Adoptive Families Blog

Adoption Q&A: Infertility to Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 15, 2014

This adoption question and answer was excerpted from Lifetime Adoption founder Mardie Caldwell’s book Called to Adoption. Mardie is both an adoption expert and an adoptive mother herself.

Question: How do I know when it’s time to move on from fertility treatments?

Answer: I wish there was a simple answer. For me, it was when I realized that I wanted to be a mother more than I wanted to have a biological child. Adoption could make that happen for me.

You see, choosing adoption doesn’t have to mean giving up on being pregnant. I just knew that I was ready to be a mommy and God was leading me toward the dream down a different road. A number of years later, I was blessed with a successful pregnancy, but I never questioned the unique way my family came together.

Spend time together talking and praying about what each of you wants for your family. Adoption doesn’t have to be closing the door on pregnancy, just be sure you know how your adoption professional feels about a pregnancy while adopting. At our center, we will place your file on hold during this time and start up again when so advised. Other organizations may have different policies, so be sure you ask.

Here’s a special message to you, from Mardie:

Infertility sometimes feels as though your body doesn’t work correctly.

Perhaps it is just God calling you to another purpose, another part of His perfect plan? He is calling you to be more than you are and to love a child born outside of your womb, yet inside of your heart.

“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.”
-1 Corinthians 6:19, 20

Are you ready to step forward from infertility treatments towards adoption? Please give Lifetime Adoption Center a call at (530) 271-1740.

Topics: Adoption, Infertility