Today's article comes to us from Valerie Trumbower, a DONA Certified Postpartum Doula, a Certified Lactation Counselor and the mother for three, including a set of twins.
Life with a newborn is not easy. Yes, it’s full of super sweet baby faces and lots of cuddles, but it’s definitely not easy. I state this without reservation because I’m a Postpartum Doula, and for years I’ve lived the newborn stage over and over (and over) in the homes of new families. I LOVE what I do, and I truly feel honored to walk alongside families as they get acquainted and find their rhythm.
I say the same thing over and over when I meet with people before their baby’s arrival:
It’s just like anything else...if you know what to expect and how to handle situations you might encounter, things will go more smoothly.
But then...I worked with my first adoptive family. As I met with them before the baby arrived and went through my whole spiel and talked about my recommendation of preparing for life with a newborn, they confirmed that they had, in fact, gone to a newborn class at the local hospital. Turns out, though, that the class was geared towards pregnant couples and that they were the only ones in that room who were adopting. They also said it had been awhile; they took the class almost a year prior since they weren’t sure when they’d be matched. If I can be honest, it made me sad for them for how it must have felt to feel so different in that room. And soon after that conversation, I realized it didn’t need to be that way for adopting families and I could help!Read More