Birth Parents Blog

4 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 19, 2018

Having an open adoption doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with their adoptive parents. And building a bond with them can be an awesome experience!

Here are four tips to help get you started on the path towards a strong, positive relationship with your child's adoptive family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption questions, what is open adoption like?

Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Baby's father, birth father, birth father rights

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, future contact, contact with my baby

An Interview With A Birth Mother: Why I Chose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 13, 2018

Today, we're sharing one woman's story of choosing adoption for her child. We were able to chat with a birth mother, Ashley, about her experience with open adoption. She gives an honest, intelligent and thought-provoking account of what it was like for her to choose adoption for her son.

Ashley expresses the role this choice has played in the lives of everyone involved. And, she optimistically looks toward the future of the unique relationship built by open adoption.

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, birth mother stories

"What if People Ask Me If I Have Kids?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 6, 2018

Many birth mothers have found it difficult to talk about their birth child with people they don’t know. Do you feel that the person asking if you have kids is someone you’d like to share your personal feelings with?

If you are OK with going into detail about your adoption plan, that's great. If not and you find it easier just to say “No,” it doesn't mean you’re denying you have a child. Don't feel guilty about answering "no."

If you haven't found a response you’re comfortable with, here are a few suggestions. One of these might work for you when you're asked: "Do you have any children?”

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Topics: Adoption story, adoption for my baby, contact with my baby, what is open adoption like?, post-adoption

See How Open Adoption Works in Real Life

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 11, 2018

Sometimes when you're right in the middle of your adoption planning process, it's hard to see what the future might look like.

Right now, you might be trying to decide what kind of contact you want to have later on with the adoptive family and your child. Or, you might be trying to picture what life would be like for your child with the adoptive couples you've picked.

So today, Lifetime is sharing a glimpse into how modern, open adoption can look in the real world. 

Watch this video of a heartfelt note that a birth mother wrote to her daughter, and the adoptive parents she chose through Lifetime! 

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, adoption for my baby

What to Expect When You Make an Adoption Plan

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 6, 2018

If you’re pregnant and curious about adoption for your baby, you're probably wondering what the process is like. Lifetime Adoption is here to help you every step of the way. We are available 24/7 to walk you through the process, which can seem confusing and complicated at first. Today, we're keeping things simple and breaking the process down into 5 steps. 

Here are the steps to take if you're making an adoption plan before your baby is born:

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Topics: adoption for my baby, unplanned pregnancy choices, unplanned pregnancy options, adopt out my baby, what is adoption like?, what is open adoption like?, how do I put my baby up for adoption?

Get the Inside Scoop on Modern Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 27, 2017

Modern adoption is different from how adoption was done decades ago. With an open, modern adoption, you're in the driver's seat. You have the power to pick your baby's adoptive parents, how much contact you'd like to have with them in the future, and how things go in the hospital. Many people out there say "open adoption" when they're talking about modern adoption

Today, Lifetime is giving you the inside scoop on what modern adoption is like! We're sharing what a few women who made a modern adoption plan have to say about it! We've removed everyone's names, for privacy reasons.

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Topics: adoption for my baby, adopt out my baby, adopt out my child, what is open adoption like?, what is adoption like?, Open Adoption, modern adoption

What to Do If You're Unsure About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 20, 2017

Would you like to find out more about placing your baby for adoption, but aren’t ready to talk about it just yet? You can email, text, or chat with Lifetime Adoption any time of the day or night.

We’ll help you decide what you need, and how Lifetime can help.

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Topics: Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, is adoption right for me, what is adoption like?, what is open adoption like?, is adoption selfish

6 Things Birth Mothers Love About Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 26, 2017

One of Lifetime's goals is to educate women who are considering adoption. We feel it's necessary that you're aware of all the choices and rights with modern open adoption.

And, we let you know that you're totally not alone as you think about making an adoption plan; many women have been where you are right now. So today, Lifetime is sharing what 6 women have said about adoption, and why they love open adoption. We've removed everyone's names, for privacy reasons.

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Topics: adoption for my baby, adopt out my baby, adopt out my child, what is open adoption like?, what is adoption like?, Open Adoption