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The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy choices, adoption for my baby, Adoption for my child, is it too late to choose adoption?, birth mother videos, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, prenatal drug exposure, pregnant in jail, why do women choose adoption?

Why Did I Choose Adoption? Out of LOVE

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 7, 2018

“I fell in love with Matt my junior year of college and was very sure we’d be together for the rest of our lives. When I realized I was pregnant, I was soo happy at first. All of the love I felt for Matt went right to my baby.

But then, reality set in. How was I going to raise a baby, attend all my classes, write papers, study for finals, and keep a part-time job? How would I pay bills and pay for everything the baby needed on a part-time paycheck?

After meeting with a counselor at a pregnancy center in our town, I came to realize that adoption was probably going to be the answer. At first, Matt was totally against the idea, but later came to accept it when he realized we weren't ready to be parents.

Even though my relationship with Matt didn’t work out, I'll always have so much love for our daughter, Sophia. She was created in a beautiful light and I truly believe God was protecting her from the start. She was an absolute joy to carry, to give birth to, and to love. My connection and love for her will always exist. When people ask me why I chose adoption, the answer is simple. Out of LOVE!"

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Topics: adopt out my baby, why do women choose adoption?, modern adoption, Open Adoption

How to Make a Connection With the Family You Chose

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 30, 2018

So you've selected adoptive parents for your baby and decided to match with them. With modern adoption, you have choices on how you'd like to move forward with them during the rest of your pregnancy.

Since you'll be a part of each other’s lives for years to come, it's a good idea to get to know your child's adoptive parents throughout your pregnancy. This will allow you to feel positive in the decision you make.

Here are 4 ways you can connect with the adoptive couple:

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Topics: adoption match, Open Adoption, Communication, how to choose a family for my baby, how do I choose an adoptive family?, family for my baby, picking an adoptive family

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: adoption for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, Adoption story, birth mother stories

4 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 19, 2018

Having an open adoption doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with their adoptive parents. And building a bond with them can be an awesome experience!

Here are four tips to help get you started on the path towards a strong, positive relationship with your child's adoptive family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption questions, what is open adoption like?

The Top 5 Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 12, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and thinking about open adoption for your baby, you’re probably wrestling with a lot of questions. One that might come up, again and again, is simply, "why?" Why choose open adoption? What are the reasons why women choose adoption for their child?

The truth is, there aren’t any simple answers. At the end of the day, making an adoption plan is a personal choice that every woman needs to make on her own.

Birth mothers today decide on adoption out of love. They choose open adoption because they’re putting their child’s interests before their own. Today, we're exploring 5 common reasons why pregnant women turn to adoption:

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Topics: why do women choose adoption?, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, open adoption questions, Open Adoption

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to find a family that has adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: find a family, how to choose an adoptive family, Open Adoption, contact with my baby, future contact, modern adoption

Experienced Adoptive Couple in the Portland Area Hope to Adopt Again!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 31, 2018

Meet Jeremy and Adela, an active, loving, and faithful family excited to adopt again! They'd love to have an open adoption with you including letters, photos, and visits, if you're comfortable. They live in the greater Portland area, where Jeremy's a physician assistant and Adela works part-time as a pharmacist.

Jeremy and Adela's younger son was adopted as a newborn and their oldest is biological. "We’ve always longed for adding a little girl into our family, and we feel the Lord stirring in our hearts to adopt!" say Jeremy and Adela. As a family, they enjoy traveling the world, camping, playing board games, and going on mission trips with their church.

Every night, Jeremy and Adela cook together, and then pray together as a family at the dinner table. Jeremy and Adela promise to love and support your child and to teach her about the Lord, how to be kind, and to accept everyone as they are. They promise that your daughter will always know her adoption story and how much she is loved by you. 

Keep reading to learn more about this experienced adoptive couple in the Portland area!

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Topics: adoptive family in the Pacific Northwest, Oregon adoptive family, Oregon adoptive couple, adoptive family from the West coast, open adoption visits, Open Adoption

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, future contact, contact with my baby

What Will the Couple Tell My Child About Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 12, 2018

"I'm due soon, and I just found out that I'm having a boy. How will the adoptive couple tell my child about me when he's older? How will they tell him that he's adopted?

I love my son so much already, and I don't want him to grow up thinking that I'm an evil person who just gave him up."

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Topics: adoptive family for my baby, adoption is love, adoptee, open adoption questions, Open Adoption, letter to my birth child