Birth Parents Blog

"Can I see my baby after giving her up for adoption?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 1, 2019

There are plenty of misunderstandings out there about adoption. The most common one might be this: that when a woman chooses adoption, she is “giving up.” It’s such a commonly used phrase that you may not have noticed it. Even though it's used often, "giving up a baby” for adoption misses the point. When a woman chooses adoption, she is not “giving away” her baby.

Adoption comes from a place of love. If you’re thinking about adoption, you know this. You have an enormous amount of love for your baby. You have hopes and dreams for your baby, and adoption seems like the best way to give him or her the chance to grow and thrive.

But with all the love you have, you probably don’t want to lose the link to your baby, even when you know adoption is the best choice. You might be wondering, “If I give my baby up for adoption, do I still get to see her or him?”

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, what is open adoption like?, modern adoption

"Can I spend time with my baby at the hospital?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 8, 2019

Question: "I'm 35 weeks pregnant so I've started to make my birth plan, and I've toured the hospital I'll deliver at. After I give birth, I'm adopting out my baby. It's been a real tough decision to make, but I know it's what's best for her. Can I spend time with my baby at the hospital?"

Answer: You have the right to spend as much time as you wish with your baby in the hospital after you give birth. You'll have lots of options for your adoption hospital experience. For example, if you want your hospital stay to be a special one that includes just you and your baby, that can be arranged. Or, you might like to spend time together with your baby and the adoptive family. It’s up to you and what you feel comfortable with.

It's common for women choosing adoption to worry about how things will go down at the hospital. The more you can prepare and plan ahead, the more confident you will feel. That's why at Lifetime we encourage you to create what's called an "adoption hospital plan."

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Topics: Open Adoption, Labor preparation, hospital preferences, adopting out my baby, adoption experience in the hospital, preparing for labor

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular birth parent adoption blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Open Adoption, Adoption for my child, adoption for my baby, prenatal drug exposure, birth mother videos, what is open adoption like?, is it too late to choose adoption?, unplanned pregnancy choices, why do women choose adoption?, pregnant in jail

Why Did I Choose Adoption? Out of LOVE

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 7, 2018

“I fell in love with Matt my junior year of college and was very sure we’d be together for the rest of our lives. When I realized I was pregnant, I was soo happy at first. All of the love I felt for Matt went right to my baby.

But then, reality set in. How was I going to raise a baby, attend all my classes, write papers, study for finals, and keep a part-time job? How would I pay bills and pay for everything the baby needed on a part-time paycheck?

After meeting with a counselor at a pregnancy center in our town, I came to realize that adoption was probably going to be the answer. At first, Matt was totally against the idea, but later came to accept it when he realized we weren't ready to be parents.

Even though my relationship with Matt didn’t work out, I'll always have so much love for our daughter, Sophia. She was created in a beautiful light and I truly believe God was protecting her from the start. She was an absolute joy to carry, to give birth to, and to love. My connection and love for her will always exist. When people ask me why I chose adoption, the answer is simple. Out of LOVE!"

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Topics: Open Adoption, adopt out my baby, modern adoption, why do women choose adoption?

How to Make a Connection With the Family You Chose

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 30, 2018

So you've selected adoptive parents for your baby and decided to match with them. With modern adoption, you have choices on how you'd like to move forward with them during the rest of your pregnancy.

Since you'll be a part of each other’s lives for years to come, it's a good idea to get to know your child's adoptive parents throughout your pregnancy. This will allow you to feel positive in the decision you make.

Here are 4 ways you can connect with the adoptive couple:

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Topics: Open Adoption, Communication, family for my baby, picking an adoptive family, adoption match, how do I choose an adoptive family?, how to choose a family for my baby

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption story, adoption for my baby, National Adoption Awareness Month, birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?, how to choose an adoptive family

4 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 19, 2018

Having an open adoption doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with their adoptive parents. And building a bond with them can be an awesome experience!

Here are four tips to help get you started on the path towards a strong, positive relationship with your child's adoptive family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, open adoption questions

The Top 5 Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 12, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and thinking about open adoption for your baby, you’re probably wrestling with a lot of questions. One that might come up, again and again, is simply, "why?" Why choose open adoption? What are the reasons why women choose adoption for their child?

The truth is, there aren’t any simple answers. At the end of the day, making an adoption plan is a personal choice that every woman needs to make on her own.

Birth mothers today decide on adoption out of love. They choose open adoption because they’re putting their child’s interests before their own. Today, we're exploring 5 common reasons why pregnant women turn to adoption:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, why do women choose adoption?, open adoption questions

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to find a family that has adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, modern adoption, how to choose an adoptive family, contact with my baby, future contact, find a family

Experienced Adoptive Couple in the Portland Area Hope to Adopt Again!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 31, 2018

Meet Jeremy and Adela, an active, loving, and faithful family excited to adopt again! They'd love to have an open adoption with you including letters, photos, and visits, if you're comfortable. They live in the greater Portland area, where Jeremy's a physician assistant and Adela works part-time as a pharmacist.

Jeremy and Adela's younger son was adopted as a newborn and their oldest is biological. "We’ve always longed for adding a little girl into our family, and we feel the Lord stirring in our hearts to adopt!" say Jeremy and Adela. As a family, they enjoy traveling the world, camping, playing board games, and going on mission trips with their church.

Every night, Jeremy and Adela cook together, and then pray together as a family at the dinner table. Jeremy and Adela promise to love and support your child and to teach her about the Lord, how to be kind, and to accept everyone as they are. They promise that your daughter will always know her adoption story and how much she is loved by you. 

Keep reading to learn more about this experienced adoptive couple in the Portland area!

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, adoptive family from the West coast, adoptive family in the Pacific Northwest, Oregon adoptive couple, Oregon adoptive family