Birth Parents Blog

"How Much Contact Should I Have With My Baby After Delivery?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 24, 2018

Question: "I'm giving my baby up for adoption and I'm due any day now, so I'm trying to plan everything ahead of time.  It's making me really nervous. How much contact should I have with my baby after I deliver?"

Answer: The truth is, no one can tell you what’s right for you. Some birth moms want to hold their baby and look at him or her. Others feel that it'd be too hard, and choose not to have any contact at all. If you're giving your baby up for adoption, we'd like to share some tips with you today about how to decide!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Labor preparation, adopt out my baby, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, contact with my baby

20 Questions You Should Ask At Your Hospital Tour

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 2, 2018

Getting ready for your baby's delivery is emotionally and physically challenging. And when you've made an adoption plan, things can get really overwhelming. The good news is that you can calm some of your jitters by taking a hospital tour for pregnancy where you plan to deliver at.

A hospital tour for pregnancy pays off in many ways. You’ll be able to meet some of the staff who will be helping you during your hospital stay. Many women find it reassuring to see a familiar face when their contractions are getting intense!

Plus, it's nice to be able to talk to the hospital's social worker about your adoption plan ahead of time, and share how'd like your birth plan to go. Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will be supporting you, too: she'll get in touch with the hospital around six weeks before your due date, to find out how their process works and provide the necessary paperwork.

Today, Lifetime is sharing 20 hospital tour questions you might ask. Whether or not you ask all of these questions depends on your adoption hospital plan and your level of openness, but they'll definitely give you an idea of how you want things to go. 

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Topics: hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, preparing for labor

This Birth Mom’s Viral Video for Her Son Will Touch Your Heart

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 15, 2018

Hannah was 18 when she discovered she was pregnant. And after the death of her boyfriend, she decided to make an adoption plan for their baby boy. Just a few hours before the adoption became official, Hannah recorded a video for her son, letting him know that she will always love him. 

In her emotional video, which is featured on People Magazine’s website and The Today Show’s site, she says "I thought I would make this video for you instead of writing a letter because it's real and it’s in the moment."

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Topics: adoption video,, hospital preferences, letter to my birth child, birth child, birth mother videos, adoption experience in the hospital, contact with my baby

How to Create a Hospital Plan That Works For You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 8, 2017

Giving birth is an emotionally and physically challenging process. So, getting ready for your baby’s delivery can be a nervous and anxious time. When you add adoption into the mix, things can become even more overwhelming.

That’s why we encourage you to create an adoption hospital plan in advance. Today, we're giving you info all about how you can make one that works for you!

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Topics: free adoption book, Labor preparation, birth plan, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, So I Was Thinking About Adoption

"Can I See and Hold My Baby After Delivery?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 28, 2017

Question: “I'm 17 and 7 months pregnant. I don’t have a decent job or support from my parents or the father of the baby. So, I'm doing adoption. I found a couple who are so nice and will adopt my baby. They’ll be able to really spoil her, and give her everything she needs and wants.

But, I'm having second thoughts. When I lie awake at night thinking, and she's kicking me...I just start crying, thinking about giving her to someone else is really hard. Someone else holding her, going to another mom when she cries, someone else calling her their baby, not mine.

Will I be able to hold her at the hospital, or will they just take her away? I know I have to give her up in adoption, for a better life. Am I just being totally selfish with my thoughts and feelings? What’s the best way to get a grip and move past something this big, without literally going nuts?"

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Topics: Open Adoption, Give up my baby, hospital preferences, give my baby up for adoption, adoption experience in the hospital, modern adoption

Planning for Your Adoption Experience in the Hospital

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 31, 2017

Getting ready for your baby’s delivery can be a nervous and anxious time. Creating an adoption plan & preparing your hospital bag are just a few examples of things that can help you prepare a little ahead of time, so that you have less to think about when your contractions start, or when your doctor wants you to start the labor process.

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Topics: free adoption book, Labor preparation, birth plan, hospital preferences, adoption experience in the hospital, So I Was Thinking About Adoption

Your Adoption Hospital Experience: the Choices Are Yours

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 26, 2015

It's your totally your choice how things will go at the hospital for your delivery (also known as "hospital preferences" or a "birth plan".)

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Topics: Labor preparation, birth plan, hospital preferences