Birth Parents Blog

What Will the Couple Tell My Child About Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 12, 2018

"I'm due soon, and I just found out that I'm having a boy. How will the adoptive couple tell my child about me when he's older? How will they tell him that he's adopted?

I love my son so much already, and I don't want him to grow up thinking that I'm an evil person who just gave him up."

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Topics: Open Adoption, letter to my birth child, adoptive family for my baby, adoptee, adoption is love, open adoption questions

"How Much Contact Should I Have With My Baby After Delivery?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 24, 2018

Question: "I'm giving my baby up for adoption and I'm due any day now, so I'm trying to plan everything ahead of time.  It's making me really nervous. How much contact should I have with my baby after I deliver?"

Answer: The truth is, no one can tell you what’s right for you. Some birth moms want to hold their baby and look at him or her. Others feel that it'd be too hard, and choose not to have any contact at all. If you're giving your baby up for adoption, we'd like to share some tips with you today about how to decide!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Labor preparation, adopt out my baby, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, contact with my baby

The Top 5 Myths About Choosing Adoption for Your Child

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 3, 2018

(This post was originally published on our blog on October 17, 2017)

Choosing adoption for your child isn't easy. What makes it harder are all the harsh adoption myths shown in the media. It can get easy to forget what the adoption is about: creating a family.

If you're thinking about adoption, we want to share the truth on the top 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your child:

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Myths, Adoption for my child, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, adopt out my child, modern adoption

What to Expect When You Make an Adoption Plan (Part 2)

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 13, 2018

Today's blog post is a follow-up to last week's popular one, all about what you can expect when you make an adoption plan

Your baby’s birth will launch the final part of your adoption plan. It’s totally normal if during this time you feel tons of different emotions, such as sadness, anger, and confusion. Lifetime is definitely here to listen, and we encourage you to take advantage of the no-cost counseling available to you. Both while making an adoption plan AND after your adoption plan goes through, you get one-on-one counseling from a licensed therapist, and talk with other birth mothers who have been where you are now.

In today's post, we're sharing details about what happens in the last part of your adoption plan. So, here's what will go down:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption plan, open adoption visits, adoption placement

5 Birth Mothers Share Why They Love Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 16, 2018

Open adoption today is so different from how adoption worked decades ago. With an open, modern adoption plan, you're in the driver's seat. You're in control: you can choose your baby's adoptive parents, how things go at the hospital, and the amount of contact you'd like to have in the future. 

Today, we wanted to give you a glimpse of the benefits of open adoption and what it is like! We're sharing what five birth mothers say they love about open adoption. We've removed everyone's names for privacy.

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Topics: Open Adoption, choosing adoption for my baby, modern adoption, adoption is love

How Do I Know if Adoption is Right for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 26, 2018

If you’ve just been surprised by an unplanned pregnancy, you might be weighing your options. Let’s face it: being pregnant doesn’t always mean you are ready to be a mom. It’s hard to think that as much as you love your baby already, you might not feel ready to become a parent right now and may be considering giving your baby up for adoption.

It's important to make your decision based on what your life is like right now. Making an adoption plan for your baby is such a loving choice, but that doesn't mean it's not a hard one to make.

Today, Lifetime is giving you 5 questions to ask yourself if you’re wondering “is adoption right for me?”

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Book, parenting or adoption,, adoption or parenting, adopt out my baby

Parenting vs. Adoption: How Did I Decide?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 19, 2018

Today, we wanted to switch things up and let you hear from one of our birth moms!

In this guest blog post, she gives advice on how she came to realize that adoption was going to be the best choice for her:

"The decision of whether to make an adoption plan or to parent is without a doubt the toughest decision I've ever made in my life. I went through many sleepless nights and lots of thinking before I was finally able to see that adoption was the best decision. Not just for myself, but for my baby too given my situation. If I were to give anyone thinking about adoption any advice, it would be this...

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Topics: Open Adoption, How Does Adoption Work, parenting or adoption,, adoption or parenting, is adoption right for me

The Top 10 Do's and Don'ts When You're Thinking About Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2017

Deciding to make an adoption plan for your baby (or child) isn't an easy decision to make.  What has helped many women in your shoes is the knowledge that they're in the "driver's seat" with modern adoption.

With modern adoption, you're able to interview adoptive parents for your baby and hand-pick your top choice. You also have the right to stay in touch with the adoptive family and your child.  

 

Today, Lifetime's sharing our top 10 do's and don'ts to keep in mind if you're thinking about adoption:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, is adoption right for me, adopt out my child, thinking about adoption, modern adoption, adoption plan for my baby

Adoption Truth: Birth Fathers Can Have Part in Open Adoption Too

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 7, 2017

Does your baby's father want to stay in his child's life after the adoption happens? As one guy puts it, "My girlfriend thinks adoption is best for our baby, and she's probably right, but I still want to be a part of my child's life. I don't want to act like he never happened."

Today, we're talking about how your baby's father can be a part of making an adoption plan, and why it's beneficial to get him involved.

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Topics: Adoption, Open Adoption, Baby's father, birth father, birth father rights

How to Survive Work During Your Third Trimester

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 3, 2017

This post originally appeared on our blog a couple of years ago as "Working During Your Third Trimester? 6 Tips on How to Survive," and we've refreshed it for 2017.

During the last trimester of your pregnancy, you probably get tired so easily that it feels like a big accomplishment to do anything (like tying your shoes!) Even though it seems like every day brings a new and obnoxious side effect, you still have to arrive at your job on time and put in work.

Here are 6 quick tips on how to survive work when you're very pregnant:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption plan, working during pregnancy, pregnancy tips, third trimester