Are you called to adoption? Many people feel a desire to become parents, but far fewer feel a calling to become adoptive parents. The Lord has placed a deep yearning in the hearts of these people to love and nurture a child who is not biologically theirs. If you think you are being called to be adoptive parents, God has the answers to your adoption questions.
“And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.” Matthew 18:5
1. Is God calling you to be an adoptive parent?
Some people have experienced difficulties having their own children, and know that adoption is their opportunity to hold a child in their arms. Others feel a pull in their heart to expand existing families. Single mothers and even grandparents may hear God calling them to parent an adopted child. If you believe God is calling you to adopt, pray that God’s plans be revealed to you.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11
2. Is it the right time for me to adopt a child?
For parents who have experienced infertility issues, time to grieve the loss of a biological child is an important process. Repeated failures at costly fertility treatments can lead to emotional and financial stress, and rushing into adoption proceedings may not be ideal immediately after unsuccessful fertility attempts. Take the time to pray to come to terms with your infertility and allow yourself the time to go through the grieving process if you need it.
God’s timing may not always be in line with our own timing. If you are questioning whether or not it is a good time for you to adopt, trust that God has a purpose and plan for you and your adoptive journey. Give God your adoption questions, hopes and fears, and have faith in His desire to give you His blessing.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1
3. Can we afford adoption?
Adoption costs may seem like an obstacle towards realizing your call to be a parent, particularly for couples who have already invested a tremendous amount of resources in fertility treatments. The typical domestic adoption can cost between $12,500 and $55,500. Adopting a baby or child from another state can add travel and additional legal fees, and some adoptive parents offer to pay expenses for the birth mother, as well.
Various options to finance adoption are available, including adoption loans or grants. Some employers offer adoption benefits that can be used towards fees, and government subsidies are available to make adoption affordable. Another way to make adoption affordable is to save towards adoption; setting a household budget and doing away with extra, unnecessary expenses each month. Cutting out movies, lattes, and meals out, or carpooling to save gas, can help you allocate money towards your adoption fees. Pray for financial wisdom and creative solutions towards adoption financing.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8
4. What if adoption doesn’t happen for us?
The greatest struggle parents can go through during the adoptive process is doubt and fear. What if the birth mother changes her mind? What if we can’t come up with the fees? Will our family accept our decision? Trusting in God’s plan and acknowledging that God is in control can help when you are overcome by fears. Be strong in your faith, knowing that God has called you to not just any child, but to a particular child that needs your love and nurturing.
“Do not let your heart be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me.” John 14:1
If God is calling you to be a parent of an adopted child, offer your adoption questions and fears to Him daily in prayer. If you are resolute and steadfast in your decision, the blessing of an adopted child will come to you. “Everything is possible for him who believes.” Mark 9:23