Adoptive Families Blog

New Webinar: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2019

Lifetime is excited to announce a new webinar coming up next Wednesday, "A Heart Grown Story: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait". We'll be welcoming a very special guest speaker.

Carly is an adoptive mom who turned her own experience of longing and praying for motherhood into a passion to encourage other adoptive moms-in-waiting. Her beautiful and uplifting subscription boxes are designed to keep hopeful adoptive moms looking forward to life after adoption, while also nurturing their heart while they wait.

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Topics: Domestic Adoption, Open Adoption, Adoption webinar, Infant adoption, domestic infant adoption, adoption webinars, modern adoption, Christian Adoption, called to adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait

Worth the Wait - An Adoption Story of Faith and Dedication

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 31, 2019

Each adoptive parent goes through a different journey, mixed with a wide range of emotions, thoughts, and questions. Even though adoptive mother Bethany and her husband Greg waited longer than anticipated to adopt their son, they continued to show faith and perseverance throughout it all. Bethany remained committed to the adoption process, her faith, and focused on the good.

As Bethany shares, "We are beyond thankful to our mighty God who took us through quite the journey to our sweet Gus, but looking back we can see so many times where He had us go through hard moments to prepare us for the blessing that was to come.”

Bethany and Greg’s adoption story is a testament to the well-known adoption phrase "worth the wait!"

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Topics: Adoption story, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, Open Adoption, Christian Adoption

Successful Adoptive Parents Share How to Get Through the Holidays As You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 20, 2018

Typically, the holidays are a time for celebration and joyful moments. But when you're waiting to chosen by a birth mother, they might be a source of stress. Your loved ones may mean well, but ask questions or make remarks that feel hurtful or insensitive. If you dread the holidays, it can help to hear from those who have "been there, done that."

Last year during the Christmas season, we asked seasoned adoptive parents: What would you tell a hopeful adoptive parent as they go through this holiday season to encourage them while they wait? What worked for you in Christmases when you were waiting to grow your family? Or what do you wish you'd have done to help the season be lighter? Today, we’re sharing their answers with you!

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Topics: Holidays, Christmas, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, adoption tip, Waiting to Adopt

The Bottom Line About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 6, 2018

Melissa perched on the edge of the sofa, with a cup of hot coffee in her hands. She grabbed her tablet and started to eagerly browse her adoption agency's website, something that she did every morning before work. As she did, Melissa began to feel defeated. Looking at all the smiling faces of other couples waiting to adopt, she wondered to herself, "How will we stand out from the other couples? What would make a birth mother pick us to be the parents of her child? How can we compete with so many couples who are more attractive, more educated, or wealthier?"

Does this scenario sound familiar? Many hopeful adoptive parents can relate to the fear that a birth mother won't pick them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during the adoption wait is normal.  Lifetime hopes to clarify the open adoption process and provide you with some bottom line facts about being picked by a birth mother.

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Topics: adoption match, birth parents seeking adoptive families, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, birth mothers seeking families

Mother's Day Takes on the Meaning You Give It

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 11, 2018

My first Mother's Day was pretty exciting! There had been a lot of pain before that: I’d lost seven pregnancies, really wanted to become a mother, and had been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. There were times we were thinking we were going to be parents and we weren't, and I always had some feelings around Mother's Day. I had a miscarriage a week before Mother's Day, which was really hard. And then I had another one ON Mother's Day. We were getting ready to go to church, and I knew I was losing the baby!

A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful. I'm sure that some of the other adoptive moms out there might feel like that too. You’re around people (especially at church) who are celebrating moms. In the past, they’d have all the mothers at my church stand up, and that was really painful.

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Topics: how to handle the adoption wait, Mother's Day, National Birth Mother's Day, Birth Mother's Day, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, Holidays

How to Know When You Need Counseling During Your Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 16, 2018

During your adoption wait, you might find that you need extra help to work through some of the emotions that arise. Seeking help from a licensed adoption counselor can be an invaluable tool in learning ways of coping, reacting, or addressing some of the challenges and feelings.

Please know that there's no "wrong" reason for seeking adoption counseling services when you're waiting to adopt. After all, the wait can be stressful and filled with anxious highs and disappointing lows. 

Here are a few examples of scenarios for which previous adoptive families have sought adoption counseling services:

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Topics: how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, marriage counseling, counseling, Adoption journey

7 Tips for Easter When You’re Waiting to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 30, 2018

The Easter holiday is a time for family, worship, fellowship, and food. We come together with loved ones to celebrate and worship. Yet for many waiting adoptive families, holidays like Easter that center on children and family can be difficult.

There's no magic formula to “survive the holidays” while you wait to be chosen by a birth mother. What you can do to prepare is to recognize that holidays like Easter may be difficult, and to accept your emotions when they come. Here are 7 tips to help you not only get through the Easter holiday while you wait but to celebrate too:

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Easter blessing, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

How to Find the Right Adoption Support Group for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 7, 2018

If you could use extra emotional support while you wait for your baby, you might be wondering if an adoption support group is right for you. Adoption support groups can provide you with a healthy, supportive community during your adoption journey.

There are so many different support groups out there, and you might be wondering which one to join. Follow Lifetime as we share practical tips on what to look for in a support group so that you can find the right group for you!

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Topics: Support adoption, Domestic Adoption, adoption support group, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, adoption support groups

6 Things to Pay Attention to When You’re Waiting to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 5, 2018

You've checked everything off your adoption checklist, and now you're in the adoption wait. Waiting for a birth mother to choose you for an adoption match can be an incredibly trying time. The ups, downs, and unknowns of waiting for adoption can become all-consuming. During this time, some waiting adoptive parents start unknowingly neglecting that which matters most to them.

Today, Lifetime is sharing 6 things that parents waiting for adoption should avoid neglecting:

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Domestic Adoption

Before You Adopt: Explore Your City

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 8, 2018

For many couples, waiting to be chosen as adoptive parents can feel agonizing. There’s a certain amount of waiting to be expected in the infant adoption process. That's why at Lifetime, we encourage you to make the most while you're waiting for adoption in our blog series "Before You Adopt."

In this blog series for hopeful adoptive parents, we encourage you to do productive activities such as taking a childcare class, building your adoption budget, and getting practice with parenting before adoption. Today, we’re sharing a fun activity you can do while you wait to be chosen by a birth mother: explore your city.

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Topics: before you adopt, adoption readiness, Adoption preparation, Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait