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Posted by Guest Contributor on March 18, 2020

Today's article comes to us from Valerie Trumbower, a DONA Certified Postpartum Doula, a Certified Lactation Counselor and the mother for three, including a set of twins.

Her online courses Expecting 101™ and Expecting 101...You’re Adopting™ have helped many families prepare for life with their newborns. For all things baby, follow her on Instagram @newparentsacademy

Life with a newborn is not easy. Yes, it’s full of super sweet baby faces and lots of cuddles, but it’s definitely not easy. I state this without reservation because I’m a Postpartum Doula, and for years I’ve lived the newborn stage over and over (and over) in the homes of new families. I LOVE what I do, and I truly feel honored to walk alongside families as they get acquainted and find their rhythm. 

I say the same thing over and over when I meet with people before their baby’s arrival: 

It’s just like anything else...if you know what to expect and how to handle situations you might encounter, things will go more smoothly.  

But then...I worked with my first adoptive family. As I met with them before the baby arrived and went through my whole spiel and talked about my recommendation of preparing for life with a newborn, they confirmed that they had, in fact, gone to a newborn class at the local hospital. Turns out, though, that the class was geared towards pregnant couples and that they were the only ones in that room who were adopting. They also said it had been awhile; they took the class almost a year prior since they weren’t sure when they’d be matched. If I can be honest, it made me sad for them for how it must have felt to feel so different in that room. And soon after that conversation, I realized it didn’t need to be that way for adopting families and I could help!

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Topics: Infant adoption, baby registry for adoption, domestic infant adoption, bottle feeding adopted baby, bonding with adopted baby

Infant Adoption During Times of Uncertainty

Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. on March 16, 2020

Is now a good time to adopt?

Does the worldwide Coronavirus affect adoption plans?

Should we consider adoption in this economic climate?

Are you asking yourselves any of these questions? If so, the short answer is – Yes, now is the best time to start your adoption plan. The world may seem upside down, and the uncertain economic times caused by stock market fluctuations and the effect of COVID-19 on our economic stability are concerning. We, at Lifetime, understand the anxiety both adoptive parents and birth parents are experiencing. This is a time in the adoption world, however, where the number of adoptive parents decreases and the number of pregnant women looking for adoptive parents for their babies increases.

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Topics: Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Economy, domestic infant adoption, COVID-19 and infant adoption

What to Expect at the Hospital When Your Adopted Baby is Born

Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. on November 14, 2019

After a long journey of deciding to adopt, completing paperwork, waiting for an adoption opportunity, and getting to know the birth mother, the big day is finally here – it’s time to meet your baby!

The trip to the hospital is the often most anticipated event in an adoptive family's journey. To help you prepare, we've put together this quick guide on your adoption hospital experience. We also answer some of the most common questions that adoptive parents have and share an exclusive adoption webinar about what to expect when your baby arrives!

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Topics: Infant adoption, Newborn Adoption, hospital preferences, hospital bag, adoption experience in the hospital, adoption hospital plan

Celebrating National Adoption Month With a Glimpse Back in Time

Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. on November 6, 2019

Happy National Adoption Month! Here at Lifetime Adoption, we celebrate adoption year-round. But November holds a special place in our hearts. This month is recognized across the U.S. as National Adoption Month, and it's the perfect opportunity to share the beauty of adoption.

Today, I'd like to share about how adoptions in the U.S. have changed over the years. Join me as I reveal a peek into the past of how adoption has evolved from a secretive practice to a nationally recognized and celebrated event!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Infant adoption, closed adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, history of adoption

Why Adopt? 12 Reasons to Adopt a Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 31, 2019

The decision to adopt a baby is a very personal one to make. Why do couples turn to adoption to expand their family? It's not possible to say there's one reason why people adopt since every family is different. Each couple will seek an infant adoption for their own reasons.

Many wonder what some of these reasons to adopt a baby are. Join Lifetime Adoption as we share 12 common reasons to adopt a baby!

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Topics: Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, adopt a baby, domestic infant adoption, why adopt?

What Adoptive Parents Need to Know About Pregnant Substance Abuse

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 19, 2019

When you begin the adoption process, your adoption professional will ask you several questions to determine your adoption preferences.

As Lifetime asks you what kinds of substance exposure you're open to in your baby, we understand that your main concern is the health of your future child. 

The expectant mothers that Lifetime Adoption serves are typically already facing personal challenges when they discover that they're pregnant. And sometimes, their challenges include substance use or addiction. While most of the women that Lifetime works with don't use any drugs or alcohol during their pregnancies, we do occasionally help pregnant women who are struggling with substance use issues.

This tends to make some hopeful adoptive parents anxious. We understand that you want to make sure the baby you adopt is healthy and safe. At Lifetime Adoption, we work hard to find the right adoption situation for each adoptive family, birth mother, and child. That includes making sure you're comfortable with substance exposure in your baby’s background.

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Topics: Infant adoption, prenatal drug exposure, drug-exposed baby, relationship with birth mother, adoption preferences, substance use during pregnancy, domestic infant adoption

How to Talk With Your Child About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 29, 2019

It's vital to help your biological and adopted children understand who they are, and their importance in your particular family.

Author and psychotherapist Stacie Cahill is an adoptive mother who works with parents as they tackle adoption identity issues. She and her husband were blessed to adopt a baby girl, whom they named Chelsea. The adoption happened when their biological son, Jacob, was two.

Three years later, Jacob took it upon himself to describe adoption to Chelsea. He told her the stork brought her to their house. She was upset. Not a great way to describe adoption to a tender three-year-old!

At that point, Stacie knew that she had to give a better explanation. She wrote a book and dedicated it to Chelsea, explaining how she grew in her heart instead of her body. Stacie knew that adoption was part of her child's identity from the beginning.  This is why you should start talking to your baby about adoption as soon as possible.

If you have both biological and adopted children in your family, make sure you find ways for everyone to feel special and included. The more you talk about it, the less likely your children will have identity questions as they get older. Starting the adoption dialogue early can be very beneficial for the adopted child, and creates the foundation for conversations to come. Keep reading to discover tips on talking to children about adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Parenting, Infant adoption, adoptive parenting, talking to children about adoption

Couple's Podcast Shares What They've Learned in 3 Infant Adoptions

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 22, 2019

Ever wish that you could hear from someone who's "been there, done that" and recently experienced an infant adoption firsthand? When you initially begin the adoption process, it can be very overwhelming. Hopeful adoptive parents benefit immensely from hearing what adoption was like for others.

Hearing other parent's adoption stories provides encouragement, along with invaluable guidance and tips as you navigate the unknowns of adoption. One of the best things that hopeful adoptive parents can do is to learn from others who have gone before them on the same path! Why not learn about infant adoption while you drive to work, do housework, or go for a run with a podcast?

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Tips, Infant adoption, Adoption story, adoptive dads, how to afford adoption, what is open adoption like?, domestic infant adoption, affording adoption, adoption podcast, Infant Adoption Guide podcast, Infant Adoption Guide

How to Bond With Your Baby After Infant Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 8, 2019

Some parents expect an instantaneous bond with their new baby immediately after infant adoption. Secretly, these same parents may worry and experience some uncertainty…what if they don’t feel a connection with their adopted infant?

Lifetime has seen the special bonds that develop between adoptive parents and their baby. Like many other aspects of parenting, bonding with your newborn takes work and dedication. We'd love to share some tips so that you can begin to bond with your newly-adopted infant! 

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Topics: Adoption Tips, Infant adoption, Adopting a Baby, bonding in adoption, bonding with adopted baby

New Webinar This Week! Newborn Adoption Q&A

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 8, 2019

Have you been dreaming of starting your family through newborn adoption? Or maybe you already have children, but want to make your family complete through the blessing of adoption.

If you're thinking about adopting a newborn in the U.S., you'll want to attend Lifetime's upcoming webinar, "Newborn Adoption Q&A for Hopeful Parents." Bring your questions to our panel of adoption experts and get the clarity and direction you need to move your adoption dream to the next step.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Adoption webinar, Newborn Adoption, adoption webinars, domestic infant adoption, modern adoption