Adoptive Families Blog

The Bottom Line About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 6, 2018

Melissa perched on the edge of the sofa, with a cup of hot coffee in her hands. She grabbed her tablet and started to eagerly browse her adoption agency's website, something that she did every morning before work. As she did, Melissa began to feel defeated. Looking at all the smiling faces of other couples waiting to adopt, she wondered to herself, "How will we stand out from the other couples? What would make a birth mother pick us to be the parents of her child? How can we compete with so many couples who are more attractive, more educated, or wealthier?"

Does this scenario sound familiar? Many hopeful adoptive parents can relate to the fear that a birth mother won't pick them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during the adoption wait is normal.  Lifetime hopes to clarify the open adoption process and provide you with some bottom line facts about being picked by a birth mother.

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Topics: adoption match, birth parents seeking adoptive families, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, birth mothers seeking families

8 Creative Ideas on How to Show Gratitude This Thanksgiving

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 20, 2018

It's that time of year when showing gratitude and giving thanks is on the top of everyone's minds. Many times, Thanksgiving encourages us to think about the special things in our lives and express gratitude for them. It's a favorite holiday for many, as they're surrounded by loved ones and reminded of all that they have to be grateful for.

Whether you're in a season of hope or one of challenges, remember that you have been given "every spiritual blessing in Christ,"  in the words of Ephesians 1:3. Despite whatever challenges you're facing during your adoption journey, you can have an attitude of thankfulness.

The heart of Thanksgiving is expressing your gratitude. But in the midst of all the Thanksgiving meal prep and the tryptophan naps, it can be hard to figure out how to make time for that! Here are 8 creative ideas to refocus the thankful season:

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Topics: thanksgiving, giving thanks, adoption wait

What’s Waiting to Adopt Like for an Adoptive Dad-to-Be?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 5, 2018

What’s it like for men as they wait to become fathers through open adoption? As they support their wives and look forward to their future family, adoptive dads-to-be have their own unique ways of waiting-to-adopt. In this short live video, one of Lifetime’s hopeful adoptive dads, Joe, gives us a view from a man’s perspective.

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Topics: Father's Day, adoptive fathers, adoptive dad-to-be, adoptive dads, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt

When an Adoption is Meant-to-Be

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 18, 2018

Many adoptive parents wonder if they're on the right path with seeking an adoption. Lifetime adoptive couple Silas and Dawn shared in a recent webinar that they also felt this way. Even as they traveled to adopt their newly-born son, they still had to pinch themselves that it was really happening.

Now, they share that every detail of their son's adoption story shows them it was meant to be! If you're in the adoption wait, hearing their story can serve as a helpful reminder that you too will adopt!

Catch a short video of Silas and Dawn talking about how their son's adoption is meant-to-be! 

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Topics: Adoption webinar, Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, Open Adoption, adoptive parenting, domestic infant adoption, Adoption journey, Christian Adoption, adoption wait

How Did They Adopt So Quickly?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 14, 2018

"My husband and I have been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother for almost two years now. Meanwhile, I keep seeing couples matching and adopting on the Lifetime website. I feel like it's not fair. How did they adopt so quickly? Why them and not us?!"

Right away, Lifetime's adoption professionals can recognize couples who will adopt sooner rather than later. These couples have resolved any infertility issues, and are now focusing on their adoption.

Their focus on adoption is so sharp that they're not trying to remodel their home or shop for a new car at the same time. These couples are putting all of their efforts and resources into their adoption. They're resourceful, organized, and proactive.

Keep reading to discover how you can speed up your adoption match!

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Topics: adoption wait, adoption readiness, ready to adopt, Waiting to Adopt, domestic infant adoption, adoption match

Mother's Day Takes on the Meaning You Give It

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 11, 2018

My first Mother's Day was pretty exciting! There had been a lot of pain before that: I’d lost seven pregnancies, really wanted to become a mother, and had been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. There were times we were thinking we were going to be parents and we weren't, and I always had some feelings around Mother's Day. I had a miscarriage a week before Mother's Day, which was really hard. And then I had another one ON Mother's Day. We were getting ready to go to church, and I knew I was losing the baby!

A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful. I'm sure that some of the other adoptive moms out there might feel like that too. You’re around people (especially at church) who are celebrating moms. In the past, they’d have all the mothers at my church stand up, and that was really painful.

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Topics: how to handle the adoption wait, Mother's Day, National Birth Mother's Day, Birth Mother's Day, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, Holidays

How to Know When You Need Counseling During Your Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 16, 2018

During your adoption wait, you might find that you need extra help to work through some of the emotions that arise. Seeking help from a licensed adoption counselor can be an invaluable tool in learning ways of coping, reacting, or addressing some of the challenges and feelings.

Please know that there's no "wrong" reason for seeking adoption counseling services when you're waiting to adopt. After all, the wait can be stressful and filled with anxious highs and disappointing lows. 

Here are a few examples of scenarios for which previous adoptive families have sought adoption counseling services:

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Topics: how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, marriage counseling, counseling, Adoption journey

7 Tips for Easter When You’re Waiting to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 30, 2018

The Easter holiday is a time for family, worship, fellowship, and food. We come together with loved ones to celebrate and worship. Yet for many waiting adoptive families, holidays like Easter that center on children and family can be difficult.

There's no magic formula to “survive the holidays” while you wait to be chosen by a birth mother. What you can do to prepare is to recognize that holidays like Easter may be difficult, and to accept your emotions when they come. Here are 7 tips to help you not only get through the Easter holiday while you wait but to celebrate too:

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Easter blessing, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

How to Find the Right Adoption Support Group for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 7, 2018

If you could use extra emotional support while you wait for your baby, you might be wondering if an adoption support group is right for you. Adoption support groups can provide you with a healthy, supportive community during your adoption journey.

There are so many different support groups out there, and you might be wondering which one to join. Follow Lifetime as we share practical tips on what to look for in a support group so that you can find the right group for you!

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Topics: Support adoption, Domestic Adoption, adoption support group, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, adoption support groups

6 Things to Pay Attention to When You’re Waiting to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 5, 2018

You've checked everything off your adoption checklist, and now you're in the adoption wait. Waiting for a birth mother to choose you for an adoption match can be an incredibly trying time. The ups, downs, and unknowns of waiting for adoption can become all-consuming. During this time, some waiting adoptive parents start unknowingly neglecting that which matters most to them.

Today, Lifetime is sharing 6 things that parents waiting for adoption should avoid neglecting:

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Domestic Adoption