Adoptive Families Blog

How to Find Purpose in the Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 29, 2019

When adoptive couples come to Lifetime, most are coming from their own journey of months or years of already waiting—waiting through miscarriage, waiting through infertility, waiting, and waiting to be picked by a birth mother. So it makes sense that one of the most-asked questions hopeful parents have when they hear our Adoption Story webinars is "How long did you wait to adopt?"

When it comes to infant adoption, the wait is usually a focus, and at times a challenge, for hopeful adoptive parents.

Lifetime recently welcomed a special webinar guest, Carly, who shares her story about praying to become a mother, moving past years of fertility treatments, and welcoming her son home through open adoption. She describes how she started to see how every step of her story, including the wait, was a significant part of the journey and prepared her for what was to come. As Carly shares, "There's purpose in the wait."

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Adoption webinar, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption webinars

Stop Doing These 3 Things If You Want to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 23, 2019

So often on this blog, we share adoption tips about what to do in the process. But since there are many opportunities for hitches along the way, today we're going to share about what NOT to do in adoption, and things to be aware of.

The adoption pointers we provide below may seem like common sense, but they come from Lifetime’s years of experience working with adoptive parents and birth mothers. All of the situations we share are ones we've experienced.

Lifetime wants to make sure that you’re prepared and equipped with accurate information of what not to do. By becoming informed, you can focus on doing the right things to really ensure a safe and successful adoption!

3 things to avoid doing immediately if you want to adopt successfully:

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Topics: Adoption journey, adoption tip, adoption journal,, how to handle the adoption wait, praying for your adoption, domestic infant adoption, marriage counseling, faith in adoption

What to Do When Mother's Day is Hard

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 10, 2019

Mother’s Day isn’t easy without a child to hold and hug, when more than anything, you want that. It's so hard to have that longing, and not have something that so many other women are experiencing - motherhood. Not having a child can make the second Sunday in May so much more difficult.

If Mother’s Day brings feelings of pain or longing for you, know that you're not alone. Lifetime's Founder Mardie Caldwell is an adoptive mother herself, and shares, "A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful."

It's hard to wait when you're SO ready to be a mom. Right now, God might be saying, “Not yet. Wait.” While you have no idea what's in store, He does! His plan is more considerable than anything you can envision.

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Topics: Mother's Day, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

Waiting to Adopt: Geoff and Tracy’s Journey to Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 26, 2019

Geoff and Tracy from Texas know what it’s like to wait for a birth mother to choose them. They have been married for almost 20 years, and after spending years trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant, they decided to pursue adoption. Many families decide to adopt instead of undergoing fertility treatments, and Geoff and Tracy did the same.

Tracy was the first one to bring up adoption. At first, Geoff wasn’t ready. He wanted to wait and see if they could have a baby on their own. He was also enjoying his life as it was, with travel and his job. But, as time went on their hearts began to wish more for a baby and Geoff came around to the idea of adoption.

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Adoption story, how to handle the adoption wait

New Webinar: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2019

Lifetime is excited to announce a new webinar coming up next Wednesday, "A Heart Grown Story: Nurturing Your Dream While You Wait". We'll be welcoming a very special guest speaker.

Carly is an adoptive mom who turned her own experience of longing and praying for motherhood into a passion to encourage other adoptive moms-in-waiting. Her beautiful and uplifting subscription boxes are designed to keep hopeful adoptive moms looking forward to life after adoption, while also nurturing their heart while they wait.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Adoption webinar, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption webinars, domestic infant adoption, modern adoption, called to adopt

Worth the Wait - An Adoption Story of Faith and Dedication

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 31, 2019

Each adoptive parent goes through a different journey, mixed with a wide range of emotions, thoughts, and questions. Even though adoptive mother Bethany and her husband Greg waited longer than anticipated to adopt their son, they continued to show faith and perseverance throughout it all. Bethany remained committed to the adoption process, her faith, and focused on the good.

As Bethany shares, "We are beyond thankful to our mighty God who took us through quite the journey to our sweet Gus, but looking back we can see so many times where He had us go through hard moments to prepare us for the blessing that was to come.”

Bethany and Greg’s adoption story is a testament to the well-known adoption phrase "worth the wait!"

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, adoption wait, Adoption story, how to handle the adoption wait

Successful Adoptive Parents Share How to Get Through the Holidays As You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 20, 2018

Typically, the holidays are a time for celebration and joyful moments. But when you're waiting to be chosen by a birth mother, they might be a source of stress. Your loved ones may mean well, but ask questions or make remarks that feel hurtful or insensitive. If you dread the holidays, it can help to hear from those who have "been there, done that."

Last year during the Christmas season, we asked seasoned adoptive parents: What would you tell a hopeful adoptive parent as they go through this holiday season to encourage them while they wait? What worked for you in Christmases when you were waiting to grow your family? Or what do you wish you'd have done to help the season be lighter? Today, we’re sharing their answers with you!

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Topics: Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Christmas, adoption tip, how to handle the adoption wait

The Bottom Line About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 6, 2018

Melissa perched on the edge of the sofa, with a cup of hot coffee in her hands. She grabbed her tablet and started to eagerly browse her adoption agency's website, something that she did every morning before work. As she did, Melissa began to feel defeated. Looking at all the smiling faces of other couples waiting to adopt, she wondered to herself, "How will we stand out from the other couples? What would make a birth mother pick us to be the parents of her child? How can we compete with so many couples who are more attractive, more educated, or wealthier?"

Does this scenario sound familiar? Many hopeful adoptive parents can relate to the fear that a birth mother won't pick them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during the adoption wait is normal.  Lifetime hopes to clarify the open adoption process and provide you with some bottom line facts about being picked by a birth mother.

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, birth mothers seeking families, birth parents seeking adoptive families, adoption match, how to handle the adoption wait

Mother's Day Takes on the Meaning You Give It

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 11, 2018

My first Mother's Day was pretty exciting! There had been a lot of pain before that: I’d lost seven pregnancies, really wanted to become a mother, and had been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. There were times we were thinking we were going to be parents and we weren't, and I always had some feelings around Mother's Day. I had a miscarriage a week before Mother's Day, which was really hard. And then I had another one ON Mother's Day. We were getting ready to go to church, and I knew I was losing the baby!

A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful. I'm sure that some of the other adoptive moms out there might feel like that too. You’re around people (especially at church) who are celebrating moms. In the past, they’d have all the mothers at my church stand up, and that was really painful.

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Topics: Birth Mother's Day, Mother's Day, Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, National Birth Mother's Day

How to Know When You Need Counseling During Your Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 16, 2018

During your adoption wait, you might find that you need extra help to work through some of the emotions that arise. Seeking help from a licensed adoption counselor can be an invaluable tool in learning ways of coping, reacting, or addressing some of the challenges and feelings.

Please know that there's no "wrong" reason for seeking adoption counseling services when you're waiting to adopt. After all, the wait can be stressful and filled with anxious highs and disappointing lows. 

Here are a few examples of scenarios for which previous adoptive families have sought adoption counseling services:

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Topics: Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, marriage counseling, counseling