Adoptive Families Blog

What is the Grief and Loss Process With Infertility?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 17, 2018

When a couple is dealing with infertility, there are generally five stages of grief and loss that they go through. Encountering these emotions is a normal and healthy way of moving from infertility toward adoption.

We all deal with grief and loss in different ways. Some people experience all five stages, while others only encounter a couple. Furthermore, it's normal to experience the stages in any order.

As a couple moves from the grief of infertility to adoption, they may experience these stages of grief and loss:

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, Infertility, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Adopting After Infertility: How Do I Know It's Right for Me?

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 4, 2018

Sometimes, people rush into adoption when they discover they are infertile without taking the time to grieve the loss of the biological child they did not have. They risk sabotaging an adoption or, worse, treating an adopted child as second best to the son or daughter they might have had.

Before you can adopt with success, you must come to terms with your infertility. For some couples, this may take years. Move at your own pace, but realize that the longer you wait, the more you delay the precious time you could have with your child.

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Topics: fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments, infertility to adoption,, Infertility

Recognizing Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 18, 2017

Each year, October is recognized as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Too many couples grieve the loss of a baby alone, never coming to terms with their loss. Lifetime observes this month with respect and sensitivity.

Keep reading to learn more about the history of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and to discover how you'll know if you're ready to turn to adoption.

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Topics: Infertility, failed fertility treatments, miscarriage, infant loss, fertility treatments, infertility to adoption,

What to Do If Your Spouse is Reluctant to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 4, 2017

When the idea of adopting comes up, one spouse might be reluctant to move forward. If prospective adoptive parents don't agree on the decision to adopt a child, it doesn’t mean that you have an unhealthy relationship, or that you won’t eventually find common ground. Keep reading to learn how you can work through this issue before embarking on an adoption journey together!

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Topics: failed fertility treatments, fertility treatments, infertility to adoption,, adoption counseling, Adopting a child, adopt a baby, Adoption preparation, Adoption process

"How Do We Know When To Stop Fertility Treatments and Try Adopting?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 19, 2017

Recently on Lifetime Adoption's Facebook page, we asked our fans what they'd tell the hopeful parents who asked this question: 
"We have had fertility problems and were just referred to another specialist. We know there are new treatments all the time, but wonder how long we can pursue this path when we truly just long to be parents. We are open to adoption, but how do you know when to keep trying for pregnancy or to switch paths to start adopting?"

We're sharing thoughtful answers from experienced adoptive families who struggled with infertility treatments today!

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, failed fertility treatments

Signs You’re Ready to Turn to Adoption (Part 2)

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 12, 2016

Last Monday, I shared with you a few signs you’re ready to turn to adoption. Today’s post is part two in my two-part series on deciding when the time has come to turn from fertility treatments to adoption.

Here are two more signs that it might be time to think about considering adoption:

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Signs You’re Ready to Turn to Adoption (Part 1)

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 5, 2016

Many couples undergoing fertility treatments wonder how they’ll know it's the right time to stop trying for a biological child and start the adoption process. It’s not a simple answer, and for every parent it is different.  In your marriage, you may find one spouse arrives at this place before the other, which is completely normal.  

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Turning the Bitter Into Blessings

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2016

Adoption IS NOT a "cure" for the hurt and loss that comes with infertility or miscarriage. As one woman puts it, “I wish those watching us adopt could understand how much hurt and pain we have been through (with infertility and miscarriages), and that even though we are on the path to adoption, those aches aren’t automatically ‘cured.’”

So true. As this adoptive mom-in-waiting describes, an adoption is never intended to be a “fix all” for the loss that happened through infertility.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

“Haven’t You Figured Out How to DO IT yet?” - My Infertility Story

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on November 3, 2016

As the eldest of five children, I grew up with three brothers and one sister. Starting when I was young, I loved to help my mom out in caring for them. Watching children felt natural to me, and I knew that when I grew up, I wanted to be a mom. I enjoyed collecting baby clothes and blankets, and kept them stored away for the child I would have one day.

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, Infant adoption, Mardie Caldwell, adoption expert, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell, Infertility, failed fertility treatments, fertility treatments