted Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 20, 2013

How do you help your older child adjust to a new baby in the house? It is not easy, but it can be done in a way that encourages your child and keeps him from feeling displaced. Adding a new baby to the family is a life-changing experience. There are things you, as parents, can do to create a positive and healthy family atmosphere. Bringing baby home doesn't have to be a stressful time!

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Topics: Parenting, Adoption Tips, Adopting a Baby

Blessings and Tips for Mother's Day As You Wait to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 11, 2013

Lifetime would like to wish a Happy Mother’s Day to all of our wonderful adoptive moms, our amazing birth moms and all women who will soon fall into one of these two categories! We would like to reflect with gratitude and awe for taking on the great challenge of caring for one of God’s precious children. For adoptive families, it is so important to recognize the incredible courage it takes to carry a child for nine months and then lovingly choose an adoptive family. It is the ultimate act of love, not only for the child, but for you, as well!

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Topics: Parenting, Awareness, Family

To Church or Not on Mother’s Day: The Debate of a Mom-in-waiting

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 10, 2013

By Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

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Topics: Parenting, Family, Faith, Infertility, Waiting to Adopt

...And Baby Makes Three

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 28, 2013

We recently received this open adoption story from Lifetime adoptive family Josh and Laci and wanted to share it with you here. We love hearing how open adoption changes a family by more than just adding a child!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Parenting, Waiting to Adopt

Smart Secrets to Soothing Your Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 14, 2013

The first week with your newborn home is bliss. By week two, you are probably turning into a sleep deprived zombie. When week three rolls around, you may be tempted to sit down on the floor and cry right along with baby (especially if it is two in the morning).

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Topics: Parenting, Newborn Adoption, Adopting a Baby