Mardie Caldwell, author of “Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide” answers a common adoption question with adoptive parents.
“Why them and not us? My wife and I have been waiting to adopt a newborn for almost three years now. Meanwhile, two of the couples in our support group have already found a baby, one after only six months.”
From across the room I can spot who will be matched with a birth mother sooner rather than later. They have absolutely resolved any infertility issues and they have made adoption the focus on their life. They are not remodeling or shopping for a new car. They are diligently searching for their child. They are organized and resourceful; they are proactive.
I remember one such couple, Dave and Leslie. They showed up at our new prospective parents meeting with the photographs for their profiles already taken. Dave asked what they should do next. I started going down the list. The writing of their profile was done, ready for posting on the website, and they had already seen their attorney. So I suggested they do the paperwork to get ready for their home study.
“Oh, that’s finished,” said Leslie. So I advised them to go ahead and contact a social worker to do their home study. Leslie looked at me matter-of-factly. “She’s coming over to the house on Tuesday,” she said.
Dave and Leslie were several months ahead of the others and that much closer to finding their baby.