Adoptive Families Blog

What You Need to Know About Birth Mother Substance Use

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 19, 2019

When you begin the adoption process, your adoption professional will ask you several questions to determine your adoption preferences.

As Lifetime asks you what kinds of substance exposure you're open to in your baby, we understand that your main concern is the health of your future child. 

The expectant mothers that Lifetime Adoption serves are typically already facing personal challenges when they discover that they're pregnant. And sometimes, their challenges include substance use or addiction. While most of the women that Lifetime works with don't use any drugs or alcohol during their pregnancies, we do occasionally help women who are struggling with substance use issues.

This tends to make some hopeful adoptive parents anxious. We understand that you want to make sure the baby you adopt is healthy and safe. At Lifetime Adoption, we work hard to find the right adoption situation for each adoptive family, birth mother, and child. That includes making sure you're comfortable with substance exposure in your baby’s background.

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Topics: Infant adoption, prenatal drug exposure, drug-exposed baby, relationship with birth mother, adoption preferences, substance use during pregnancy, domestic infant adoption

"Why Are Your Birth Parents' Preferences So Specific?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 5, 2017

Here's a question that was asked during one of Lifetime's recent Facebook Live video sessions: "I've checked out the birth parents seeking families on your website. Some have very specific things they’re looking for in adoptive parents. Why is that? Do you ask birth parents to open up on their preferences and also look at other families?" This is a great question, and we're going to share our answer with you here today!

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Topics: Birthmother, birth mothers seeking families, Birth Mothers, birth parents seeking adoptive families, choosing an adoptive family, adoption preferences

Why You Need to Be Honest About Race in Your Adoption Preferences

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 24, 2017

We recently came across a great article, Stunning Photos Of Biracial Twins Reveal The Absurdity Of Racism (IMAGES), and can see a connection to adoption choices and preferences.

Hopeful adoptive parents should check their expectations if they have a certain “racial makeup” in mind that they are, or are not, open to. For example, if a biracial adoptive couple is seeking a match with a woman pregnant with a baby who would essentially be half Caucasian and half African American, they should be aware that genetics, such as with these twins, can only predict so much when it comes to the appearance of a child. It’s impossible to control a child’s skin tone or features. At Lifetime, we’ve worked with adoptive couples of all races who have had to address fears or hang-ups about being a “picture perfect” family, based on tradition or their own family’s expectations. As with the amazing biracial twins mentioned in the article above, even a biological parent of mixed race doesn’t necessarily influence the skin tone or facial features of a child. We see these rare and beautiful twins as a great example of loving a child as an individual, for their unique gifts and abilities to be nurtured and directed through healthy parenting. As the article states, where does the line between “Caucasian” or “African American” end, especially for children of mixed race?

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Topics: adoption preferences, race preferences in adoption, biracial adoption, race preferences, ethnicity preferences in adoption

Adoption Q&A: Gender Preferences in Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 12, 2017

Question: "We've already bought a lot of things for a girl, but we’d be open to a boy or girl. Is it OK to hope we adopt a girl?"

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Topics: Infant adoption, Domestic Adoption, adoption Q&A, adoption preferences