Adoptive Families Blog

Do You Want to Be Pregnant or Be Parents?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2019

In the United States, 10% to 15% of couples face difficulty conceiving after trying for at least one year. While some of those couples will go on to have biological children, some will not. For many of these couples, moving from infertility to adoption helps them fulfill that part of their life where they feel something may be missing.

For many couples that contend with infertility and live out the daily struggle that comes with it, an important question emerges: do you want to be pregnant or do you want to be parents? It is difficult to determine when to forego fertility treatment and opt for adoption, especially after you have been trying for so long. Fortunately, this is a decision you can make in time. You just might need to take a few extra steps along the way.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments, fertility treatments to adoption

Are You Ready to Move from PCOS to Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 20, 2019

One of the most common reasons we see families turning to a Lifetime Adoption is because of a diagnosis of polycystic ovarian syndrome. Women with PCOS experience plenty of uncertainty about fertility; every month can feel like a roller coaster. They might wonder things like,
"Will this treatment work?"
"How will it affect my PCOS?"
"What will it do to my body?"  
"Am I pregnant, or is this PCOS?"


A new report sheds more light on the causes of polycystic ovarian syndrome. Recent research shows that it may be "triggered before birth, in the womb" according to New Scientist.  Polycystic ovaries are currently the most common cause of fertility issues in women; worldwide, PCOS affects up to one in five women.

Currently, the treatment for PCOS achieves pregnancy in less than 30% of women. However, a polycystic ovarian syndrome diagnosis doesn't have to mean you can never become a mother. Thousands of women diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome turn to adoption every year.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, PCOS and adoption, polycystic ovarian syndrome diagnosis

Behind the Scenes of Adam & Kristi’s Decision to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2018

"Are we meant to adopt?"

Lifetime adoptive couple Adam and Kristi share part one of their Christian adoption story

 

"This is never going to happen." Many people who walk through infertility often identify with the hopelessness that can come of trying and trying to build a family, without success.

Moving from infertility to a decision to become a family through adoption is a deep and thoughtful process. There are layers of grief and disappointment mixed together with the hope of looking forward to the good that will come from their determination not to give up.

We often are asked: "How do you know when to move from fertility treatments to adoption?"

For every adoptive parent, the answer to that honest question will vary. However, one recurring thread in nearly every Lifetime Adoption testimony is the sense that adoption is where the story was leading all along.

As you’ll see in Adam and Kristi’s story, a sense of peace, relief, and renewed hope came from answering a call to adoption.

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Topics: Infertility, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, Adoption story, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, fertility treatments to adoption

What is the Grief and Loss Process With Infertility?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 17, 2018

When a couple is dealing with infertility, there are generally five stages of grief and loss that they go through. Encountering these emotions is a normal and healthy way of moving from infertility toward adoption.

We all deal with grief and loss in different ways. Some people experience all five stages, while others only encounter a couple. Furthermore, it's normal to experience the stages in any order.

As a couple moves from the grief of infertility to adoption, they may experience these stages of grief and loss:

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Adopting After Infertility: How Do I Know It's Right for Me?

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 4, 2018

Sometimes, people rush into adoption when they discover they are infertile without taking the time to grieve the loss of the biological child they did not have. They risk sabotaging an adoption or, worse, treating an adopted child as second best to the son or daughter they might have had.

Before you can adopt with success, you must come to terms with your infertility. For some couples, this may take years. Move at your own pace, but realize that the longer you wait, the more you delay the precious time you could have with your child.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Will I Love My Adopted Child As Strongly as a Biological Child?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 24, 2017

Sometimes hopeful parents wonder if raising a child through adoption would be "the same" as raising a child they gave birth to. Every adoptive parent will tell you, "There's no difference. That child is your baby!" The adoption truth is this: adoption builds families. 

Maybe you've wondered whether or not you'd love an adopted child as much as you would a biological one. You might be struggling with whether or not the love you’ll feel for your adopted child will be as strong as the love you have for your biological children. Asking yourself this question is natural, and totally necessary, even if it seems shameful.  We're going to delve into this issue today, to reveal the adoption truth. And that's that you'll truly love your adopted child and develop a genuine connection with them.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Domestic Adoption, Infertility, adoption truth, infertility to adoption,, adoptive parenting

Recognizing Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 18, 2017

Each year, October is recognized as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Too many couples grieve the loss of a baby alone, never coming to terms with their loss. Lifetime observes this month with respect and sensitivity.

Keep reading to learn more about the history of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and to discover how you'll know if you're ready to turn to adoption.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments, infant loss, miscarriage

Signs You’re Ready to Turn to Adoption (Part 2)

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 12, 2016

Last Monday, I shared with you a few signs you’re ready to turn to adoption. Today’s post is part two in my two-part series on deciding when the time has come to turn from fertility treatments to adoption.

Here are two more signs that it might be time to think about considering adoption:

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Signs You’re Ready to Turn to Adoption (Part 1)

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 5, 2016

Many couples undergoing fertility treatments wonder how they’ll know it's the right time to stop trying for a biological child and start the adoption process. It’s not a simple answer, and for every parent it is different.  In your marriage, you may find one spouse arrives at this place before the other, which is completely normal.  

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Turning the Bitter Into Blessings

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2016

Adoption IS NOT a "cure" for the hurt and loss that comes with infertility or miscarriage. As one woman puts it, “I wish those watching us adopt could understand how much hurt and pain we have been through (with infertility and miscarriages), and that even though we are on the path to adoption, those aches aren’t automatically ‘cured.’”

So true. As this adoptive mom-in-waiting describes, an adoption is never intended to be a “fix all” for the loss that happened through infertility.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments