Adoptive Families Blog

In the Adoption Wait? 7 Practical Tips to Get You Through the Holidays

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 19, 2019

The holidays are a time for celebration, spending time with loved ones, and making happy memories. But waiting adoptive parents might have a different experience. They may feel like they are missing something during the holidays, and it can be hard to explain to others exactly what it is. No matter when you are waiting to adopt a child, you can face ups and downs, but the holidays can make waiting feel even more difficult. I'd like to share 7 practical tips to help you deal with the stress of your adoption wait during the holidays!

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Topics: Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Christmas, how to handle the adoption wait

Is It My Fault I'm Still in the Adoption Wait?

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 12, 2019

Today's article comes to us from Elizabeth Laing Thompson, the author of When God Says, “Wait” and When God Says, “Go.” She writes at LizzyLife.com about clinging to Christ through the chaos of daily life. As a minister, speaker, and novelist, she loves finding humor in holiness and hope in heartache.

Elizabeth lives in North Carolina with her preacher husband and four spunky kids, and they were totally worth the wait. You can connect with Elizabeth on her author site, on Facebook, and on Instagram

The summer after our third anniversary, I turned to my husband and said, “And now, let there be babies!” Kevin looked at me with vague panic haunting his eyes, but said, “Okay! That sounds fun. I think?”  We expected to just get off birth control, light some candles, and four weeks later, do a happy dance around the bathroom, positive pregnancy test in hand—that’s how the grow-your-family thing seemed to be happening for all our friends. Only it didn’t happen that way for us.

Perhaps you began your adoption journey after a struggle with infertility; perhaps the Lord has simply put it on your heart to open your home to a child. Whichever route led you to pursue adoption, you must have quickly learned that the time table is out of your hands—and often involves a season of waiting. The complex and emotionally draining process of growing your family can seem to stop and start so many times you end up with whiplash—not just for your feelings, but also your faith!

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

How to Celebrate Others' Pregnancies While You Wait to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 26, 2019

Question: My sister just announced her second pregnancy, and my whole family is excited. I’m so happy for her, but it’s also been hard because I had really hoped that I’d have become a mom by now, and it feels a little like I’m getting left behind.

The happy news has even caused some relatives to ask why we’re still waiting to adopt, or when it will happen for us. I’m trying to stay positive, for my sister’s family, and also for our own adoption plans, but if I’m honest, I’m just struggling. Any tips for this adoptive mom in-waiting?

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Topics: adoption counseling, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, domestic infant adoption, adoption support group

How to Find Purpose in the Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 29, 2019

When adoptive couples come to Lifetime, most are coming from their own journey of months or years of already waiting—waiting through miscarriage, waiting through infertility, waiting, and waiting to be picked by a birth mother. So it makes sense that one of the most-asked questions hopeful parents have when they hear our Adoption Story webinars is "How long did you wait to adopt?"

When it comes to infant adoption, the wait is usually a focus, and at times a challenge, for hopeful adoptive parents.

Lifetime recently welcomed a special webinar guest, Carly, who shares her story about praying to become a mother, moving past years of fertility treatments, and welcoming her son home through open adoption. She describes how she started to see how every step of her story, including the wait, was a significant part of the journey and prepared her for what was to come. As Carly shares, "There's purpose in the wait."

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Adoption webinar, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption webinars

Stop Doing These 3 Things If You Want to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 23, 2019

So often on this blog, we share adoption tips about what to do in the process. But since there are many opportunities for hitches along the way, today we're going to share about what NOT to do in adoption, and things to be aware of.

The adoption pointers we provide below may seem like common sense, but they come from Lifetime’s years of experience working with adoptive parents and birth mothers. All of the situations we share are ones we've experienced.

Lifetime wants to make sure that you’re prepared and equipped with accurate information of what not to do. By becoming informed, you can focus on doing the right things to really ensure a safe and successful adoption!

3 things to avoid doing immediately if you want to adopt successfully:

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Topics: Adoption journey, adoption tip, adoption journal,, how to handle the adoption wait, praying for your adoption, domestic infant adoption, marriage counseling, faith in adoption

What to Do When Mother's Day is Hard

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 10, 2019

Mother’s Day isn’t easy without a child to hold and hug, when more than anything, you want that. It's so hard to have that longing, and not have something that so many other women are experiencing - motherhood. Not having a child can make the second Sunday in May so much more difficult.

If Mother’s Day brings feelings of pain or longing for you, know that you're not alone. Lifetime's Founder Mardie Caldwell is an adoptive mother herself, and shares, "A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful."

It's hard to wait when you're SO ready to be a mom. Right now, God might be saying, “Not yet. Wait.” While you have no idea what's in store, He does! His plan is more considerable than anything you can envision.

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Topics: Mother's Day, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

Waiting to Adopt: Geoff and Tracy’s Journey to Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 26, 2019

Geoff and Tracy from Texas know what it’s like to wait for a birth mother to choose them. They have been married for almost 20 years, and after spending years trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant, they decided to pursue adoption. Many families decide to adopt instead of undergoing fertility treatments, and Geoff and Tracy did the same.

Tracy was the first one to bring up adoption. At first, Geoff wasn’t ready. He wanted to wait and see if they could have a baby on their own. He was also enjoying his life as it was, with travel and his job. But, as time went on their hearts began to wish more for a baby and Geoff came around to the idea of adoption.

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Adoption story, how to handle the adoption wait

New Webinar: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2019

Lifetime is excited to announce a new webinar coming up next Wednesday, "A Heart Grown Story: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait". We'll be welcoming a very special guest speaker.

Carly is an adoptive mom who turned her own experience of longing and praying for motherhood into a passion to encourage other adoptive moms-in-waiting. Her beautiful and uplifting subscription boxes are designed to keep hopeful adoptive moms looking forward to life after adoption, while also nurturing their heart while they wait.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Adoption webinar, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption webinars, domestic infant adoption, modern adoption, called to adopt

Worth the Wait - An Adoption Story of Faith and Dedication

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 31, 2019

Each adoptive parent goes through a different journey, mixed with a wide range of emotions, thoughts, and questions. Even though adoptive mother Bethany and her husband Greg waited longer than anticipated to adopt their son, they continued to show faith and perseverance throughout it all. Bethany remained committed to the adoption process, her faith, and focused on the good.

As Bethany shares, "We are beyond thankful to our mighty God who took us through quite the journey to our sweet Gus, but looking back we can see so many times where He had us go through hard moments to prepare us for the blessing that was to come.”

Bethany and Greg’s adoption story is a testament to the well-known adoption phrase "worth the wait!"

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, adoption wait, Adoption story, how to handle the adoption wait

Successful Adoptive Parents Share How to Get Through the Holidays As You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 20, 2018

Typically, the holidays are a time for celebration and joyful moments. But when you're waiting to be chosen by a birth mother, they might be a source of stress. Your loved ones may mean well, but ask questions or make remarks that feel hurtful or insensitive. If you dread the holidays, it can help to hear from those who have "been there, done that."

Last year during the Christmas season, we asked seasoned adoptive parents: What would you tell a hopeful adoptive parent as they go through this holiday season to encourage them while they wait? What worked for you in Christmases when you were waiting to grow your family? Or what do you wish you'd have done to help the season be lighter? Today, we’re sharing their answers with you!

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Topics: Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Christmas, adoption tip, how to handle the adoption wait