Adoptive Families Blog

Learning About Your Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 22, 2013

As a prospective adoptive parent, your main worry will be whether the birth parent you connect with (most likely the birth mother) will complete the adoption. Your first task is to confirm her sincerity in the adoption. This can be tough, especially if she is located far from where you live, making a face-to-face meeting unlikely in your early contacts.

In your first phone call, find out where she is calling from. Get both the location and phone number. With this information, you may be able to enlist the help of an adoption attorney or social worker in her area to meet with her and verify that what she is claiming is true. Most scammers will be scared away when you tell them you have someone coming to see them.

Ask a birth mother to provide information on her doctor, then take the time or ask your adoption professional to call the doctor’s office and find out if she is a current patient. If she tells you where she lives, you can try to verify that the address is real through an Internet search.

This information was excerpted from a book written by Lifetime Founder Mardie Caldwell, Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide. If you are contracted with an adoption professional like Lifetime Adoption, they will screen all potential birth parents for you. To learn more about how Lifetime Adoption can adopt a baby or child, please call: (530) 432-7373 or visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com.

Topics: Talking to Birthmothers, Avoiding Adoption Fraud and Scams