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The Bottom Line About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 6, 2018

Melissa perched on the edge of the sofa, with a cup of hot coffee in her hands. She grabbed her tablet and started to eagerly browse her adoption agency's website, something that she did every morning before work. As she did, Melissa began to feel defeated. Looking at all the smiling faces of other couples waiting to adopt, she wondered to herself, "How will we stand out from the other couples? What would make a birth mother pick us to be the parents of her child? How can we compete with so many couples who are more attractive, more educated, or wealthier?"

Does this scenario sound familiar? Many hopeful adoptive parents can relate to the fear that a birth mother won't pick them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during the adoption wait is normal.  Lifetime hopes to clarify the open adoption process and provide you with some bottom line facts about being picked by a birth mother.

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Topics: adoption match, birth parents seeking adoptive families, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, birth mothers seeking families

She Gets it from You: Author’s Letter to Daughter’s Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 27, 2018

Recently one of Lifetime’s adoptive moms introduced us to author Melissa Radke’s book, Eat Cake. Be Brave., a personal testimony of faith, courage, accepting one’s strengths and unique path in life, including infertility, miscarriage, and adoption. In Chapter 19, Dear Miss Danielle, we were moved to read Radke’s heartfelt letter to her daughter’s birth mother. This real-life encounter with modern adoption, as seen through an everyday adoptive mom (with a great sense of humor and ability to share words as if you’re talking with a friend), will speak to so many of our followers and families.

If you’re a hopeful adoptive parent, or if you’re already raising a child through adoption, you’ll be touched by this excerpt from Chapter 19 of Eat Cake. Be Brave. Perhaps you’ll identify with the hard emotions each side of a child’s adoption face as they come together for a match. Or you’ll anticipate the great love that you’ll have for the ONE mother who chooses you to adopt her baby, and how you hope you can find just the right words to tell her how much she means to your family, how much you admire her brave love. You might even read this as a birth mother, and be reassured that you are not forgotten, and some of the brightest things about your child will remind his or her adoptive parents of you in the best ways.

Because of modern adoption, a child can grow up knowing that she inherits good things from both sides of her story.

With permission from Melissa and David Radke, we are honored to share this excerpt from Eat Cake. Be Brave. with you below.

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Topics: modern adoption, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, Adoption story, infertility to adoption,, Adoption Book, books about adoption, Christian adoption book

8 Creative Ideas on How to Show Gratitude This Thanksgiving

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 20, 2018

It's that time of year when showing gratitude and giving thanks is on the top of everyone's minds. Many times, Thanksgiving encourages us to think about the special things in our lives and express gratitude for them. It's a favorite holiday for many, as they're surrounded by loved ones and reminded of all that they have to be grateful for.

Whether you're in a season of hope or one of challenges, remember that you have been given "every spiritual blessing in Christ,"  in the words of Ephesians 1:3. Despite whatever challenges you're facing during your adoption journey, you can have an attitude of thankfulness.

The heart of Thanksgiving is expressing your gratitude. But in the midst of all the Thanksgiving meal prep and the tryptophan naps, it can be hard to figure out how to make time for that! Here are 8 creative ideas to refocus the thankful season:

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Topics: thanksgiving, giving thanks, adoption wait

Behind the Scenes of Adam & Kristi’s Decision to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2018

"Are we meant to adopt?"

Lifetime adoptive couple Adam and Kristi share part one of their adoption story

 

"This is never going to happen." Many people who walk through infertility often identify with the hopelessness that can come of trying and trying to build a family, without success.

Moving from infertility to a decision to become a family through adoption is a deep and thoughtful process. There are layers of grief and disappointment mixed together with the hope of looking forward to the good that will come from their determination not to give up.

We often are asked: "How do you know when to move from fertility treatments to adoption?"

For every adoptive parent, the answer to that honest question will vary. However, one recurring thread in nearly every Lifetime Adoption testimony is the sense that adoption is where the story was leading all along.

As you’ll see in Adam and Kristi’s story, a sense of peace, relief, and renewed hope came from answering a call to adoption.

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, Adoption journey, Adoption story, fertility treatments to adoption, fertility treatments, Infertility, Waiting to Adopt

"If children are in need, why isn't adoption free?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 6, 2018

"It seems like adoption is so expensive, almost like it is buying a baby. Why does it have to cost so much when all we want to do is help a child in need?"

Many families have a similar reaction when they discover that there is a cost to private adoption.  Learning more about the costs often help families understand who the fees go to and what they are for. Today, Lifetime is giving you a quick rundown to help understand adoption costs!

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Topics: how much does adoption cost, cost of adopting, how much does it cost to adopt, Adopting a child, Adoption Fees, why is adoption so expensive

“I Love to See People’s Dreams Come True”

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 1, 2018

Lifetime's Founder Shares Her Vision

Lifetime's Founder Mardie Caldwell knows the deep-seated need that motivates couples to seek adoption, having endured seven miscarriages before turning to adoption. Mardie's experience drove her desire to help others realize the joy of parenthood through adoption, and she opened Lifetime Adoption in 1986.

“I love to see people’s dreams come true!" she says. "I want adoption to be successful for everyone – the birth family, the adoptive parents, and the children."

Keep reading to learn more about Lifetime Adoption, how adoption has changed over the years, and get Mardie's #1 tip for hopeful adoptive couples!

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Topics: adoption expert Mardie Caldwell, Mardie Caldwell

How to Host a Modern Sip and See After You Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 25, 2018

If you're matched with a birth mother, you're probably feeling a range of emotions, from excitement to concern. You might be wondering “is it appropriate to have a baby shower when we’re adopting?”

While it's true that everyone in your life will want to celebrate your baby's arrival, sometimes a traditional baby shower isn't appropriate for adoptive families. Lifetime shares why we recommend an adoption sip and see instead, and how you can best celebrate in this way!

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Topics: baby shower, adoption sip-and-see, post-adoption

What is the Grief and Loss Process With Infertility?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 17, 2018

When a couple is dealing with infertility, there are generally five stages of grief and loss that they go through. Encountering these emotions is a normal and healthy way of moving from infertility toward adoption.

We all deal with grief and loss in different ways. Some people experience all five stages, while others only encounter a couple. Furthermore, it's normal to experience the stages in any order.

As a couple moves from the grief of infertility to adoption, they may experience these stages of grief and loss:

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, Infertility, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

How Can Your Employer Help You Fund Your Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 9, 2018

You might not realize it, but your employer might be able to help make your adoption a reality! More and more companies are starting to offer adoption benefits to their employees. Keep reading to discover how your employer might be able to help you fund your adoption!

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Topics: affording adoption, how to afford adoption, afford to adopt, fund my adoption, fund your adoption, employee adoption benefits

Get 7 Tips on How to Support Your Loved One's Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 3, 2018

The goal of today’s post is to help improve your family member's and friends' understanding of how adoption works today. If they wish to share in your adoption experience, this information can serve as a starting point for conversations about how your adoption will touch everyone.

We encourage you to share this post with your loved ones!

If someone you care about is hoping to adopt, you become part of their adoption circle by supporting them. As such, you’ll need insights and information about adoption. Whether you’re experienced or unfamiliar with adoption, this blog post will be beneficial. We encourage you to as you participate in their lives as an adoptive family.

Here are 7 ideas on how you can support your loved one during their adoption journey:

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Topics: Support adoption, Open Adoption, Adoption Tips, modern adoption, family member is adopting