"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.
I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"
Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.
Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption: