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An Online Course Created Specifically for Adopting Families!

Posted by Guest Contributor on March 18, 2020

Today's article comes to us from Valerie Trumbower, a DONA Certified Postpartum Doula, a Certified Lactation Counselor and the mother for three, including a set of twins.

Her online courses Expecting 101™ and Expecting 101...You’re Adopting™ have helped many families prepare for life with their newborns. For all things baby, follow her on Instagram @newparentsacademy

Life with a newborn is not easy. Yes, it’s full of super sweet baby faces and lots of cuddles, but it’s definitely not easy. I state this without reservation because I’m a Postpartum Doula, and for years I’ve lived the newborn stage over and over (and over) in the homes of new families. I LOVE what I do, and I truly feel honored to walk alongside families as they get acquainted and find their rhythm. 

I say the same thing over and over when I meet with people before their baby’s arrival: 

It’s just like anything else...if you know what to expect and how to handle situations you might encounter, things will go more smoothly.  

But then...I worked with my first adoptive family. As I met with them before the baby arrived and went through my whole spiel and talked about my recommendation of preparing for life with a newborn, they confirmed that they had, in fact, gone to a newborn class at the local hospital. Turns out, though, that the class was geared towards pregnant couples and that they were the only ones in that room who were adopting. They also said it had been awhile; they took the class almost a year prior since they weren’t sure when they’d be matched. If I can be honest, it made me sad for them for how it must have felt to feel so different in that room. And soon after that conversation, I realized it didn’t need to be that way for adopting families and I could help!

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Topics: Infant adoption, baby registry for adoption, domestic infant adoption, bottle feeding adopted baby, bonding with adopted baby

Is It My Fault I'm Still in the Adoption Wait?

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 12, 2019

Today's article comes to us from Elizabeth Laing Thompson, the author of When God Says, “Wait” and When God Says, “Go.” She writes at about clinging to Christ through the chaos of daily life. As a minister, speaker, and novelist, she loves finding humor in holiness and hope in heartache.

Elizabeth lives in North Carolina with her preacher husband and four spunky kids, and they were totally worth the wait. You can connect with Elizabeth on her author site, on Facebook, and on Instagram

The summer after our third anniversary, I turned to my husband and said, “And now, let there be babies!” Kevin looked at me with vague panic haunting his eyes, but said, “Okay! That sounds fun. I think?”  We expected to just get off birth control, light some candles, and four weeks later, do a happy dance around the bathroom, positive pregnancy test in hand—that’s how the grow-your-family thing seemed to be happening for all our friends. Only it didn’t happen that way for us.

Perhaps you began your adoption journey after a struggle with infertility; perhaps the Lord has simply put it on your heart to open your home to a child. Whichever route led you to pursue adoption, you must have quickly learned that the time table is out of your hands—and often involves a season of waiting. The complex and emotionally draining process of growing your family can seem to stop and start so many times you end up with whiplash—not just for your feelings, but also your faith!

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

How to Get Ready To Bring Your Baby Home

Posted by Guest Contributor on July 31, 2018

After you've endured the waiting stage of adoption, you'll be joyfully preparing for a new arrival. You may suddenly find yourself wondering what’s really essential. From diapers to dimmer switches, this handy guide should help you prepare your home for your long awaited baby!

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Topics: babyproofing, life after adoption, bonding with adopted baby

Parenthood is Within Your Reach

Posted by Guest Contributor on January 12, 2013

One day, two brothers were fishing in the Sea of Galilee. Simon Peter and Andrew were not having any success that day. They were weary and frustrated. The men had cast nets all night long and came up empty.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Christian Adoption, Family

The Remodel Party

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 29, 2012

A few years ago, we knew a couple that purchased a fixer upper to completely remodel. On the weekend before construction was to begin, we were invited to a large neighborhood destruction party! About twenty families showed up in grungy clothes; ready to play! Everyone was given spray paint, paint brushes, hammers and even shaving cream. The idea was to paint, play and destroy in a safe and controlled way!

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Topics: General, Economy, Savings

Gun Free Home Safety

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 26, 2012

Did you know that there are safer alternatives for protection than a gun in the home? Many of us want to feel sheltered and secure in our houses, but do not believe in owning firearms. I am not commenting in any way on our Second Amendment rights. I am suggesting that we have viable and feasible alternatives to gun ownership (if we so choose).

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Topics: Adoption, Parenting, Family, General

A New Christmas Tradition

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 10, 2012

When we adopted our daughter, it was important for us to establish holiday traditions unique to our family. We wanted to create cherished memories for years to come. We came up with a fun idea that has been going strong now for her fifteen years of life. It is something we look forward to each year and maybe our daughter will establish the same tradition with her children, someday.

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Topics: Adoption, Christian Adoption, Parenting, General, Holidays

Three Things to Know About Teenagers

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 4, 2012

  1. Many teenagers will set the ringtone on their cell phones to a decibel that is higher than most teachers and parents can hear. My children tell me it sounds kind of like a dog whistle. Kids can hear the tone and adults are oblivious.
  2. Many older children and teens establish Facebook pages to benefit their parents. These “pages” are completely made up. Then, the teens set up a real site under a code name for all their friends to see.
  3. Did you know that teenagers aren’t out to get you? They don’t want to push your buttons or make you feel bad about yourself. Young people believe in their hearts that they know more than you and that their way is the right way. They feel sorry for you, because you are so blind to reality.
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Topics: Adoption, Parenting, Family

Playgroup Etiquette for Mommy

Posted by Guest Contributor on November 28, 2012

If you are a new Mom or waiting to become one for the first time, you will soon discover the phenomenon of Mommy/baby playgroups. It can be a life saver, during those long winter months stuck in the house and banging into walls. Staying home with an infant or toddler can be isolating and it is ever so important to connect with other Moms. However, there are some unwritten rules of etiquette that should be adhered to. The goal is to assure a pleasant experience for babies and mommies alike.

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Topics: Adoption, Parenting

Crazy Parenting Tip

Posted by Guest Contributor on November 26, 2012

When my children were small, I was deliriously happy and exhausted every hour of every day. I was in constant awe and wonder that I was really a parent and that these two beautiful kids were really mine. Their smiles were infectious and their hugs ---addicting. I thanked the Lord for blessing me with two amazing children, but often felt inadequate to handle the daily challenges.

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Topics: Parenting, Family, General