Adoptive Families Blog

How to Deal When Your Parents Are Anti-Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 6, 2019

Today, we address a question from a hopeful adoptive mom who is concerned that she won't have support from her family during the adoption journey:

"My husband and I are so excited to adopt! We've always known that we wanted to adopt a baby.  But, our parents and grandparents don't seem to understand why we'd want an open adoption.

Yesterday, my dad asked me why we want the birth family to remain in our lives. And my grandma has made it clear that she looks down on birth mothers; she doesn't think they should be able to choose their baby's parents.

How can we get the support of our families during the adoption process? I'm worried about the impact that their negative views of open adoption will have on our future child!"

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Topics: Relationships, Open Adoption, Adoption journey, Support adoption, visit with birth family, open adoption visits, is open adoption co-parenting?

6 Ways to Celebrate Birth Mothers

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 11, 2019

The Saturday before Mother's Day has been traditionally honored as Birth Mother's Day throughout the US. While we think it's totally appropriate to celebrate birth mothers all weekend long, we're taking today to highlight the amazing, brave, loving women behind each adoption story.

One of the most common questions future adoptive parents have to work through, for themselves, is this:

"What would it be like to raise a child who also had another family that loved him first?"

A child's birth mother will always be a special part of his or her story. As most of Lifetime's adoptive parents share, once you get to know the ONE birth mother who has chosen you to become her baby's family, the natural progression is to grow a deep love and care for that amazing woman who made your adoption dreams come true.

So this Mother's Day weekend, as you recognize your own adoption miracle, or pray for the next step in your adoption goals, take a moment to celebrate the brave love that threads between all birth mothers. Here are a few ways you can honor birth mothers today:

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Topics: Birthmother's Day, Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, Birth Mother's Day, Mother's Day, birth mother stories, National Birth Mother's Day

New Webinar: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2019

Lifetime is excited to announce a new webinar coming up next Wednesday, "A Heart Grown Story: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait". We'll be welcoming a very special guest speaker.

Carly is an adoptive mom who turned her own experience of longing and praying for motherhood into a passion to encourage other adoptive moms-in-waiting. Her beautiful and uplifting subscription boxes are designed to keep hopeful adoptive moms looking forward to life after adoption, while also nurturing their heart while they wait.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Adoption webinar, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption webinars, domestic infant adoption, modern adoption, called to adopt

How to Show Your Love to Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 14, 2019

Birth mothers have a bond with their baby from the start. She’ll wonder what her child will be like, how she’ll care for him or her, and what she’ll need to give her baby the best she can. And sometimes this means making an adoption plan.

It’s a difficult, heart-wrenching choice to make, but it’s one made out of love. A birth mother loves her child so much that she wants to give them a better life; one that she’s unable to provide. After the adoption, she’ll think about her child often and love them for the rest of her life. Adoption is a choice made out of love.

So in honor of her love, this Valentine's Day we're sharing seven ways to extend love to your child’s birth mother!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Communication, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, gift for our child's birth mother, forever family

Worth the Wait - An Adoption Story of Faith and Dedication

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 31, 2019

Each adoptive parent goes through a different journey, mixed with a wide range of emotions, thoughts, and questions. Even though adoptive mother Bethany and her husband Greg waited longer than anticipated to adopt their son, they continued to show faith and perseverance throughout it all. Bethany remained committed to the adoption process, her faith, and focused on the good.

As Bethany shares, "We are beyond thankful to our mighty God who took us through quite the journey to our sweet Gus, but looking back we can see so many times where He had us go through hard moments to prepare us for the blessing that was to come.”

Bethany and Greg’s adoption story is a testament to the well-known adoption phrase "worth the wait!"

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, adoption wait, Adoption story, how to handle the adoption wait

Get a Real-Life Glimpse Into Two Types of Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 24, 2019

"Our relationship is very near and dear to my heart, and I sincerely love these women. 
Their sacrifice allowed me to grow my family!"

Adoption relationships can be easily misunderstood, until you see them through the lives of actual adoptive families and birth parents who came together for a child’s adoption.

Today, we hear from Lifetime adoptive mother-in-waiting Emily; she shares about her relationships with their sons' birth mothers. You'll discover how open adoption allows for a flexible and respectful relationship between adoptive families and birth mothers!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, Adoption story, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?

How to Deal With Fear About Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 17, 2019

Many adoptive families fear relationships with their child’s birth family. They are unsure of how it will impact their relationship with their child. Patricia Dischler, author of Because I Loved You, helps adoptive parents understand what it means to have a relationship with their child’s birth family. Today, over 90% of domestic adoptions are open adoptions, with relationships between birth families and adoptive children.

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Topics: Open Adoption, visit with birth family, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, is open adoption co-parenting?

"We’re forever thankful for her birth parents' sacrifice and love!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 3, 2019

Oftentimes, Lifetime connects with adoptive couples in the midst of their route to parenthood, at a crossroad where loss meets the possibility for positive things ahead through adoption. In this post, Lifetime mom, Lisa, shares how she and her husband Frank moved from infertility to adoption.

In this family’s story, we hear how Frank and Lisa moved through their adoption wait to a match and embraced the opportunity open adoption gave them to develop a friendship with their daughter’s birth parents.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption story, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?

"Every smile, giggle, and coo was designed by God's perfect plan!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 12, 2018

Earlier this year, adoptive couple Derek and Jennifer were blessed to adopt a baby boy through Lifetime. In this family’s story, we hear from Jennifer about receiving "the call," the bond they've established with their son Elijah's birth mother, and their experience with becoming parents together through an open adoption.

Now a forever family, adoptive mom Jennifer shares their beautiful story in this special guest blog post!

Because we live on the West Coast, I wasn't surprised to hear my cell phone ring as the sun began to rise over the mountains.

As I pulled my phone closer and tried to focus my blurry eyes, I saw the call was coming from Grass Valley, California. I held my breath as I answered knowing that Lifetime Adoption called with "good news" outside of business hours. My husband and I listened to the voice on the other end of the phone intently. She spoke of a birth mother who chose us to raise the precious child growing inside of her. We listened carefully to every word and detail and soon learned a baby boy was due in just over three weeks.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Newborn Adoption, Adoption story, what is open adoption like?, adoption experience in the hospital

She Gets it from You: Author’s Letter to Daughter’s Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 27, 2018

Recently one of Lifetime’s adoptive moms introduced us to author Melissa Radke’s book, Eat Cake. Be Brave., a personal testimony of faith, courage, accepting one’s strengths and unique path in life, including infertility, miscarriage, and adoption. In Chapter 19, Dear Miss Danielle, we were moved to read Radke’s heartfelt letter to her daughter’s birth mother. This real-life encounter with modern adoption, as seen through an everyday adoptive mom (with a great sense of humor and ability to share words as if you’re talking with a friend), will speak to so many of our followers and families.

If you’re a hopeful adoptive parent, or if you’re already raising a child through adoption, you’ll be touched by this excerpt from Chapter 19 of Eat Cake. Be Brave. Perhaps you’ll identify with the hard emotions each side of a child’s adoption face as they come together for a match. Or you’ll anticipate the great love that you’ll have for the ONE mother who chooses you to adopt her baby, and how you hope you can find just the right words to tell her how much she means to your family, how much you admire her brave love. You might even read this as a birth mother, and be reassured that you are not forgotten, and some of the brightest things about your child will remind his or her adoptive parents of you in the best ways.

Because of modern adoption, a child can grow up knowing that she inherits good things from both sides of her story.

With permission from Melissa and David Radke, we are honored to share this letter to her daughter's birth mother excerpt from Eat Cake. Be Brave. with you below.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Book, Adoption story, infertility to adoption,, books about adoption, what is open adoption like?, modern adoption, Christian adoption book