Birth Parents Blog

Tackling the Holidays as a Birth Mom: Grappling Through Grief and Loss

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 18, 2018

Adrian C. Collins is both a birth mom and an adoptive mom, and she writes and speaks about the complexities of adoption. In today's guest post, Adrian shares real-life tips on getting through grief during the holidays, as a birth mom.

Our family is a huge fan of the CBS television show, The Amazing Race, where teams embark on a trek around the world to compete for a one million dollar prize. At every destination, each team must compete in a series of challenges, and only when the tasks are completed will they learn of their next destination.

In one challenge, partners were asked to play a round of volleyball against professional players in Estonia and only had to score five points to complete the challenge before finishing that leg of the race. Some assumed the challenge to be a breeze. What teams didn’t realize, was that they were playing volleyball in mud. The mud was so deep it rose to players’ waistline and so thick it caused participants to become stuck. As the opponents balls whizzed past, contestants could only stand in one place. They became entrenched by circumstances. 

As a birth mom, I’ve often felt wedged by grief during the holiday season. A million little things are whizzing by—and I’m grasping for joy, peace and love—but instead I feel anchored by loss. Unable to move. Unable to catch my breath. Unable to celebrate.

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Topics: Holidays, life after adoption, post-adoption, postadoption depression, why do women choose adoption?, contact with my baby, adoption and loss, adoption grief

How to Face Thanksgiving if You Have an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you might be wondering how you'll handle your family member’s reactions at Thanksgiving. When you arrive at Thanksgiving dinner with a baby bump, how will you answer their questions?

Being with family during the holidays can be intense, and might bring up issues. Since you're facing a crisis, you might have a difficult time getting "into" all the holiday cheer around you.

Know that you're not alone. Many women have been where you're at, and have felt like you're feeling right now. So today, we're giving you some ideas and tips for you on how you might handle Thanksgiving with an unplanned pregnancy!

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Adoption for my child, Holidays, adoption for my baby, hiding my pregnancy

Your Quick Guide to Thanksgiving Dinner

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2017

Thanksgiving marks the start of the holiday season, which for some is also the busiest time of year.  All of the decorating, cooking, planning, and gift shopping can stress anyone out. So, it’s easy to get overwhelmed, especially when you’re pregnant. 

Since being pregnant can weaken your immune system and leave you exhausted, today's post is all about helping you get through Thanksgiving in the healthiest way possible!

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Holidays, food to avoid when pregnant, foods to avoid when pregnant

10 Terrific Tips for Thanksgiving Dinner When You’re Pregnant

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 22, 2016

When you’re pregnant and eating for two, Thanksgiving can be a dream. But before you take advantage of dining on all the delicious food this Turkey Day, make sure the food you’re enjoying is safe for your baby. Go back for seconds when you’ve got a bun in the oven, but check out these 10 Thanksgiving foods to watch out for:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, Holidays, food to avoid when pregnant, foods to avoid when pregnant

How to Handle the Holidays if You’ve Chosen Adoption - Part Two

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 1, 2015

You may remember that we posted last Saturday with tips and advice for how to handle the holidays when you've chosen adoption. Today, we continue in our two-part series...

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Topics: Baby's father, Holidays, adoption for my baby, baby's dad

How to Handle the Holidays if You’ve Chosen Adoption - Part One

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 28, 2015

If you’re already decided that adoption is the right choice for you, you might be wondering how to handle family member’s questions during the holidays. When you go to Christmas and holiday parties and are “showing”, how will you respond to their questions?

We’ve put together a few ideas and tips for you on you might handle this situation.

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Topics: Adoption Tips, teen pregnancy, Holidays, adoption for my baby, pregnancy tips

Pregnant? 6 Great Tips to Get you Through Thanksgiving Dinner

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 24, 2015

If you're pregnant, you’re probably gotten lots of advice about what not to eat during pregnancy: under cooked meat, soft cheeses, too much caffeine, etc. So, here’s a quick list of tips to help you through Thanksgiving dinner when you’re pregnant:

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Topics: Pregnancy, Holidays, Healthy pregnancy, pregnancy tips