Last Monday, I shared with you a few signs you’re ready to turn to adoption. Today’s post is part two in my two-part series on deciding when the time has come to turn from fertility treatments to adoption.
Here are two more signs that it might be time to think about considering adoption:
- You, your spouse, or your doctor feel like it’s not going to happen.
Is there a feeling of lost hope? Sometimes, fertility treatments can be like a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you believe it’s not going to happen, your body believes that. When you’ve lost faith and hope that fertility treatments will work, you may be affecting your outcome. Fertility treatments make your life feel as if it’s out of your control, and they can also put a strain on your relationship. If you get to the point that you hate everything about the fertility treatments, maybe it’s time to take a break and explore adoption. And, when your doctor expresses doubt that a couple will get pregnant, it may be the final straw.
- You’re concerned about money.
In-vitro fertility treatments range from $10,000 to $14,000 or more; they’re definitely not cheap. Many couples have found they have to take a second mortgage out on their home and skip vacations in order continue fertility treatments. It’s better to plan ahead than to get to the end of fertility treatments and be deep in debt then turn to infant adoption only to discover it’s not free.
It’s important to understand that considering adoption doesn’t mean you’re giving up on having a biological child. It simply means that you want to become a mom now, rather than continuing to wait until fertility treatments are successful. Many couples adopt, and later experience the joy of being pregnant, either with or without medical intervention.
You can discover more about infant adoption by reading and hearing adoptive couples’ stories. These stories allow you to learn about open adoption and what families experienced during their open adoption journey. Sign up for a free webinar series of open adoption stories.