Birth Parents Blog

"I'm an addict...adoption was the best choice I ever made!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 7, 2018

As opioid abuse has risen in recent years, conversations about addiction have moved out of the shadows. Today, we hear from one woman, who wishes to remain anonymous, about her experience with addiction. 

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Topics: Give up my baby, prenatal drug exposure, substance use during pregnancy, addiction and adoption, opioid crisis and adoption

"Why do I have to answer so many questions to give up my baby?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 10, 2018

"I'm 25 weeks along, and my gut instinct has been telling me that placing this baby up for adoption is going to be best. Since I'm already raising two kids with no support from their dads, I have no idea how I'd afford to feed another mouth.  :(

Yesterday, I went on your site to get started with my baby's adoption and fill out the paperwork. Why do I have to answer so many questions to give up my baby for adoption?"

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Topics: Give up my baby, place my baby up for adoption, adoption paperwork, adoption plan for my baby

Is Adoption Really Free for Pregnant Women?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 17, 2018

Some of the women we talk to are turning to adoption because they already have kids and just can't afford to feed another mouth. Others are choosing adoption because becoming a mom is out of the question, and they don't believe in abortion.

No matter your situation, deciding if adoption's right for you is an emotional process. And you might be wondering "how much does it cost to adopt out my baby?"

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Topics: Adoption Fees, Give up my baby, adoption plan, adopt out my baby, free adoption counseling, place my baby up for adoption

What If He Says NO to the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2018

"I'm 17 and I just found out I'm pregnant! Since my boyfriend and I are still in high school, I think adoption is going to be the best choice. But he gets mad at me if I bring it up, so I don't think he'll agree to doing adoption. What can I do if he says no to the adoption?"

We get asked this type of question a lot, and this is a very common situation. So, know that you're not alone, because many women have been where you are right now. Read on to get some tips on what to do if he's totally against adoption.

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Topics: Baby's father, Give up my baby, adopt my baby, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, baby's dad, father of my baby

Post-Adoption Support, Healing, and Hope

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 9, 2018

Your adoption story doesn’t just end after you leave the hospital or when the adoption becomes final. Adoption is a lifelong journey that's just starting now.

While it'll take a few weeks to recover physically from giving birth, the emotional recovery can be a whole other story. Many birth mothers find that the first few weeks are very difficult, and need post-adoption support. Emotions are raw, and the feelings of grief are intense.

It’s totally normal to feel sad after your adoption plan happens, and your child is with their adoptive family. Today, Lifetime is sharing a general timeline of what to expect in the first year after placement. Keep in mind that every woman's experience with adoption is going to be different; no two grieving processes are the same.

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Topics: counseling pregnancy, adoption counseling, Adoption process, Give up my baby, adoption for my baby, adoption placement

5 Reasons to Consider Making an Adoption Plan

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 11, 2017

Seeing that positive pregnancy test can be exciting...unless it isn’t. Maybe you feel like you’re too young to be a mom, are in the middle of college, or already have kids and just can’t handle another mouth to feed. Whatever is stressing you out about pregnancy and raising a child, there are really good reasons to think about adoption, and creating an adoption plan.

If you’ve never heard the term “adoption plan,” it means the process of placing a baby up for adoption. It isn’t “giving my baby away.” It’s a well thought-out plan for making sure you and baby both have the best chance at life.

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Topics: Adoption for my child, Give up my baby, adoption plan, Giving Baby up for Adoption, adopt out my baby, modern adoption

"Can I See and Hold My Baby After Delivery?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 28, 2017

Question: “I'm 17 and 7 months pregnant. I don’t have a decent job or support from my parents or the father of the baby. So, I'm doing adoption. I found a couple who are so nice and will adopt my baby. They’ll be able to really spoil her, and give her everything she needs and wants.

But, I'm having second thoughts. When I lie awake at night thinking, and she's kicking me...I just start crying, thinking about giving her to someone else is really hard. Someone else holding her, going to another mom when she cries, someone else calling her their baby, not mine.

Will I be able to hold her at the hospital, or will they just take her away? I know I have to give her up in adoption, for a better life. Am I just being totally selfish with my thoughts and feelings? What’s the best way to get a grip and move past something this big, without literally going nuts?"

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Topics: Open Adoption, Give up my baby, hospital preferences, give my baby up for adoption, adoption experience in the hospital, modern adoption

Pregnant and Living With Your Parents? [VIDEO]

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 10, 2017

If you live with your parents and just found out you're pregnant, you're probably freaking out right now. Breaking the news to them can be hard. Here's a short video that shares some tips on how to tell your parents you’re pregnant:

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Topics: Give up my baby, Pregnant and considering Adoption, adopt my baby, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, tell my parents i'm pregnant, thinking about adoption

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me? [VIDEO]

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 27, 2016

If you’re thinking about adoption, it’s common to ask yourself, “how do I know I’m doing the right thing?”  

Check out this short video below to learn more about open adoption:

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Topics: Open Adoption, Give up my baby, adopt my baby, adopt out my baby, open adoption visits, adoption for my baby, is adoption right for me

I've Used Drugs While Pregnant. Can I Choose Adoption? [VIDEO]

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 2, 2016

Question: "I'm so embarrassed to confess this, but I used recreational drugs during my pregnancy. I'm thinking about adoption but worried that it's not a choice I can make. Are there any couples who'd want to adopt a baby who's mom used drugs?"

Check out this short video to learn the answer, and about your choices with open adoption if you've used drugs during your pregnancy:

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Topics: Drugs, Open Adoption, Give up my baby, adopt my baby, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, prenatal drug exposure, drug-exposed baby