Birth Parents Blog

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to choose a couple who have adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, modern adoption, how to choose an adoptive family, contact with my baby, future contact, find a family

Experienced Adoptive Couple in the Portland Area Hope to Adopt Again!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 31, 2018

Meet Jeremy and Adela, an active, loving, and faithful family excited to adopt again! They'd love to have an open adoption with you including letters, photos, and visits, if you're comfortable. They live in the greater Portland area, where Jeremy's a physician assistant and Adela works part-time as a pharmacist.

Jeremy and Adela's younger son was adopted as a newborn and their oldest is biological. "We’ve always longed for adding a little girl into our family, and we feel the Lord stirring in our hearts to adopt!" say Jeremy and Adela. As a family, they enjoy traveling the world, camping, playing board games, and going on mission trips with their church.

Every night, Jeremy and Adela cook together, and then pray together as a family at the dinner table. Jeremy and Adela promise to love and support your child and to teach her about the Lord, how to be kind, and to accept everyone as they are. They promise that your daughter will always know her adoption story and how much she is loved by you. 

Keep reading to learn more about this experienced adoptive couple in the Portland area!

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, adoptive family from the West coast, adoptive family in the Pacific Northwest, Oregon adoptive couple, Oregon adoptive family

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, future contact

What Will the Couple Tell My Child About Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 12, 2018

"I'm due soon, and I just found out that I'm having a boy. How will the adoptive couple tell my child about me when he's older? How will they tell him that he's adopted?

I love my son so much already, and I don't want him to grow up thinking that I'm an evil person who just gave him up."

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Topics: Open Adoption, letter to my birth child, adoptive family for my baby, adoptee, adoption is love, open adoption questions

"How Much Contact Should I Have With My Baby After Delivery?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 24, 2018

Question: "I'm giving my baby up for adoption and I'm due any day now, so I'm trying to plan everything ahead of time.  It's making me really nervous. How much contact should I have with my baby after I deliver?"

Answer: The truth is, no one can tell you what’s right for you. Some birth moms want to hold their baby and look at him or her. Others feel that it'd be too hard, and choose not to have any contact at all. If you're giving your baby up for adoption, we'd like to share some tips with you today about how to decide!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Labor preparation, adopt out my baby, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, contact with my baby

The Top 5 Myths About Choosing Adoption for Your Child

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 3, 2018

(This post was originally published on our blog on October 17, 2017)

Choosing adoption for your child isn't easy. What makes it harder are all the harsh adoption myths shown in the media. It can get easy to forget what the adoption is about: creating a family.

If you're thinking about adoption, we want to share the truth on the top 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your child:

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Myths, Adoption for my child, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, adopt out my child, modern adoption

What to Expect When You Make an Adoption Plan (Part 2)

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 13, 2018

Today's blog post is a follow-up to last week's popular one, all about what you can expect when you make an adoption plan

Your baby’s birth will launch the final part of your adoption plan. It’s totally normal if during this time you feel tons of different emotions, such as sadness, anger, and confusion. Lifetime is definitely here to listen, and we encourage you to take advantage of the no-cost counseling available to you. Both while making an adoption plan AND after your adoption plan goes through, you get one-on-one counseling from a licensed therapist, and talk with other birth mothers who have been where you are now.

In today's post, we're sharing details about what happens in the last part of your adoption plan. So, here's what will go down:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption plan, open adoption visits, adoption placement

5 Birth Mothers Share Why They Love Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 16, 2018

Open adoption today is so different from how adoption worked decades ago. With an open, modern adoption plan, you're in the driver's seat. You're in control: you can choose your baby's adoptive parents, how things go at the hospital, and the amount of contact you'd like to have in the future. 

Today, we wanted to give you a glimpse of the benefits of open adoption and what it is like! We're sharing what five birth mothers say they love about open adoption. We've removed everyone's names for privacy.

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Topics: Open Adoption, choosing adoption for my baby, modern adoption, adoption is love

How Do I Know if Adoption is Right for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 26, 2018

If you’ve just been surprised by an unplanned pregnancy, you might be weighing your options. Let’s face it: being pregnant doesn’t always mean you are ready to be a mom. It’s hard to think that as much as you love your baby already, you might not feel ready to become a parent right now and may be considering giving your baby up for adoption.

It's important to make your decision based on what your life is like right now. Making an adoption plan for your baby is such a loving choice, but that doesn't mean it's not a hard one to make.

Today, Lifetime is giving you 5 questions to ask yourself if you’re wondering “is adoption right for me?”

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Book, parenting or adoption,, adoption or parenting, adopt out my baby

Parenting vs. Adoption: How Did I Decide?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 19, 2018

Today, we wanted to switch things up and let you hear from one of our birth moms!

In this guest blog post, she gives advice on how she came to realize that adoption was going to be the best choice for her:

"The decision of whether to make an adoption plan or to parent is without a doubt the toughest decision I've ever made in my life. I went through many sleepless nights and lots of thinking before I was finally able to see that adoption was the best decision. Not just for myself, but for my baby too given my situation. If I were to give anyone thinking about adoption any advice, it would be this...

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Topics: Open Adoption, How Does Adoption Work, parenting or adoption,, adoption or parenting, is adoption right for me