Birth Parents Blog

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: adoption for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, Adoption story, birth mother stories

4 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 19, 2018

Having an open adoption doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with their adoptive parents. And building a bond with them can be an awesome experience!

Here are four tips to help get you started on the path towards a strong, positive relationship with your child's adoptive family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption questions, what is open adoption like?

The Top 5 Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 12, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and thinking about open adoption for your baby, you’re probably wrestling with a lot of questions. One that might come up, again and again, is simply, "why?" Why choose open adoption? What are the reasons why women choose adoption for their child?

The truth is, there aren’t any simple answers. At the end of the day, making an adoption plan is a personal choice that every woman needs to make on her own.

Birth mothers today decide on adoption out of love. They choose open adoption because they’re putting their child’s interests before their own. Today, we're exploring 5 common reasons why pregnant women turn to adoption:

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Topics: why do women choose adoption?, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, open adoption questions, Open Adoption

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to choose a couple who have adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: find a family, how to choose an adoptive family, Open Adoption, contact with my baby, future contact, modern adoption

Experienced Adoptive Couple in the Portland Area Hope to Adopt Again!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 31, 2018

Meet Jeremy and Adela, an active, loving, and faithful family excited to adopt again! They'd love to have an open adoption with you including letters, photos, and visits, if you're comfortable. They live in the greater Portland area, where Jeremy's a physician assistant and Adela works part-time as a pharmacist.

Jeremy and Adela's younger son was adopted as a newborn and their oldest is biological. "We’ve always longed for adding a little girl into our family, and we feel the Lord stirring in our hearts to adopt!" say Jeremy and Adela. As a family, they enjoy traveling the world, camping, playing board games, and going on mission trips with their church.

Every night, Jeremy and Adela cook together, and then pray together as a family at the dinner table. Jeremy and Adela promise to love and support your child and to teach her about the Lord, how to be kind, and to accept everyone as they are. They promise that your daughter will always know her adoption story and how much she is loved by you. 

Keep reading to learn more about this experienced adoptive couple in the Portland area!

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Topics: adoptive family in the Pacific Northwest, Oregon adoptive family, Oregon adoptive couple, adoptive family from the West coast, open adoption visits, Open Adoption

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, future contact, contact with my baby

What Will the Couple Tell My Child About Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 12, 2018

"I'm due soon, and I just found out that I'm having a boy. How will the adoptive couple tell my child about me when he's older? How will they tell him that he's adopted?

I love my son so much already, and I don't want him to grow up thinking that I'm an evil person who just gave him up."

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Topics: adoptive family for my baby, adoption is love, adoptee, open adoption questions, Open Adoption, letter to my birth child

"How Much Contact Should I Have With My Baby After Delivery?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 24, 2018

Question: "I'm giving my baby up for adoption and I'm due any day now, so I'm trying to plan everything ahead of time.  It's making me really nervous. How much contact should I have with my baby after I deliver?"

Answer: The truth is, no one can tell you what’s right for you. Some birth moms want to hold their baby and look at him or her. Others feel that it'd be too hard, and choose not to have any contact at all. If you're giving your baby up for adoption, we'd like to share some tips with you today about how to decide!

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Topics: Open Adoption, contact with my baby, adoption experience in the hospital, hospital preferences, adopt out my baby, Labor preparation

The Top 5 Myths About Choosing Adoption for Your Child

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 3, 2018

(This post was originally published on our blog on October 17, 2017)

Choosing adoption for your child isn't easy. What makes it harder are all the harsh adoption myths shown in the media. It can get easy to forget what the adoption is about: creating a family.

If you're thinking about adoption, we want to share the truth on the top 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your child:

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Topics: Adoption Myths, Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, adopt out my baby, adopt out my child, modern adoption, Open Adoption

What to Expect When You Make an Adoption Plan (Part 2)

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 13, 2018

Today's blog post is a follow-up to last week's popular one, all about what you can expect when you make an adoption plan

Your baby’s birth will launch the final part of your adoption plan. It’s totally normal if during this time you feel tons of different emotions, such as sadness, anger, and confusion. Lifetime is definitely here to listen, and we encourage you to take advantage of the no-cost counseling available to you. Both while making an adoption plan AND after your adoption plan goes through, you get one-on-one counseling from a licensed therapist, and talk with other birth mothers who have been where you are now.

In today's post, we're sharing details about what happens in the last part of your adoption plan. So, here's what will go down:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption plan, open adoption visits, adoption placement