Adoptive Families Blog

How Did They Adopt So Quickly?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 14, 2020

"My husband and I have been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother for almost two years now. Meanwhile, whenever I check the Lifetime website, I keep seeing couples matching and adopting. 

I feel like it's not fair. How did they adopt so quickly? Why them and not us?!"

Right away, Lifetime's adoption professionals can recognize couples who will adopt sooner rather than later. These couples have resolved any issues surrounding infertility, and are now focusing on their adoption. Their focus on adoption is so sharp that they're not trying to remodel their home or shop for a new car at the same time. These couples are putting all of their efforts and resources into their adoption. They're resourceful, organized, and proactive.

Keep reading to discover how you can speed up your adoption match!

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, adoption readiness, adoption match, domestic infant adoption, ready to adopt

Am I Too Old to Adopt?

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on January 8, 2020

Midlife is a time when many people reflect on the lives they have built for themselves and plan for the next leg of their journey. Perhaps you have embraced family life, and your children are now grown, or maybe you've focused on your career and your relationships. You, your partner, and your friends are established in your careers, and retirement is within sight. Your friends lament about being empty nesters soon, but they are excited to relax, engage in hobbies, and travel as they look ahead.

However, this vision for your future does not feel right. You still have energy and love to share with children. Whether you are a parent already, or you desire to experience parenthood for the first time, you may question if adoption is still a possibility. Prospective adoptive parents in their 40s may wonder, "Am I too old to adopt?"   

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Topics: older parent adoption, am I too old to adopt?

What Happens When Adoptive Parents Change Their Minds?

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on January 2, 2020

Fernando and Angela Martin had struggled with infertility since they first decided to grow their family. They came to our adoption center two years ago to explore their options, but they were not quite ready to pursue adoption. Now, several failed infertility treatments and over $50,000 later, they were ready.  

It only took a few months to locate a birth mother for Fernando and Angela. The eager-to-be adoptive parents met their potential birth mother, Janette, and they really hit it off. Janette thought Fernando and Angela were perfect, and she chose them to become parents to her unborn baby. Shortly after, this adoption took a difficult turn.  

Adopting after infertility invites even more emotional intensity into the already complex adoption process. I saw this when Angela walked into my office one afternoon, anxious and unsure. She said she needed to talk.  

“Janette’s a great person,” she said. “Very positive and outgoing.”

“I knew you’d like each other,”  I replied.

“Yes,” she hesitated. “But we’re declining her offer.”

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, adoption match, adoption disruption

How to Make a Difference to Birth Mothers Facing Crisis

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 26, 2019

Since 1986, the Lifetime Adoption Foundation has helped children, babies, and mothers in need. The proceeds from your household donations go directly to these families-in-crisis. Every day, the Lifetime Adoption Foundation's mission is to assist pregnant women as they learn about adoption as an option for the precious life they are carrying. Through the blessing of families like yours, the Foundation can help, care, love, and support, knowing that Lifetime adoptive families are ready with open arms to embrace both mother and her child.

As you look toward your year-end giving, please consider a gift to Lifetime Adoption Foundation to help and bless birth mothers, like the one who will choose you to parent her sweet baby. Through college scholarships and laptops, the Foundation can directly assist birth mothers as they create a better future. Your tax-deductible gift can be mailed in or made directly online at LifetimeFoundation.org.

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Topics: Donations, tax-deductible donation, Lifetime Adoption Foundation, Support adoption, Lifetime Foundation, scholarships for birth mothers, birth mother scholarships

In the Adoption Wait? 7 Practical Tips to Get You Through the Holidays

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 19, 2019

The holidays are a time for celebration, spending time with loved ones, and making happy memories. But waiting adoptive parents might have a different experience. They may feel like they are missing something during the holidays, and it can be hard to explain to others exactly what it is. No matter when you are waiting to adopt a child, you can face ups and downs, but the holidays can make waiting feel even more difficult. I'd like to share 7 practical tips to help you deal with the stress of your adoption wait during the holidays!

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Topics: Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Christmas, how to handle the adoption wait

Is It My Fault I'm Still in the Adoption Wait?

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 12, 2019

Today's article comes to us from Elizabeth Laing Thompson, the author of When God Says, “Wait” and When God Says, “Go.” She writes at LizzyLife.com about clinging to Christ through the chaos of daily life. As a minister, speaker, and novelist, she loves finding humor in holiness and hope in heartache.

Elizabeth lives in North Carolina with her preacher husband and four spunky kids, and they were totally worth the wait. You can connect with Elizabeth on her author site, on Facebook, and on Instagram

The summer after our third anniversary, I turned to my husband and said, “And now, let there be babies!” Kevin looked at me with vague panic haunting his eyes, but said, “Okay! That sounds fun. I think?”  We expected to just get off birth control, light some candles, and four weeks later, do a happy dance around the bathroom, positive pregnancy test in hand—that’s how the grow-your-family thing seemed to be happening for all our friends. Only it didn’t happen that way for us.

Perhaps you began your adoption journey after a struggle with infertility; perhaps the Lord has simply put it on your heart to open your home to a child. Whichever route led you to pursue adoption, you must have quickly learned that the time table is out of your hands—and often involves a season of waiting. The complex and emotionally draining process of growing your family can seem to stop and start so many times you end up with whiplash—not just for your feelings, but also your faith!

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Topics: Christian Adoption, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait

Poetry on the Wait: God's Timing Brings the Perfect Fit

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 4, 2019

In domestic infant adoption, the wait to be chosen by a birth mother can be a challenge for hopeful adoptive parents. Recently, Tracy, an adoptive mother in-waiting, shared with us how Lifetime’s encouragement, support, and webinars have helped her.

Tracy, and her husband, Jamie, are actively waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. To prepare for their future adoption, Tracy attends monthly webinars. She shared how the support and encouragement of Lifetime's staff have helped her family, and how Lifetime’s adoption webinars inspire her to write during their wait. You’ll be inspired by hopeful adoptive mom Tracy’s uplifting adoption poem and honest feedback on how Lifetime's supportive staff have filled her with hope for her family's future:

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Topics: Adoption webinar, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, reviews of Lifetime Adoption, reviews of Lifetime Adoptions, adoption webinars, adoption poetry

How to Honor Your Open Adoption Agreement

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 27, 2019

Finally, the day you've been waiting for has arrived: it's time to bring home your newly adopted baby!

The days of searching and waiting are over, and it's time to begin a new season of life as a parent. Your entire family wants to meet this little one, and this is such a joyous occasion.

It's a very normal reaction to want to focus solely on bonding with your new child. Many families say they'd like to forget the adoption process: the paperwork, the interviews, the rejection, and the long wait. They desire to move on as a typical family. These are understandable feelings for adoptive parents. 

But, amid all your joy, you need to remember and respect the open adoption contact agreement you made with the birth mother. Honoring this agreement benefits the entire adoption triad (you, your child, and the birth family) in these ways:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, relationship with birth mother, open adoption questions, open adoption agreement, open adoption contact agreement

Do You Want to Be Pregnant or Be Parents?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2019

In the United States, 10% to 15% of couples face difficulty conceiving after trying for at least one year. While some of those couples will go on to have biological children, some will not. For many of these couples, moving from infertility to adoption helps them fulfill that part of their life where they feel something may be missing.

For many couples that contend with infertility and live out the daily struggle that comes with it, an important question emerges: do you want to be pregnant or do you want to be parents? It is difficult to determine when to forego fertility treatment and opt for adoption, especially after you have been trying for so long. Fortunately, this is a decision you can make in time. You just might need to take a few extra steps along the way.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments, fertility treatments to adoption

What to Expect at the Hospital When Your Baby is Born

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2019

After a long journey of deciding to adopt, completing paperwork, waiting for an adoption opportunity, and getting to know the birth mother, the big day is finally here – it’s time to meet your baby!

The trip to the hospital is the often most anticipated event in an adoptive family's journey. To help you prepare, we've put together this quick guide on your adoption hospital experience. We also answer some of the most common questions that adoptive parents have and share an exclusive adoption webinar about what to expect when your baby arrives!

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Topics: Infant adoption, Newborn Adoption, hospital preferences, hospital bag, adoption experience in the hospital, adoption hospital plan