Adoptive Families Blog

5 Questions All Adoptees Need Answered

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 26, 2020

Whether you are considering adoption or you have already adopted a newborn and are looking toward the future, you might worry about the questions your child will ask as he or she grows older.

Today, the nature of adoption has changed, and so have the types of questions children ask as they grow older. Open adoption answers many of the tough questions adoptees have asked in the past. As a result of open adoption, children no longer have to wonder what their birth parents’ names are, where they were born, or what their birth mother’s labor and delivery was like. Adoptive families that are open to sharing may discuss adoption and the child’s birth family openly.

Of course, this does not mean that there are no questions that remain. They are simply different and sometimes more in-depth. As your child grows, you might want to consider how you can answer or seek the answers to these common questions.

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Topics: Adoption Questions, Open Adoption, adoptee's story, open adoption questions, talking to children about adoption

10 Questions That Everyone Googles About Domestic Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 4, 2020

If you've been looking for answers about adoption on Google, you're not alone. Many hopeful adoptive parents turn to their favorite search engine as a way to learn more about how they can expand their family through adoption.

Among many other questions, people wonder how much it costs to adopt, what happens if the birth mother changes her mind, and how long the process takes.

Check out the most common questions hopeful adoptive parents search for on Google, along with answers from our adoption experts!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Domestic Adoption, Adoption process, domestic infant adoption, open adoption questions

How to Honor Your Open Adoption Agreement

Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. on November 27, 2019

Finally, the day you've been waiting for has arrived: it's time to bring home your newly adopted baby!

The days of searching and waiting are over, and it's time to begin a new season of life as a parent. Your entire family wants to meet this little one, and this is such a joyous occasion.

It's a very normal reaction to want to focus solely on bonding with your new child. Many families say they'd like to forget the adoption process: the paperwork, the interviews, the rejection, and the long wait. They desire to move on as a typical family. These are understandable feelings for adoptive parents. 

But, amid all your joy, you need to remember and respect the open adoption contact agreement you made with the birth mother. Honoring this agreement benefits the entire adoption triad (you, your child, and the birth family) in these ways:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, relationship with birth mother, open adoption questions, open adoption agreement, open adoption contact agreement

Celebrating National Adoption Month With a Glimpse Back in Time

Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. on November 6, 2019

Happy National Adoption Month! Here at Lifetime Adoption, we celebrate adoption year-round. But November holds a special place in our hearts. This month is recognized across the U.S. as National Adoption Month, and it's the perfect opportunity to share the beauty of adoption.

Today, I'd like to share about how adoptions in the U.S. have changed over the years. Join me as I reveal a peek into the past of how adoption has evolved from a secretive practice to a nationally recognized and celebrated event!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Infant adoption, closed adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, history of adoption

How to Encourage an Emotionally Healthy Open Adoption

Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. on October 17, 2019

When most people think of adoption, they imagine adoptions of the past when closed adoption was the norm. Society's views on adoption have evolved over the years, and now most private or independent adoptions are open adoptions. In fact, only 5% of infant adoptions are closed, according to a 2012 survey of 100 private adoption agencies.

What this means for you is that more than likely, you will have an open adoption with your child's birth mother. 

There are varying degrees of contact in an open adoption arrangement, from emails sent through an adoption professional to annual in-person visits. Open adoption comes with many benefits for everyone in the adoption triad: adoptive parents, adoptee, and birth parents.

Birth parents know that open adoption does not mean that you share custody. You are the parents, and they will respect this. They simply want to know how their child is doing and that they made the right decision. I've seen so many great open adoptions and wonderful birth mother relationships. You should be open and honest about the amount of involvement she will have with the baby. 

By setting healthy boundaries, the adoption experience will be a happier one for you, your baby, and the birth parents. Keep reading to learn about open adoption agreements, the hospital experience in open adoption, topics to discuss with your child's birth parents, and more!

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Topics: Open Adoption, visit with birth family, open adoption visits, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, open adoption agreement

How to Talk With Your Child About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 29, 2019

It's vital to help your biological and adopted children understand who they are, and their importance in your particular family.

Author and psychotherapist Stacie Cahill is an adoptive mother who works with parents as they tackle adoption identity issues. She and her husband were blessed to adopt a baby girl, whom they named Chelsea. The adoption happened when their biological son, Jacob, was two.

Three years later, Jacob took it upon himself to describe adoption to Chelsea. He told her the stork brought her to their house. She was upset. Not a great way to describe adoption to a tender three-year-old!

At that point, Stacie knew that she had to give a better explanation. She wrote a book and dedicated it to Chelsea, explaining how she grew in her heart instead of her body. Stacie knew that adoption was part of her child's identity from the beginning.  This is why you should start talking to your baby about adoption as soon as possible.

If you have both biological and adopted children in your family, make sure you find ways for everyone to feel special and included. The more you talk about it, the less likely your children will have identity questions as they get older. Starting the adoption dialogue early can be very beneficial for the adopted child, and creates the foundation for conversations to come. Keep reading to discover tips on talking to children about adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Parenting, Infant adoption, adoptive parenting, talking to children about adoption

Couple's Podcast Shares What They've Learned in 3 Infant Adoptions

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 22, 2019

Ever wish that you could hear from someone who's "been there, done that" and recently experienced an infant adoption firsthand? When you initially begin the adoption process, it can be very overwhelming. Hopeful adoptive parents benefit immensely from hearing what adoption was like for others.

Hearing other parent's adoption stories provides encouragement, along with invaluable guidance and tips as you navigate the unknowns of adoption. One of the best things that hopeful adoptive parents can do is to learn from others who have gone before them on the same path! Why not learn about infant adoption while you drive to work, do housework, or go for a run with a podcast?

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Tips, Infant adoption, Adoption story, adoptive dads, how to afford adoption, what is open adoption like?, domestic infant adoption, affording adoption, adoption podcast, Infant Adoption Guide podcast, Infant Adoption Guide

How Has DNA Testing Transformed Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 24, 2019

DNA testing can provide a lot of information to an adoptive family about their child. DNA testing is done for two reasons in the adoption community. The first reason is for people who are placing a child for adoption. Sometimes a paternity test is required so a biological father can rescind his parental rights for the adoption to proceed.

The second most common reason for DNA testing in adoption is for verifying birth relatives later in life. This helps with taking away an adoptee's uncertainty of connecting with their potential birth parent. However, with open adoption becoming more common, there's often no need for a DNA test. That's because the adopted child grows up knowing his or her adoption story, origins, and birth parents. By remaining in contact with their birth parents, they don't have to conduct a search for them, and then undergo a DNA test. 

Today, DNA testing is incredibly easy. A simple saliva test with Ancestry.com or 23andMe can reveal a TON of information about a child’s biological history.

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Topics: Open Adoption, closed adoption, adoption reunion, DNA testing and adoption, DNA and adoption

New Webinar This Week! Newborn Adoption Q&A

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 8, 2019

Have you been dreaming of starting your family through newborn adoption? Or maybe you already have children, but want to make your family complete through the blessing of adoption.

If you're thinking about adopting a newborn in the U.S., you'll want to attend Lifetime's upcoming webinar, "Newborn Adoption Q&A for Hopeful Parents." Bring your questions to our panel of adoption experts and get the clarity and direction you need to move your adoption dream to the next step.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Adoption webinar, Newborn Adoption, adoption webinars, domestic infant adoption, modern adoption

"His Adoption Was Without a Doubt Part of God’s Plan!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 2, 2019

Last year, adoptive couple Casey and Johanna were blessed to adopt a baby boy through Lifetime Adoption.

In this family’s story, we hear from Johanna about receiving "the call," the bond they've established with their son Isaiah's birth mother, and their experience with becoming parents together through an open adoption. Now a forever family, adoptive mom Johanna shares their beautiful story in this special guest blog. 

We love it when adoptive couples share the happy ending to their adoption story after the wait.  It’s a beautiful reminder for Lifetime of why we do what we do and the impact it has on creating families!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Adoption story, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?