Adoptive Families Blog

Get a Real-Life Glimpse Into Two Types of Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 24, 2019

"Our relationship is very near and dear to my heart, and I sincerely love these women. 
Their sacrifice allowed me to grow my family!"

Adoption relationships can be easily misunderstood, until you see them through the lives of actual adoptive families and birth parents who came together for a child’s adoption.

Today, we hear from Lifetime adoptive mother-in-waiting Emily; she shares about her relationships with their sons' birth mothers. You'll discover how open adoption allows for a flexible and respectful relationship between adoptive families and birth mothers!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption journey, Waiting to Adopt, Adoption story, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?

How to Deal With Fear About Birth Parents

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 17, 2019

Many adoptive families fear relationships with their child’s birth family. They are unsure of how it will impact their relationship with their child. Patricia Dischler, author of Because I Loved You, helps adoptive parents understand what it means to have a relationship with their child’s birth family. Today, over 90% of domestic adoptions are open adoptions, with relationships between birth families and adoptive children.

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Topics: Open Adoption, visit with birth family, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?, is open adoption co-parenting?

How to Use a Loan to Pay for Your Adoption Expenses

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 9, 2019

Each year thousands of couples are able to realize the joy of parenthood through adoption. During the adoption process, fees are due for services like obtaining a home study, facilitating a match with a birth mother, and legal representation.

In addition to adoption fees, there are expenses such as the cost to create and print adoption profiles, hospital costs, birth-related expenses, and the costs associated with adoption travel (flights, fuel, lodging, etc.)

Fortunately, there are several financing and funding resources available, providing the route to adoption at a reasonable cost. Obtaining an adoption loan makes adoption feasible for many couples who wouldn't otherwise be able to afford it. With an adoption loan, you can typically enjoy access to the funds you need right away! Read More

Topics: Adoption Fees, cost of adopting, adoption financing, adoption loan, adoption loans, how to afford adoption, affording adoption

"We’re forever thankful for her birth parents' sacrifice and love!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 3, 2019

Oftentimes, Lifetime connects with adoptive couples in the midst of their route to parenthood, at a crossroad where loss meets the possibility for positive things ahead through adoption. In this post, Lifetime mom, Lisa, shares how she and her husband Frank moved from infertility to adoption.

In this family’s story, we hear how Frank and Lisa moved through their adoption wait to a match and embraced the opportunity open adoption gave them to develop a friendship with their daughter’s birth parents.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption story, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?

6 Things To Do If You Hope To Adopt In 2019

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 27, 2018

Choosing adoption to grow your family can be overwhelming at first since there's so much to learn and to do. Before you can think of yourselves as officially hoping to adopt, there are steps, terms, and questions that every future adoptive parent needs to understand to reach their adoption dream successfully.

If you'd like to adopt in 2019, here are six things you need to be doing right now:

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Topics: Newborn Adoption, adoption readiness, domestic infant adoption, how to be successful in domestic infant adoption, ready to adopt

5 Reasons You Should Start Your Adoption Before the New Year

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 21, 2018

When you've decided that adoption is the way you'll grow your family, sometimes it's hard to know when to start the adoption process. Many hopeful adoptive parents wonder if there’s a perfect time to begin their adoption journey. There’s no better time than right now to begin the path towards adopting the baby you’ve been praying for!

Here are the top 5 reasons why it's beneficial to start your adoption journey before the New Year:

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Domestic Adoption, I want to adopt a baby, adopt a baby, domestic infant adoption, application to adopt, ready to adopt

Successful Adoptive Parents Share How to Get Through the Holidays As You Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 20, 2018

Typically, the holidays are a time for celebration and joyful moments. But when you're waiting to be chosen by a birth mother, they might be a source of stress. Your loved ones may mean well, but ask questions or make remarks that feel hurtful or insensitive. If you dread the holidays, it can help to hear from those who have "been there, done that."

Last year during the Christmas season, we asked seasoned adoptive parents: What would you tell a hopeful adoptive parent as they go through this holiday season to encourage them while they wait? What worked for you in Christmases when you were waiting to grow your family? Or what do you wish you'd have done to help the season be lighter? Today, we’re sharing their answers with you!

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Topics: Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Christmas, adoption tip, how to handle the adoption wait

"Every smile, giggle, and coo was designed by God's perfect plan!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 12, 2018

Earlier this year, adoptive couple Derek and Jennifer were blessed to adopt a baby boy through Lifetime. In this family’s story, we hear from Jennifer about receiving "the call," the bond they've established with their son Elijah's birth mother, and their experience with becoming parents together through an open adoption.

Now a forever family, adoptive mom Jennifer shares their beautiful story in this special guest blog post!

Because we live on the West Coast, I wasn't surprised to hear my cell phone ring as the sun began to rise over the mountains.

As I pulled my phone closer and tried to focus my blurry eyes, I saw the call was coming from Grass Valley, California. I held my breath as I answered knowing that Lifetime Adoption called with "good news" outside of business hours. My husband and I listened to the voice on the other end of the phone intently. She spoke of a birth mother who chose us to raise the precious child growing inside of her. We listened carefully to every word and detail and soon learned a baby boy was due in just over three weeks.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Newborn Adoption, Adoption story, what is open adoption like?, adoption experience in the hospital

The Bottom Line About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 6, 2018

Melissa perched on the edge of the sofa, with a cup of hot coffee in her hands. She grabbed her tablet and started to eagerly browse her adoption agency's website, something that she did every morning before work. As she did, Melissa began to feel defeated. Looking at all the smiling faces of other couples waiting to adopt, she wondered to herself, "How will we stand out from the other couples? What would make a birth mother pick us to be the parents of her child? How can we compete with so many couples who are more attractive, more educated, or wealthier?"

Does this scenario sound familiar? Many hopeful adoptive parents can relate to the fear that a birth mother won't pick them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during the adoption wait is normal.  Lifetime hopes to clarify the open adoption process and provide you with some bottom line facts about being picked by a birth mother.

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, birth mothers seeking families, birth parents seeking adoptive families, adoption match, how to handle the adoption wait

She Gets it from You: Author’s Letter to Daughter’s Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 27, 2018

Recently one of Lifetime’s adoptive moms introduced us to author Melissa Radke’s book, Eat Cake. Be Brave., a personal testimony of faith, courage, accepting one’s strengths and unique path in life, including infertility, miscarriage, and adoption. In Chapter 19, Dear Miss Danielle, we were moved to read Radke’s heartfelt letter to her daughter’s birth mother. This real-life encounter with modern adoption, as seen through an everyday adoptive mom (with a great sense of humor and ability to share words as if you’re talking with a friend), will speak to so many of our followers and families.

If you’re a hopeful adoptive parent, or if you’re already raising a child through adoption, you’ll be touched by this excerpt from Chapter 19 of Eat Cake. Be Brave. Perhaps you’ll identify with the hard emotions each side of a child’s adoption face as they come together for a match. Or you’ll anticipate the great love that you’ll have for the ONE mother who chooses you to adopt her baby, and how you hope you can find just the right words to tell her how much she means to your family, how much you admire her brave love. You might even read this as a birth mother, and be reassured that you are not forgotten, and some of the brightest things about your child will remind his or her adoptive parents of you in the best ways.

Because of modern adoption, a child can grow up knowing that she inherits good things from both sides of her story.

With permission from Melissa and David Radke, we are honored to share this letter to her daughter's birth mother excerpt from Eat Cake. Be Brave. with you below.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Book, Adoption story, infertility to adoption,, books about adoption, what is open adoption like?, modern adoption, Christian adoption book