There are many adoption choices laid out before you. It may be surprising to find your heart opening in ways you did not anticipate. Maybe, in the beginning of this whole process, you and your spouse had a very narrow picture of adoption. Maybe your family had a specific age, sex and background of the child you plan to adopt. There is no correct picture. There is only your way and what feels suited to you and your spouse. Adoption preferences are different for everyone.
As the progression unfolds, you may be stunned at the changes that are taking place within you. You may feel more open to the type of child you are considering, or you may be astonished by the change in your desires. Just as long as the whole family is on board with the modification to the plan, it can only be a good thing. In many cases, changes in preference for race or gender will expand your opportunities for a swift adoption.
You may want to sit down as a family and have an open and frank discussion about expectations and dreams. It is vital that everyone in your household be on the same page in a decision of this magnitude. You might choose to write out a list of all the factors involved. Let each family member have their say, without judgment or argument.
Let the Lord direct your steps. After you all come to a consensus, lay that decision at the feet of God. Ask him to confirm for you that this change in plan is His will. Hopefully, you will be inspired and encouraged to continue on your journey to a successful adoption. The day you hold that tiny life in your arms, all the bumps along the road will be ancient history. At Lifetime Adoption, we believe strongly that there is a child for every family that has a tender heart for parenting.
If you haven’t yet read Mardie Caldwell’s book, Called to Adoption, it is a highly recommended read. This book is overflowing with tender wisdom and truth. It will translate the adoption steps in clear and flowing language that speaks to the hopes of today’s generation. It may alleviate your doubts about whether adoption is right for you and prepare you for the challenges along the way.
Step by step, task by task, you are being led down a narrow path. You might not be able to see around the corner in the bend, but rejoice! It will all be made clear very soon. In Psalms 119:105, we can all be encouraged “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.” Stay on the trail. Follow the light and trust in God’s provision over your life. We wish you a joyous and prosperous Christmas season.